Dating and Race

[Dat Dude]

Apr 2, 2012 20:14:01 GMT -5 Codebreaker said:

Apr 2, 2012 15:51:07 GMT -5 Dat Dude said:

Now, there have were a few of times where I've asked out a woman of a different race (white, asian) where she would admit to me she wasn't interested due to having no attraction to black men. Fair enough, attraction to the familiar is not puzzling. What is puzzling are the times I've asked out some sistas (very few, but not all) and they've said they'd only date white men and would never date a black guy.

Aren't these both essentially the same thing though, just reversed? Someone having a preference, or only being attracted to certain types of people?

It is, but dealing with some harsh incidents with racism in the past, I wasn't exactly shocked. Not to say that they were racist, it's just I'm conditioned to be judged by others based on race, but not so much other black folks. I get people can be weird at times, so no need for me to dwell on it any longer.

[AFN: Judge Shred]

Whatever is clever to me. The odds of finding some one I like is so slim, why create more barriers.

I did feel a little weird when I see this thread and the next post down made it say this "Dating and Race; I hate tans"

That was wrong, so very wrong.

[agent817]

I am personally open to women of any ethnic background. However, I often wonder why some people choose to date within their on background. I am a hispanic guy, Mexican at that. However, I am fair-skinned and some people have thought that I was white in the past. I sometimes wonder if I have met a girl who dates only white guys would say if she found out that I wasn't white. Of course, if she already liked me, I don't think it would matter, but still.

I have talked to a few girls before who were mixed. One was white and Puerto Rican, another was white and Mexican, and one who I actually dated was Mexican, Portuguese, and Miwuk (Spell? It's a Native American tribe).

[worldsstrongestman]

Apr 2, 2012 18:37:23 GMT -5 rapidfire187 said:

I think that when someone is only attracted to one race, it's more to do with physical attractiveness than anything else. Personally, I'm open to all races though some seem to have more hot women than others. When I say "hot", I mean in my own opinion of course.

Oh and I have a female cousin who went black AND came back. You don't see that too often. Wait, that sounds like I'm saying black guys kill their white girlfriends. I just mean that she f***s whitey now.

Damn, you found out our secret!

[Dave the Dave]

I know a girl who won't date black guys because if she stays with him and has kids, and they're daughter, she won't know how to do their hair.

It seems crazy, but it's a much better reason than I was expecting.

[Danimal]

Apr 2, 2012 16:45:14 GMT -5 Dat Dude said:

Apr 2, 2012 16:42:53 GMT -5 @personman01 said:

That's a very strange occurance because in my experience black women usually want to only date black men. But that was back in college so maybe it was just a phase.

Oh, I've seen a lot more of that as well too sadly.

I have no problem with interracial dating, I had the rainbow back in my day, but I do think it's sad when people won't give folks of their own race a try.

[DSR]

Apr 2, 2012 18:37:23 GMT -5 rapidfire187 said:

Oh and I have a female cousin who went black AND came back. You don't see that too often. Wait, that sounds like I'm saying black guys kill their white girlfriends. I just mean that she f***s whitey now.

Dammit, yet another thing porn has lied to me about! I thought we were cool, porn!

[Back to being Cenanuff]

Cultural differences are a factor as well. Statistics show that the black experience of growing up is one where male role models aren't as prevalent as they are in other races. It makes it so that mothers have to play both roles more often, and generally tend to be more overbearing as a result. This leads to the female children growing up learning these behaviors, and male children growing up fearing these behaviors, and that affects what they look for in a partner. Hispanic experience is different from that. White experience is different from both. Asian experience is different, but similar to the white experence, etc. Bottom line is, the circumstances around how you were raised is going to be a big factor in determining what you look for.

[Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster]

Well my partner is Korean but other than having to deal with the occasional moron who has accused me of having yellow fever or some Asian guy who says I'm stealing their women I can't really say much.

But I will admit I've come across way too many creepy white guys who have a unhealthy fixation for Asian women.

[Long A, Short A]

Frankly, it all depends on the individual woman. My cousin and I date outside of our race, but our reasons behind it are different. My cousin is a college educated professional that's attracted to men with features that she doesn't have. I'm a disabled artist who just happens to be attracted to men who aren't black. There are other reasons I don't dig on black men, but I don't have the emotional time to do so.

[Can you afford to pay me, Gah]

I never really cared about race. I've been attracted too them all. Most of it for me is personality. If we like a lot of the samethings. I'm going to be more interested in you. Skin color plays little in my world. It's how you act inside.