Post by Yami Daimao on Aug 21, 2012 18:32:34 GMT -5
Fair warning, it's a bit of a read.
Alright, so here I go:
For the last 4 years I've been experiencing an on-again, off-again case of depression. I'm 23 years old, I still live at home, and I've been unemployed for almost 3 years now. Over that span I've applied to over roughly 200 jobs, to which I've gotten rejection letters and no responses, despite my numerous calls checking on the process. Yes, believe it or not, no one wants to hire me, apparently. I feel like at this rate, I'll never land anything. It's extremely frustrating. But that's just scratching the surface.
I've tried applying to school, hoping maybe if I at least can't land a job, I could always try later with a better education. Turns out I'm not qualified for any kind of grant, just a loan, which I won't be able to pay-off due to not having any income. I'm too proud to ask my mother for help, on top of the fact that she's busy with medical bills from her treatments for cervical cancer (she's doing a lot better now, but she's not out of the woods). The stress and worry for her life does not help my situation at all.
I have very few friends (I don't mind), but their idea of fun is going to clubs and stuff, and that's just not my scene, never was, never will. So my social life isn't all that great, especially since I wouldn't be able to bring myself into meeting new people or get into a relationship without the confidence of having some sort of steady job and a life. I'm sick of my hometown. I've lived here all my life and I'm tired of seeing the same buildings and people. I wanna get out, but financially, I can't. That in itself is depressing.
A minor issue I feel I need to express is my sexual orientation. I know for a fact I like women, but sometimes I look at an attractive male and then a whole surge of thoughts and emotions come to me. The idea of liking men doesn't bother me, or so I might think, as it appears I'm subconsciously fighting that feeling while trying to understand if it's my true feelings or not. I don't understand any of it, and what I can't understand, bugs me.
I just feel absolutely worthless. A waste of space. Nothing I do ever works out for me. I've never spoken about my issues with anyone, because I know regardless of their encouragement, no one will really understand, and looking at their judgmental faces will only make things worse. I'm not going to deny that, a few times, I've lost hope and thought about just ending it. Luckily, common sense soon kicked in and those thoughts would quickly disappear, only to come back again at another time. But I'm pretty sure I at least know myself enough not to end my life when everything is absolute shit. However, the human mind can be unpredictable.
I need to express how I feel in SOME form, because any longer and I would completely lose myself. I might have "cried out" a couple of times on Twitter, but I've learned that not everyone actually pays attention to what you say on there. It's why I'm letting everything out here.
This forum has been like a safe haven for me. An escape from my problems. A second home. Friendly strangers that I never have to publicly face, and never have to read their faces. Just text. However, I feel like I annoy some of you. I've never been flat out told "You annoy me" (at least nothing that I've seen), but I get that impression judging some responses, or should I say lack of. I have a suspicion that I'm overreacting for nothing, but I still can't shake off that feeling. I try to socialize with all of you, to truly be a part of this little family you guys have, however, I feel like my attempts are in vain. I sometimes feel like I'm invisible here. I continue to hope that I'm wrong.
Now it looks like my depression has caused me to act out on here too. Last night I kind of lashed out on a poster who I felt was insulting me (still do in some way). Normally I wouldn't even react at all, but when I did, I was later surprised at my reaction, and a little worried. Then just the other week, I was close to throwing a fit after someone beat me to making a discussion thread that I was REALLY looking forward to making, about a subject that I absolutely love (though I should add they did make it before the last one hit 30 pages). I'm fully aware that it's childish and petty, but at the time, I was almost livid. I HATE that something as simple as creating a topic got to me the way it did, and it's something I'm going to try to put an end to. To that person (you know who you are), if you read this, no hard feelings.
Anyways, I'm going to stop here before I ramble on too much and go off-track. I think I've said everything I needed to say. I'm not looking for pity, I only felt like I absolutely needed to get that off my chest.
