I need help/advice

[TOO SWEET]

I'm really freaked out right now, and don't know where to turn to. My mom and stepfather are both recovering alcoholics and weed smokers. Last week he took off for Ohio to attend his grandmother's funeral, and we had our aunt (mom's sister) show up.

While here, an exchange was made, and I found the evidence yesterday. Things have blown up between my sister, me, and my mom to the point where I feel my family is falling apart.

In a day, my stepfather is coming home, and I honestly have no clue whether to tell him or not. He definitely deserves to know, but we rely on him for everything. He's made it clear that he will leave if he ever caught her drinking or smoking again, and if he leaves, I don't know how we'll live. We won't be able to afford our apartment and food, not even worrying about me heading back to college. I don't know what to do, because like I said, my family is falling apart and I just wish everything would get back to normal.

I need some advice. Should he be told? Or not?

And please don't turn this into a discussion about the drugs in general, because I genuinely need the advice and don't want this topic locked up.

[aka Cthulhu]

I don't know what else to say, except that you should really clear things out with your mother.

Of course, it's important that you guys seek some kind of counseling over this.

[TOO SWEET]

That seems like a good idea Cthulhu.

I've talked with her earlier today, basically trying to moderate between her and my sister and she knows she messed up badly. Before this, she had been clean for four years, and she knows she f***ed up. She's basically just begging me to consider not telling my stepfather. Either way, no matter what happens, I know I'm gonna feel like shit. I know there is no right option, thats why I just want to hear what others might suggest.