Congratulating someone who is ditching you. I don't get it.

[TheDieselTrain]

So yea I'm sure we've all seen this before in the workplace or whatever where someone takes a job offer and/or goes to another branch or location in the company. So where I work we had someone who decided to move on to greener pastures or whatever so he's leaving and all. But yesterday (apparently this persons last day) I see a dry erase board with the guys name on it and it says good luck and all that jazz and room to leave comments i guess of the positive persuasion.

At the same time I kinda shake my head a little bit. Why should we be all like yea!!! you've moved on from us and are kicking us too the curb lets celebrate yay!!!!?
Another one off the team whoopee dee doo dah!!!!!!

We may or may not be shorthanded now because a few other people left.

When someone voluntary leaves a team why is that a cause for celebration??

I understand the whole future endeavors thing when a company might wish you well because that is them saying we are letting you go hope we can see you later. But when it is someone who tells the job they are leaving you then why go all going away party when they are saying you are yesterday's news???

[kidglov3s]

I think it's like, well, my job is kind of entry level young people (early-mid 20s), when people have left it it's usually been like yknow congratulations on progressing to the next stage of your professional life, good luck, etc. Like I've genuinely wished well my coworkers that have moved on.

[Magic knows Black Lives Matter]

Because you want to wish your co-worker/friend well as they move on to the next stage of their life?

[Muskrat]

Because it makes you look like a real dick to hold it against someone for taking an opportunity to better their life?

The real world isn't ECW, changing companies isn't selling out it's making the most of opportunities.

[Cyno]

Because people moving on to better success in life is more important than being loyal to a soulless corporation.

[Bob Schlapowitz]

Because "loyalty" doesn't pay the bills.

[El Pollo Guerrera]

Question for the OP...

Would you turn down a bettter/higher paying job to keep the position you currently have?

[Deleted]

Things change. People move on. Being bitter about it doesn't help anyone, yourself included.

[Amazing Kitsune]

Because that's how things are done. Business is business. When it's over, as a good person you naturally want to people's lives to continue to move on for the better. Any other response makes you look petty and bitter.

Is it a genuine response? No, not always. Probably rarely ever, actually.

The WWE, for example, famously wishes people who've quit/were fired best of luck on their future endeavors. Do they always really mean this with every fiber of their corporate being?

No, of course not.

Is it still the proper and polite way to act in the situation? Yes.

Appearances are important and even though they might be less-than-genuine, they help create a civil, polite society.

...

Actually, as I'm writing this I'm starting to not agree with it as much. I'm reminded of Rousseau's Discourses on the Arts and Sciences. When responses like that are disingenuous all they do is further empower a weak society of liars and flatterers. In a virtuous society, we'd say what was on our minds and not worry about hiding our true feelings of things for the sake of politeness and good taste--even if it hurt people's feelings. We'd be a more simple people--not hiding behind lies--and a more virtuous people.

...

That being said--that's probably not going to happen anytime soon. If you have to fake happiness for the sake of propriety--then fake it for the sake of propriety.

Or don't.

I don't really care. I've slept in today and, as such, am just rambling.

[Glitch]

Because "Go to hell, you defector" parties don't have the same joyous atmosphere.

[TheDieselTrain]

Mar 30, 2014 12:53:14 GMT -5 El Pollo Guerrera said:

Question for the OP...

Would you turn down a bettter/higher paying job to keep the position you currently have?

Depends on what it entails. If its a job that I think sucks or wouldn't want but pays more probably not.
I do love what I do though and have fun doing it for the most part. I don't consider it a "stepping stone"

[Muskrat]

Mar 30, 2014 13:18:26 GMT -5 TheDieselTrain said:

Mar 30, 2014 12:53:14 GMT -5 El Pollo Guerrera said:

Question for the OP...

Would you turn down a bettter/higher paying job to keep the position you currently have?

Depends on what it entails. If its a job that I think sucks or wouldn't want but pays more probably not.
I do love what I do though and have fun doing it for the most part. I don't consider it a "stepping stone"

But say the job offer is basically the same job you do now, but with a different company, an extra $5k annually and health benefits for your entire family (just an example). Then turning down the job out of blind loyalty makes you look foolish

["Cane Dewey" Johnson]

Mar 30, 2014 13:18:26 GMT -5 TheDieselTrain said:

Mar 30, 2014 12:53:14 GMT -5 El Pollo Guerrera said:

Question for the OP...

