cory16154
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Post by cory16154 on Nov 14, 2013 22:58:41 GMT -5
So heres my situation i am 21 and only working part time and still live with my parents this led to a discussion between me and my friend about how old is too old to live with you parents so i figured i would get your opinions so what do you think how old is too old?
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Post by Sparkybob on Nov 14, 2013 23:03:02 GMT -5
There is no set age that makes it to old since every situation is different.
Right now I'm living with my parents and going to college. I had plans to go to Binghamton but my parents convinced me to stay for a local school.
I'll say nothing is wrong with staying with your parents if a situation dictates it.
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Post by CATCH_US IS the Conversation on Nov 14, 2013 23:07:08 GMT -5
There's no such thing as being "too old", but if you have the means to move out and you think you're ready, go for it.
I moved out of my parents house when I was 20 on a whim. I was nowhere near ready and after four months of not being able to secure a job of any kind, I ended up moving back, and I never really bounced back from it even after all these years. I regret not planning it better, but I don't regret making the attempt.
It's okay to still live at home as long as you don't completely bum off of your parents. Help keep the place clean, offer to pay rent or give them some money.
If anyone gives you shit for it, then screw them.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2013 23:09:46 GMT -5
It really depends on your living situation, if you're going to school, and your local economy. Like where I'm from is the richest economy in North America and nothing pisses me more then a guy who works in the oil rigs making six figures a year living with his parents who makes less because he constantly spends his money on drugs, alcohol, strippers, escorts, and constantly adding parts and lifts on his 60,000 truck
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Post by Stu on Nov 14, 2013 23:13:05 GMT -5
I've had friends reach 30 before moving out. No big deal. Only drawback is a lack of freedom and privacy. But if for financial reasons, there's nothing wrong at all.
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Post by turkeysandwich on Nov 14, 2013 23:19:51 GMT -5
I lived with my parents until I was 25. I liked having freedom after moving out, but I wish I would stayed a little longer and saved my money. I mean it is so expensive with rent, utilties, insurance, groceries, cable, internet, etc, etc.
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Post by Ryback on a Pole! on Nov 14, 2013 23:22:25 GMT -5
I was with my dad until I was 25 and finished university. It was pointless moving out and renting a flat when the university was only a 20 minute busride fro my dad's house.
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Post by Sephiroth on Nov 14, 2013 23:23:05 GMT -5
I moved out of my father's house at 29, and it was because he had remarried and was looking to sell the house. Call me loser all you want, but at least I had the juevos to admit that. And for the record, having my own place has had me wishing I moved out when I was 20.
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Post by King Ghidorah on Nov 14, 2013 23:33:16 GMT -5
Depends, if your contributing or not, even then anything after 25 looks odd. I can't imagine a scenario where a 25 year old working man, would willingly Live at home. I moved out the week of my graduation and it's been alright. What if you and your girl stay with your folks, that sounds awful, it was awful in highschool
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Post by StuntGranny® on Nov 14, 2013 23:42:01 GMT -5
For me, I moved out after graduating high school, then I moved back in a year or so later. My parents both had serious health issues at the time, and being an only child, I felt like I owed it to them to move back and help out. After that, I moved out for college, then came back after realizing that a college degree doesn't mean as much as I thought it did/couldn't find a job. A couple of years ago, I moved in with my girlfriend and now that we're engaged, I would certainly hope I'm out for good.
I think the age that's 'too old' to be living with your parents depends on the situation. I can completely understand if you're needed at home or you just flat-out can't find a job. If you're staying because you enjoy being a bum, yeah, it's probably time to go.
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Post by HMARK Center on Nov 14, 2013 23:42:37 GMT -5
I got a decent paying job straight out of college...but didn't move out of my parents house for awhile anyway. Big reason? So I could save a bunch of that cash and make myself a mini-nest egg. It's paid off for me.
After awhile my parents began charging me rent (nothing crazy, something like $400 a month), but once I was 26 I was on the way to a new job, had my finances in decent shape, and moved on out.
Honestly, there's no shame in it; just do your best to save up what you can while you're in that situation. Beef up your bank account, then you can strike out on your own with a bit of a cushion beneath you.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2013 0:04:17 GMT -5
I'm 27 living at home, and I'm pretty hard on myself about it.
I went to college and dropped out when I was 22, then got a full-time job making 30 grand a year and moved out the next fall. Thing is, the year before I had a really bad exerpience with acid. I did it quite a bit from ages 19 to 22, swore it off after the bad trip, but it f***ed with me for a long time. Just super paranoid, depressed, anti-social, if I had my choice I would never leave my room, I was a total mess. I'd also been a pothead since I was 19, which added to the paranoia and cocooining tendencies.
