Why kiss on the first date..

[thegame415]

So, recently went out with a girl. We've been chatting for a while. Everything was great. Skyped several times. We went out Saturday. SHE hugged me. SHE held my hand. At the end of the date, we kissed. A few days go by, and she's not as talkative. I mean, we were messaging everyday. Up and back, snapchat and skype or phone. I was afraid maybe once we met things wouldn't go as planned, but she instigated things. Now, she tells me it's not a good idea to date.

Fellow FAN members, would you kiss at the end of the date and agree to go out again, then suddenly out of the blue change? I'm just feeling kind of lost, here.

[Flash Burton]

The one thing I've learnt is you can never understand a person, ever. People do strange things, make odd decisions & blow & cold. Even people I've known 20 years do things I just can't get my head around

Don't worry about the kiss, it could be down to many other things

My only advice would be not to dwell on it pal

[Hit Girl]

Cut off all contact with her. Go out with your friends and hang out with other girls. Make it seem like you are having the time of your life. Post pictures of it all somewhere she can see it all happening. Once she feels out of the loop, she'll start making moves to hook up with you again.

[King Ghidorah]

May 30, 2014 5:28:08 GMT -5 Hit Girl said:

Cut off all contact with her. Go out with your friends and hang out with other girls. Make it seem like you are having the time of your life. Post pictures of it all somewhere she can see it all happening. Once she feels out of the loop, she'll start making moves to hook up with you again.

This isn't needed at all. Don't do this.

May 30, 2014 5:22:42 GMT -5 Flash Burton said:

The one thing I've learnt is you can never understand a person, ever. People do strange things, make odd decisions & blow & cold. Even people I've known 20 years do things I just can't get my head around

Don't worry about the kiss, it could be down to many other things

My only advice would be not to dwell on it pal

Yea, It's easy for us to say not to dwell or move on, but that's what you need to do, of course if you're still into this chick you could talk to her, find out where she stands. Although it seems pretty clear

[camsamurai06]

I kissed at the end of my first date and we were blissfully in love for weeks 'till my tour of duty at the college dried up. It happened so suddenly that I did'nt have time to keep in touch with her.

[Legion]

Could the issue have been that she was instigating everything so she thinks you were the one blowing cold?

[thegame415]

May 30, 2014 6:00:30 GMT -5 Legion said:

Could the issue have been that she was instigating everything so she thinks you were the one blowing cold?

I made a lot of effort too, including making plans for the weekend, driving out to her (almost an hour from me).

[Deleted]

It just happens sometimes. Sometimes a kiss makes you realize you have no physical chemistry sometimes. Or she didn't feel any feelings from the kiss. Kissing is weird in general and yet it's the universal language of love. Love is weird man. It sucks being in the position you are. Just wait and see. Barely anyone is talking after a first date or first intimate session.

[The Sam]

Because kissing is fun. I have the data to back this theory.

[Juice]

Well seems that the kiss wasn't all that good to her and she was being nice by agreeing to see you again. It's said that a woman knows within the first 30 seconds(I could be wrong here) if she would ever bang a guy. perhaps once you guys met in person she realized that she wasn't into you and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings

which has in turn hurt your feelings since she's giving a runaround instead of just straight up being honest. I am assuming you met her online? Dating site? Move on try again? Or as mentioned go out have a good time. I wouldn't post pics or anything because that looks incredibly desperate. Don;t have a good time to spite her, have one in spite of her.

[Deleted]

Maybe she just wasn't that into you but wanted to see if something would spark with the kiss.

It didn't, so it works out best for both of you that she called it off.

Also, like someone else said, sometimes women agree to another date just to be polite and not make you angry, but then had second thoughts about if she really wanted to.

[fuzzywarble, squat cobbler]

May 30, 2014 5:28:08 GMT -5 Hit Girl said:

Cut off all contact with her. Go out with your friends and hang out with other girls. Make it seem like you are having the time of your life. Post pictures of it all somewhere she can see it all happening. Once she feels out of the loop, she'll start making moves to hook up with you again.

No. Don't play these high school games. Just man up and move on if she's shutting you out.

[Essential1]

Like the one girl I worked with we kissed at the end of our first date and she called me for 2 months. 2 months and then nothing, no more calling, no more chasing me. I think a kiss is just a kiss, but calling me everyone morning for 2 months made me think I had her.

[Toxik916]

Perhaps it was the kiss that turned her off. If she didn't feel a spark then it makes sense she wouldn't want to go out again.

[Danimal]

People do stuff that doesn't make sense, don't make your head hurt trying to figure it out. Brass tacks of the situation is that she isn't acting interested, so just move-on.

[Munkie91087]

Just move on. Don't post things to flaunt your moving on in her face. Sometimes you kiss someone and realize you don't really feel anything for them. It isn't a huge deal. You'll be fine. The most exciting part of casual dating is there aren't any expectations, you can mingle and have fun. Just focus on that.

[Cyno]

Forget her and move on. If she's not into you, she's not into you. It happens.

[CuJ0 Will Keep Dancing]

May 30, 2014 4:50:50 GMT -5 thegame415 said:

So, recently went out with a girl. We've been chatting for a while. Everything was great. Skyped several times. We went out Saturday. SHE hugged me. SHE held my hand. At the end of the date, we kissed. A few days go by, and she's not as talkative. I mean, we were messaging everyday. Up and back, snapchat and skype or phone. I was afraid maybe once we met things wouldn't go as planned, but she instigated things. Now, she tells me it's not a good idea to date.

Fellow FAN members, would you kiss at the end of the date and agree to go out again, then suddenly out of the blue change? I'm just feeling kind of lost, here.

There's your problem right there man.

Sometime's talking everyday with a girl could work but that's if you have insane chemistry right off the bat and that's usually pretty rare.

In my experience less is more. Give them some time to breathe, to think about you, wonder what you're doing, have a little bit of mystery in the relationship at the start. It's not about playing games, it's about being independent. Now even she's the one instigating the message take your time responding put the phone away and step away from the computer for a bit and hang out with friends or go to the gym, or a bike ride. Build anticipation for when you see or talk to each other again.

Never say never, but I think you lost this one man. Take it as a life lesson and try a different formula next time.

As for the whole kissing thing, she might have been feeling the emotion of the moment. She might have liked you then, but got home and into a different environment and realized that she's not interested. A kiss means nothing, until your P is in her V nothing is for certain.

Look on the bright side, you went out on a nice date, got a kiss at the end and even though things didn't work out it's all good experience in the social interaction bank. You'll do even better with the next girl.

[Brandon Walsh is Insane.]

"This is all wrong. I don't know what it is, but when I'm kissing you, it's like I'm kissing... my brother."

[Deleted]

Maybe she didn't feel anything from the kiss or from the date itself? It's hard to say, but I wouldn't worry about it. Just pack it up and move on.