The point where you just give up on a freind.

[Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster]

As I have mentioned in previous posts over the past year and half I've been dealing with depression but oddly enough since now that it seems to coming right I've come to somewhat slightly troubling realization being that a small but decent chunk of my friends are total f***ing dropkicks who are more trouble than their worth as they do dumb shit which that pisses off everyone and gets me or other people in trouble.

A good example happened last week as my missus went out of town so I hosted a movie marathon and invited some people around. One of my work underlings (who I'll call Lisa) brought her 17 year old sister along and her sister had been drinking and got drunk so I told her that she could crash on my bed for a bit. A couple of hours later I drove another guest home and when I got back I heard shouting.. So I rushed in and saw Lisa had just kicked one of my mates in the groin. Turns out that when I was out he went into my room (even though when I have people over etc I make it quite clear that other rooms are out of bounds unless me or missus say so) and saw Lisa's sister on the bed and decided to take some up skirt photos with his phone of her only to get caught by Lisa and all hell broke lose so I kicked the guy out and told him to leave or else. A few days he rang me up and asked what the big deal was so I spent a good 5 or 10 minutes having to explain a man who is almost 30 that why taking upskirt photos of a passed out teenaged girl is gross and unacceptable behavior but I had enough and just hung up on the stupid bastard I figured I was going to lose too many brain cells dealing with him.

But this is what got me thinking is how this whole friends stick by each other no matter what is a load of unrealistic bullshit as surely there is a point where a mate is just not worth the hassle and should be OK to ditch him until he gets his head out of his arse. Not to mention I can't help but feel that this sort of mindset leads to enabling all sorts of shitty behavior from people.

Surely I'm not the only person who feels this way and has everyone else even just gone f*** it I don't want to see you again to a friend of sorts.

[The Man They Call Asher]

Honestly man if he was doing that I'd call the bloody cops.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

Well, I won't give bother giving my story, because I realized way, way, way, way, way, way, waaaaaaaaaaaaaay before he was taking upskirt photos of a drunk underage girl. Not that he ever would.

Yeah, I don't understand the question. No friendship at all or you'll be going down with him.

[ThereIsNoAbsurdistOnlyZuul]

Since this is FAN, I can only say that this friendship ends one way, you need to scream at him "YOU WERE MAH FRIEND!" *Snotbubble* Then, powerbomb.

[Deleted]

Sticking by a friend means letting him crash on your couch when he is too drunk to drive. It means being there for him when his wife throws him out.

It doesn't mean going to jail with him. It doesn't mean lying to the cops to protect him.

If he is an asshole, ditch him and ditch him now. Because more often than not, its the friend of the douche that gets in trouble.

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

yeah I'd probably never speak to the guy again either.

["I'm Batman..."]

That's probably the point.

[h]

I'd wish him well in his future endeavors.

[metylerca]

I haven't seen friend spelled as "freind" since stevierichardsfanbabyface. Has nothing to do with your conundrum, but I just got chills thinking that.

[ThereIsNoAbsurdistOnlyZuul]

Feb 15, 2014 11:31:07 GMT -5 h said:

I'd wish him well in his future endeavors.

Then give him a short arm lariat, and BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRNIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNG HAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!

Ending with a fine, "I said good day sir!"

[chazraps]

Yeah, if a "Friend" is a perpetual unrepentant asshole, it's the right move to completely remove them from your life.

This is nowhere near as heinous, but a buddy of mine who I had known about five years slowly started seeming more and more like a terrible person about a year ago. He just kept creating problems for himself despite having a loving successful family that gave him tons of advantages and a strong circle of friends. At one point, I lent him twenty bucks. He said he'd pay me back a few days later and to meet up for a drink. He no-shows without telling me anything. He tells me the next day something came up but this time he would meet up with me for sure. This happens two more times. Finally he invites me to his apartment and becomes a super prick about it, telling me I've been grilling him for "only twenty bucks" by calling him when he's no-showed get-togethers that he's instigated.

I arrive at his apartment and he's weirdly super calm and tries to tell me my anger with him wasn't his fault, but stems from "relationship problems" I'd been having with my then-girlfriend at the time, of which I truthfully wasn't having at all. He then lies about having Aspergers and says that's the reason he hasn't paid me back in so long. My then-roommate worked with youth with Aspergers for years, so I happen to know this is bullshit, but I just listen until he gives me the 20 back. He does, and then tells me "if could have been more, but you had to be a dick." A short while later I left and haven't seen him since.

When you cut people who suck out of your life, their bullshit is no longer your bullshit and it's awesome. Again, not paying back 20 bucks and no-showing three supposed meet-ups is nowhere near as dreadful as invading a clearly off-limits area of your home and taking upskirt photos of a minor, but I can vouch that awful "Friends" are blockage in the colon of a happy life and should be removed immediately.

[Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster]

Feb 15, 2014 3:43:15 GMT -5 The Man They Call Asher said:

Honestly man if he was doing that I'd call the bloody cops.

Well I did ask them if they wanted the cops called but her sister declined.