How to Talk to Somebody About Losing Weight

[Orange]

Hey, guys. I try not to do these types of threads too often, but you guys have helped me before and I truly love you guys, so I value your input.

Basically, I have a friend who, like me, could stand to lose some weight. She knows it and has said it before, but she's given up her attempts to lose weight before even when they were working.

The topic came up a while ago and I'm just confused as to how to go about talking to her about losing weight. I know she can do it because she's gotten so close, but I don't think she knows she can do it and I really want to help her get over the hump. She's said before that she's just too far gone, but we're not talking about a girl who's 750 pounds here; she's not anywhere near too far gone. It's just... it's a sensitive topic in general, so I don't know how to go about it without being hurtful on accident, you know?

FAN, how do I go about this? I know she can do it and I want to help her, but I don't know how.

[Chip]

If she's already attempted it in the past then she's no doubt thought about it a ton, as a big dude myself it's not really something anyone else can tell you that will ever get you up and doing stuff, it's always a moment of introspection. The closest I ever got to joining a gym was when a friend was trying to lose weight and he asked me to come along so it'd be more fun, so you could try that seeing as you mentioned about losing weight yourself.

[Deleted]

Honestly, if you'd like to lose a few as well just ask her if she wants to be gym buddies or something. Its always easier when you've got someone with you along the way to keep you motivated.

[BoilerRoomBrawler]

Hard for me to say as I've never talked someone else into losing weight, only myself and it mostly was a matter of being rational with myself and getting down to business before it's too late.

There's probably a good chance that she tried in the past and either had poor diet habits, poor exercise habits, or simply didn't wait long enough for results to finally start. It takes time for any good weight loss regimen to truly take hold but once the results are there it becomes easier to motivate yourself because you have your own proof.

I know this because I used to weight 500lbs and am down to about 375 since 2011. Have had a plateau from hell and this winter has been absolutely brutal for going out and exercising. What I would do for a 30 degree day...

[lovingway]

Honestly, unless you are a couple then don't. Do your thing and lose weight and that honestly might be what motivates them seeing that someone they know lost weight and they can too. I lost a ton of weight and one of my friends has started losing weight as well. This friend got on 4 medicines in his early 30s, had a fiancee, a kid, and one on the way and he had no effort to lose weight. After seeing me it helped kickstart him

[Sephiroth]

Could always go the Kurt Angle route.