If you've made it this far; thank you. I'm just happy I'm finally able to share this to somebody.
Alright, so here I go:
For the last 4 years I've been experiencing an on-again, off-again case of depression. I'm 23 years old, I still live at home, and I've been unemployed for almost 3 years now. Over that span I've applied to over roughly 200 jobs, to which I've gotten rejection letters and no responses, despite my numerous calls checking on the process. Yes, believe it or not, no one wants to hire me, apparently. I feel like at this rate, I'll never land anything. It's extremely frustrating. But that's just scratching the surface.
I've tried applying to school, hoping maybe if I at least can't land a job, I could always try later with a better education. Turns out I'm not qualified for any kind of grant, just a loan, which I won't be able to pay-off due to not having any income. I'm too proud to ask my mother for help, on top of the fact that she's busy with medical bills from her treatments for cervical cancer (she's doing a lot better now, but she's not out of the woods). The stress and worry for her life does not help my situation at all.
I have very few friends (I don't mind), but their idea of fun is going to clubs and stuff, and that's just not my scene, never was, never will. So my social life isn't all that great, especially since I wouldn't be able to bring myself into meeting new people or get into a relationship without the confidence of having some sort of steady job and a life. I'm sick of my hometown. I've lived here all my life and I'm tired of seeing the same buildings and people. I wanna get out, but financially, I can't. That in itself is depressing.
A minor issue I feel I need to express is my sexual orientation. I know for a fact I like women, but sometimes I look at an attractive male and then a whole surge of thoughts and emotions come to me. The idea of liking men doesn't bother me, or so I might think, as it appears I'm subconsciously fighting that feeling while trying to understand if it's my true feelings or not. I don't understand any of it, and what I can't understand, bugs me.
I just feel absolutely worthless. A waste of space. Nothing I do ever works out for me. I've never spoken about my issues with anyone, because I know regardless of their encouragement, no one will really understand, and looking at their judgmental faces will only make things worse. I'm not going to deny that, a few times, I've lost hope and thought about just ending it. Luckily, common sense soon kicked in and those thoughts would quickly disappear, only to come back again at another time. But I'm pretty sure I at least know myself enough not to end my life when everything is absolute shit. However, the human mind can be unpredictable.
I need to express how I feel in SOME form, because any longer and I would completely lose myself. I might have "cried out" a couple of times on Twitter, but I've learned that not everyone actually pays attention to what you say on there. It's why I'm letting everything out here.
This forum has been like a safe haven for me. An escape from my problems. A second home. Friendly strangers that I never have to publicly face, and never have to read their faces. Just text. However, I feel like I annoy some of you. I've never been flat out told "You annoy me" (at least nothing that I've seen), but I get that impression judging some responses, or should I say lack of. I have a suspicion that I'm overreacting for nothing, but I still can't shake off that feeling. I try to socialize with all of you, to truly be a part of this little family you guys have, however, I feel like my attempts are in vain. I sometimes feel like I'm invisible here. I continue to hope that I'm wrong.
Now it looks like my depression has caused me to act out on here too. Last night I kind of lashed out on a poster who I felt was insulting me (still do in some way). Normally I wouldn't even react at all, but when I did, I was later surprised at my reaction, and a little worried. Then just the other week, I was close to throwing a fit after someone beat me to making a discussion thread that I was REALLY looking forward to making, about a subject that I absolutely love (though I should add they did make it before the last one hit 30 pages). I'm fully aware that it's childish and petty, but at the time, I was almost livid. I HATE that something as simple as creating a topic got to me the way it did, and it's something I'm going to try to put an end to. To that person (you know who you are), if you read this, no hard feelings.
Anyways, I'm going to stop here before I ramble on too much and go off-track. I think I've said everything I needed to say. I'm not looking for pity, I only felt like I absolutely needed to get that off my chest.
If you've made it this far; thank you. I'm just happy I'm finally able to share this to somebody.