When I moved out I had a lot of money saved, so I up and quit my good job like a month after moving into my new apartment, because I was depressed and thought changing my job would change everything, and I thought I'd just find another one. That was right when the economy went straight to hell. All I did was sit in my apartment, eat mass amounts of fast food, watch wrestling on justin.tv, and smoke weed. Predictably, gained a lot of weight and ran out of money, and moved home the next year basically out of self-preservation, I was either gonna die or do it myself. I kept smoking pot by tricking my mom out of money (and she knew, but she acted like she didn't, cuz that's her way), had a few crappy jobs that I left oh a whim when I felt like I couldn't take it anymore.
But now, I don't know, something just clicked. Turning 27 was a big deal to me, because I realized I'd wasted my mid 20s. I'm off the weed for the first time in 8 years, it's been 9 weeks and I feel awesome. I'm working out, I'm eating well, I've got a crappy job but it's a job, and I know I'm not leaving until I get another one. I'm talking to my old company about coming back, my old boss wants me back really bad because he loved me and was sad to see me go. So things are looking up, and when I get that good job I'll move out again, and I'll do it right.
I know could move out right now, and be within walking distance of my job and work more hours and make enough to make ends meet. But, I'd only be doing that so I wouldn't feel like a loser for living at home. I think it's smarter to be patient about it and make damn sure I don't ever have to come back. And after having gone through all this, I will appreciate it so much more.
After all that rabble rabble, what I mean to get to is simply not basing things on the standards of others. Just have a goal and work towards it, go to bed every night knowing that you did a good job that day and you're getting better, not worse. That'll lead you out of your parents' house naturally.
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Post by mizerable on Nov 15, 2013 0:45:58 GMT -5
If the economy wasn't such a shithole, you'd probably want to get out by your mid-20's.
I spent about a year on my own, and lived modestly, but I don't like living day to day. Not having any real money in the bank is a serious problem, especially with no benefits coming my way. So I could have kept it the way it was and still be without money, or I could have swallowed my pride and gone back home so I could put money away so that I would be able to live well later on. I don't want to make it to retirement age and just be overtly frugal. I see too much of that now in people.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2013 1:53:43 GMT -5
In a more perfect World, you're out starting your life in your late teens or early 20s.
Times is tough now though. Money is tight. Things have a way of not working out the way you want them to.
I was out at 19 and was forced to suck it up and go back not once, but twice; my last stint occuring just last year at 29.
It's lame, but you just have be thankful you have such people in your life and try to be respectful as you're patching up your situation.
As to when technically is too old, who knows? Family dynamics are all different.
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Post by Dr. T is an alien on Nov 15, 2013 2:07:52 GMT -5
I moved out for good at 21 (I was still in school but had switched my permanent residence to my then-fiance's place). I at one time wanted to move back in with my family for a few months after our landlord needed to sell the house we were living in and I was between jobs (two of my brothers had done the same under similar circumstances, although at different times), but opted to suck it up and limp through until I got another job.
My baby brother is 26 and still lives with my folks. He is working full time in IT, has very few expenses, and should be saving money hand over fist. I think my folks actually don't really want him to move out right now, so there's that.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Nov 15, 2013 5:21:12 GMT -5
I moved out at the ripe old age of 19 earlier this year, but that was for university, so it doesn't really count.
I'd probably say as late as you feel comfortable with, but really, once you get past 30 it's a bit off.
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Post by Bo Rida on Nov 15, 2013 6:32:39 GMT -5
It's all down to the financial situation. This is a good map for showing how much it costs to rent/buy property in the UK, there's no way the average 21 year old could afford the prices in the south of the country. www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-23234033
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Post by StuntGranny® on Nov 15, 2013 8:49:22 GMT -5
If the economy wasn't such a shithole, you'd probably want to get out by your mid-20's. This right here is the ultimate problem. As god awful as the job market is right now (certainly around the area I currently reside in), it's hard to scold those who still live at home due to not having an income.
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Post by Banecat on Nov 15, 2013 8:59:48 GMT -5
So heres my situation i am 21 and only working part time and still live with my parents this led to a discussion between me and my friend about how old is too old to live with you parents so i figured i would get your opinions so what do you think how old is too old? When you have a family of your own. If you are single with zero kids there's no reason why you should be wasting more money on your own domicile. South American's got it right with extended family units all under one household.
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Nov 15, 2013 10:36:09 GMT -5
It's all down to the financial situation. This is a good map for showing how much it costs to rent/buy property in the UK, there's no way the average 21 year old could afford the prices in the south of the country. www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-23234033Totally. I know a girl who got into Cambridge, her rent's something like £400 a week. I thought mine was pretty bad, but that's extortionate. I could get a brand new flat on the riverside here for less than that!
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