Would you turn down a bettter/higher paying job to keep the position you currently have?

Depends on what it entails. If its a job that I think sucks or wouldn't want but pays more probably not.
I do love what I do though and have fun doing it for the most part. I don't consider it a "stepping stone"

But if you're happy at your job and happy with where you are at with your job, then why would you care if someone leaves, no matter what the reason? It doesn't affect your happiness at your job, and might only affect your happiness with where you are at with your job if there is room for advancement that would make you even happier at your job, so...

['Foretold' Joker]

Because it's the nice polite thing to do. You thank them for all the hard work they gave to the company and wish them well in there future job.

[Dr. T is an alien]

It is both a celebration of the past times together and a message of personal well wishes for the future. What's more, there is always the possibility that the person might always laterally or vertically move BACK to your company in the future as their career and your company's future needs might realign. There is no need to act bitter and might be counterproductive for the future.

[King Ghidorah]

Don't wanna be a hater do ya

[Blindkarevik]

Mar 30, 2014 13:18:26 GMT -5 TheDieselTrain said:

Mar 30, 2014 12:53:14 GMT -5 El Pollo Guerrera said:

Question for the OP...

Would you turn down a bettter/higher paying job to keep the position you currently have?

Depends on what it entails. If its a job that I think sucks or wouldn't want but pays more probably not.
I do love what I do though and have fun doing it for the most part. I don't consider it a "stepping stone"

That, right there, is what it is.

Most people aren't happy in their jobs, or... they do it out of necessity. Even if you're cool with your job, unless you're making a shit-ton of money, eventually you're gonna get strapped.... have trouble making ends meet, whatever. Chances are, others are in the same boat, so if someone gets a chance to do something positive with their life... either making a change to a job they actually like, or go somewhere where they can be more financially stable, or ideally.. both. That deserves congratulations and celebration, as well as the hopes that you'll be able to do the same soon.

Also, if someone put a lot of good years into a place and generally made it better, or at least were a good part of the team.. .it's just nice to let them know all that time was appreciated.

Although, if you're happy at your job, and happy with the people around you.. yeah, I understand how it feels they're ditching you because, you're happy where you're at... surely everyone else must be as well. Unfortunately, that's not always the case... and if this person is making strides to feel as good about their next job as you do about your current, that's nothing but a positive thing.

[kidglov3s]

Mar 30, 2014 17:52:50 GMT -5 Blindkarevik said:

Mar 30, 2014 13:18:26 GMT -5 TheDieselTrain said:

Depends on what it entails. If its a job that I think sucks or wouldn't want but pays more probably not.
I do love what I do though and have fun doing it for the most part. I don't consider it a "stepping stone"

That, right there, is what it is.

Most people aren't happy in their jobs, or... they do it out of necessity. Even if you're cool with your job, unless you're making a shit-ton of money, eventually you're gonna get strapped.... have trouble making ends meet, whatever. Chances are, others are in the same boat, so if someone gets a chance to do something positive with their life... either making a change to a job they actually like, or go somewhere where they can be more financially stable, or ideally.. both. That deserves congratulations and celebration, as well as the hopes that you'll be able to do the same soon.

Kind of like how in Good Will Hunting Ben Affleck kept hoping he'd go to Matt Damon's door and Damon wouldn't be there.

[EvenBaldobombHasAJob]

basic human decency?

[Deleted]

Telling them, essentially, "f*** you" would be a dick move. I mean, if they're leaving amicably and they're simply moving onto the next phase of their life, why wouldn't you congratulate them and wish them the best? It just seems like a weird thing not to do.

Mar 30, 2014 17:58:44 GMT -5 kidglov3s said:

Kind of like how in Good Will Hunting Ben Affleck kept hoping he'd go to Matt Damon's door and Damon wouldn't be there.

That's f***in' beautiful. Reminds me of a conversation I had with my cousin.