mattperiolat
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Post by mattperiolat on Aug 21, 2014 11:18:38 GMT -5
The failure of my engagement with my ex. We'd been together for four years and I really loved her. But time and distance have shown it was not working. We both had faults, we both had made mistakes and it just was no longer healthy to be together.
It will be five years in November. No serious dating since, but I have a network of friends, a college degree and experience on what to do and not do next time.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 11:21:15 GMT -5
Moved with my girlfriend at the time from Kansas City to Oakland.
We've long since broken up and she moved back to KC, but I've been in Oakland ever since and its seriously changed my life for the better in many ways.
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Post by Crimson on Aug 21, 2014 14:53:54 GMT -5
Smartest thing I ever did was take a job down in St Louis after I graduated with my degree, about 5-6 hours away from where I went to college and grew up. It cut the cord and forced me to live... well, as myself. Every single one of my college buddies stayed behind and languished in the college town for years. Some are still there well over a decade later. Doing some deadend job they are 7 times overqualified for. It's not that the economy is bad there, it's not that there aren't better jobs it's just that they all found it easier to room together and do jack shit well into their 30's. Seriously, for the longest time it was like a bad sitcom of manchildren that didn't want to grow up. Sharing a college house with 7 other guys was fun and all... when i was 20. Just recently made the same life decision this past summer. Technically I got a full time gig at another big University but so many of my friends are stuck doing that "Lets move 5/6 bodies into a house so the rent is cheap" life that I couldn't stay that way. Back in may, over the course of a single weekend. Did a drive from Tampa to Tallahasee to interview for a job and then to Daytona to go to my little sisters High School Graduation to back to Tampa. I ended up getting the job and moved to Tallahassee in June.
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Toxik916
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Post by Toxik916 on Aug 21, 2014 15:09:29 GMT -5
I was in a deep depression for about a year and half after I lost my longtime job. I was a miserable asshole who lost the lust for life then one day I said enough is enough.
I quit feeling sorry for myself and found a new job and now I'm back to the same guy I was before I got royally screwed by my former employer.
Digging myself out of depression is easily the thing I'm most proud of accomplishing in life.
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Post by Raskovnik on Aug 21, 2014 15:18:04 GMT -5
Thanks for the responses, everyone. I have literally nothing to add because my life is nothing but a mess of regrets but I like the thread idea and enjoy reading what everyone else posts. Might sound stupid but, I actually have no proud moments. I have regrets but no decisions that I'm proud of. I done somethings I ain't proud of and the things I am proud of are disgusting. I appreciate your guys' honesty and forthrightness, although I am certain there's something in your lives that's worthwhile that you have done or committed to. Everybody has something somewhere, no matter how big or small (just as in I also believe everyone has regrets, even for people who say they don't). There has to be something, even if it doesn't come to straight to mind. Okay. After giving it a lot of thought, I would say the decision that I am proudest of is one that I have actually not made, which is not killing myself. It is not like I particularly enjoy life or anything, or that after coming close to suicide I suddenly see how beautiful everything is, because everything is still lousy and will get worse. I have accepted that and it does not bother me so much anymore. I don't feel the need to end it all so badly anymore. I still wake up every morning even if I would rather not and do what needs to be done because there is no one else out there who could do what I do better than I can. I know who and what I am and I am comfortable with it, which is something that a lot of people I know cannot really say. That is as proud as it gets with me.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 15:43:26 GMT -5
Thanks for the responses, everyone. I appreciate your guys' honesty and forthrightness, although I am certain there's something in your lives that's worthwhile that you have done or committed to. Everybody has something somewhere, no matter how big or small (just as in I also believe everyone has regrets, even for people who say they don't). There has to be something, even if it doesn't come to straight to mind. Okay. After giving it a lot of thought, I would say the decision that I am proudest of is one that I have actually not made, which is not killing myself. It is not like I particularly enjoy life or anything, or that after coming close to suicide I suddenly see how beautiful everything is, because everything is still lousy and will get worse. I have accepted that and it does not bother me so much anymore. I don't feel the need to end it all so badly anymore. I still wake up every morning even if I would rather not and do what needs to be done because there is no one else out there who could do what I do better than I can. I know who and what I am and I am comfortable with it, which is something that a lot of people I know cannot really say. That is as proud as it gets with me. I think that's really amazing in a way, I mean, your awareness of the situation even if your depression is so incredibly enveloping shows that you're more than intelligent enough to give things a chance and know that you do have value in your actions, and comfort in your character is rare so, yeah. Not that this opinion matters or anything but you're sound.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 16:44:48 GMT -5
Going from literally being a homeless guy that ate trash and stuff to being a normal, happily married upper lower class guy with a full time job working for the government in the span of two years.
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kidglov3s
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Post by kidglov3s on Aug 21, 2014 18:14:02 GMT -5
Sticking with my contingent job providing computer support at the hospital a few months after the big launch when I wasn't getting a lot of hours. If I had left in those 4-5 months where I wasn't getting scheduled a lot (but picking up whatever I could) then I wouldn't have had the opportunities to climb the ranks in that role to full time work in the position, which helped me to develop pride in myself professionally and supported me through nursing school. I likely would've had a much harder time getting a nursing job like I have now at the same hospital. Graduating with an ADN I could very well be working in a nursing home or some other sub acute setting, in this job market, had I not stuck with it when times were lean.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Aug 21, 2014 19:50:38 GMT -5
It's in my sig. I had a dream and I kept at it until I achieved it. Granted, it's in a different form than I originally envisioned it, as I finally just decided to go Indie with it; but eh, I wrote a novel, people have purchased it and seem to enjoy it. It's an actual thing rather than a dream now that exists. That's pretty sweet.
