Post by Orange on Nov 21, 2012 22:31:11 GMT -5
First up, I promise this is actually for a friend, and not a disguise to really mean me.
I've known this guy for a few years now, kind of socially awkward, kind of overweight, etc. etc. He only lives with his Mom, not too sure what happened with his Dad - it's not a topic I really want to bring up on the chance that it's a hard topic to talk about. Anything I've gathered suggests that he moved away when he was little.
Anyway, many times when I talk to him he mentions how lonely he is and how upset it makes him. He says that he's very depressed that he doesn't have many friends, the only problem is he doesn't really put himself out there, so he doesn't really give himself a way to remedy his loneliness problem. He does have a girlfriend now, one of his first ever based off of what he tells me, but they don't get together in person that much - given that they live on opposite sides of the city and neither has a car.
I just get so upset (not in a selfish way, but in an honest way) that he's depressed so often, and I want to help him - but any suggestions I make on places for him to find friends he's either A.) had a bad experience there once or B.) he just doesn't want to. I'm not sure what to do anymore, I want to help him - but it sometimes doesn't seem like he wants to help himself.
Basically, he hates who he is - and has told me that he doesn't believe being yourself (in a general sense) is the smartest thing to do. He hasn't graduated school, he doesn't have a car, and he doesn't have a job - so his chances at meeting people aren't too great. I've tried to convince him to get a job, but he doesn't think he'd be able to hold one, so he hasn't really made the effort.
What would you guys do in this situation? We're a lot alike, so I hope I'm not coming across as holier than thou - I'm a socially awkward guy, as well - but I want to help him the best I can.
I've known this guy for a few years now, kind of socially awkward, kind of overweight, etc. etc. He only lives with his Mom, not too sure what happened with his Dad - it's not a topic I really want to bring up on the chance that it's a hard topic to talk about. Anything I've gathered suggests that he moved away when he was little.
Anyway, many times when I talk to him he mentions how lonely he is and how upset it makes him. He says that he's very depressed that he doesn't have many friends, the only problem is he doesn't really put himself out there, so he doesn't really give himself a way to remedy his loneliness problem. He does have a girlfriend now, one of his first ever based off of what he tells me, but they don't get together in person that much - given that they live on opposite sides of the city and neither has a car.
I just get so upset (not in a selfish way, but in an honest way) that he's depressed so often, and I want to help him - but any suggestions I make on places for him to find friends he's either A.) had a bad experience there once or B.) he just doesn't want to. I'm not sure what to do anymore, I want to help him - but it sometimes doesn't seem like he wants to help himself.
Basically, he hates who he is - and has told me that he doesn't believe being yourself (in a general sense) is the smartest thing to do. He hasn't graduated school, he doesn't have a car, and he doesn't have a job - so his chances at meeting people aren't too great. I've tried to convince him to get a job, but he doesn't think he'd be able to hold one, so he hasn't really made the effort.
What would you guys do in this situation? We're a lot alike, so I hope I'm not coming across as holier than thou - I'm a socially awkward guy, as well - but I want to help him the best I can.