I'm chalking that up to a win.
Plus I'm working on my next stuff as well. I've done it once, so now I know I can.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 20:06:39 GMT -5
Making various religious vows and commitments and seeing them through. I felt like I wasn't doing enough--I don't think anyone can ever can do enough--but I feel as though I'm at least doing my part semi-respectably now. Choosing to get my weight in order. I went from being 235 pounds and I'm down to around 165 right now. I'm plateaued at the moment, but come Autumn I'll be able to really start losing weight again and probably get down to 150 or so before the next summer rolls around. Putting all my science fiction stories on paper and creating a literary universe of dozens of species and hundreds of characters. It's a pet project that I've worked on for most of my life and I feel like I have something that is story, game or movie quality if I could figure out a good way to get it published. I enjoy my writing so much that I constantly talk to myself about it because I don't know anyone who'd want to sit through hours of me going on about it. Not worrying about being single. I don't want the same thing out of a relationship that most people want/expect and that means that most women are straight out. It'll be a while before I find the right person and I'm totally okay with that.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Aug 21, 2014 20:20:45 GMT -5
Marrying my wife...the only person who actually "gets" me and my weird ways.
Also, helping to co-create FAN and helping to made a forum that despite it's odd quirks, is one of best places for people to talk online. It's the only one I've been on for longer than a year or two (over a decade).
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 21:43:15 GMT -5
Returning to college and then choosing a crappy job in a decent place over a good job in a bad place. It led to the job I truly wanted.
Reading "The Catcher in the Rye" and "The Great Gatsby" back-to-back in high school. Those books sparked my love for reading and writing. They ended up being the catalyst to my becoming an English teacher.
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Post by edgestar on Aug 21, 2014 22:03:05 GMT -5
I had a seizure 3 years ago, and stopped breathing. After being in the ICU for 3 days, and still having problems remembering some things, I decided to just have fun with my life and make memories that will stay with me. So far, I've come through on that by doing these things: Going to Survivor Series 2011 Wrestlemania 29 weekend Zip lining on vacation last month (I wanted to do it and came close to backing out) I did karaoke twice, also on vacation and even though I thought I was bad, people were cheering for me
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Post by Orange on Aug 21, 2014 22:10:18 GMT -5
I have a few, in order from "least" important to most important. Learning how to play guitar: I had always wanted to know how to play guitar, but I always assumed that because I didn't have any musical ability I'd never be able to learn. One day I decided to just give it a try and to my surprise, musical ability can be learned! If you want to learn a musical instrument but you don't come from a musical family, JUST DO IT! YOU CAN DO IT! Taking the long, hard road to working on my confidence: I am a firm believer that confidence is the most important trait a human being can possess if he or she is to get through life successfully (however one may define that, because it does vary), and had I not begun to work on my confidence a couple years ago I don't know what I'd be doing right now. Just like musical ability, confidence CAN be learned, and if this sad sack of shit can do it you best believe you can. And, the most important... Losing weight: This is something I've tried in years past, but for one reason or another (be it laziness or a tie-in with self-confidence) I always fell off the wagon right quick. However, since January I've been working very hard to lose weight, and here I sit 33 pounds down with no desire to go back to my eating habits of old. It's changed my life for the better big time and I can't believe I didn't do it years ago.
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Post by "Evil Brood" Jackson Vanik on Aug 21, 2014 22:32:41 GMT -5
This may sound strange, but I definitely do not regret joining this forum. I lurked for a couple of years after finding this place via Wrestle Crap. I had been a life long wrestling fan who never really found anyone to talk to about it. I saw some other forums, but they looked to be way too serious and full of too much anger for my liking. I saw this place and soon came to rely on it for news, jokes, and to keep me up anytime I felt down. Since joining, I have loved getting to know people here and have had a ton of fun so far. You guys always make me laugh and this is one of the few places I always check no matter where I am. I love this place and I love you guys and this is one of the best decisions I have ever made!
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Post by Cvslfc123 on Aug 22, 2014 8:12:56 GMT -5
Dropping out of university: I realised when I started university in September 2010 that I wasn't ready for it so I took a gap year to find a job. I didn't get a job until January 2011, it was only meant to be a temporary thing but I was so good at it and enjoyed it a lot that I decided to drop uni and stay on. Almost 4 years later I am still working there earning good money, am debt free and have great times with the friends that I decided not to leave behind. Admittedly I do sometimes think what my life would have been like if I had stayed at uni but I don't regret this decision one bit.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 9:12:57 GMT -5
Going to the gym and working out, it's also helped in a number of different aspects of my life, beyond the obvious physical ramifications. This is my answer as well. People don't realize how much your life can change for the better by embracing the fitness lifestyle. I don't mean half assing it, I mean legit making it part of your life (working out regularly, changing diet, etc). Not only will it help you attract women but also improves self esteem, confidence, getting jobs, getting respect from others, etc. Changed my whole life.
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Post by StuntGranny® on Aug 22, 2014 9:50:59 GMT -5
I weighed 265 lbs when I graduated from high school. I weigh 158 now. I don't regret losing that weight at all due to the fact that people from my high school don't recognize me. Thus, I don't have to speak to them when I see them out in public. The health benefits are okay too, I suppose.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 13:17:06 GMT -5
I'm proud that I have stayed sober for my whole life in a country where drinking alcohol is almost a culture, and still planning to stay sober. And starting kickboxing and swimming, i feel so much better than few months ago. And giving up sodas.
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Post by Rolent Tex on Aug 22, 2014 13:56:16 GMT -5
I don't regret not using protection. I love my Mini Mes.
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