I'm thinking about leaving my job

[mattperiolat]

Believe me, it is hard to type that, given my job counts for everything I have in my life, both for paying my bills and mortgage and covering my health insurance. But the job has become so stressful that I find myself with headaches even thinking about the job. And that's after four days off for the Labor Day weekend. Worst case is, after some difficult days, the headaches are so powerful, they affect the vision in my left eye. These days, I need a dose of Tylenol to deaden the pain. In addition to the physical, my performance has steadily detoriated over the last month or so.

So, physically, I am breaking down. I'm also not helping the workplace or doing my job well by carrying on like this. That in sum, I know I cannot leave until I find something else. All I know is I cannot do retail or customer service anymore. The problem is, even with my BA degree and eight years of workplace experience, I have no clue where to turn or what to do to support myself.

Suggestions? I can carry on, for a while, but I really would like to put a bow on my current job after the holidays, if I can it that far.

[Deleted]

I would look for another job before you abruptly quit. Its better to leave with somewhere to go then to leave and realize you have nothing to jump to.

I wish you luck man. As someone who battled stress and anxiety in school finally graduating was a dream come true. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

[mattperiolat]

Sept 1, 2014 15:04:52 GMT -5 @kingbaga said:

I would look for another job before you abruptly quit. Its better to leave with somewhere to go then to leave and realize you have nothing to jump to.

I wish you luck man. As someone who battled stress and anxiety in school finally graduating was a dream come true. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Couldn't agree more. In addition, I also need to improve my standing as a worker too. That is the best way to leave a company - as good as you can.

[Magic knows Black Lives Matter]

It's always hardest on the kids.

EDIT: Boy, that's a shitty joke.

Whatever path you choose, I hope it works out for you.

[DASH 243✅]

I had sort of the same thing happen to me. I was so stressed from my job I would throw up every morning in the parking lot. I went and found another job before quitting that one.

[Rolent Tex]

Leave the right way. I've abruptly quit a many a job over the years and it can bite you in the ass. I've had my current job for over a decade now and I wish I could pull those old shenanigans on my current boss...but...kids don't feed themselves or pay rent. That and when I move next year that decade is gonna look good on rental applications.

I'd get the physical pain checked out ASAP though if you haven't yet.

[Evil Homer]

What kind of work do you do ? I myself was in a similar situation, Our department had 30 people - I was ranked 3rd best overall - & best on my shift. I put in the hours , worked hard - was promised a shift change ( which never happened ) I asked for more money - didnt get it. This went on for 7-8 months until I finally quit ( at my final meeting , I was offered the money & shift I wanted but declined ) I got my stuff together & moved across country to pursue a new career.

[mattperiolat]

Sept 1, 2014 17:10:32 GMT -5 Evil Homer said:

What kind of work do you do ? I myself was in a similar situation, Our department had 30 people - I was ranked 3rd best overall - & best on my shift. I put in the hours , worked hard - was promised a shift change ( which never happened ) I asked for more money - didnt get it. This went on for 7-8 months until I finally quit ( at my final meeting , I was offered the money & shift I wanted but declined ) I got my stuff together & moved across country to pursue a new career.

Call center doing customer service. Work 3 PM to midnight five days a week since February, been doing the job since last October. It's rough sometimes. I mean, sometimes you talk to people and they're great and you can make their day and feel like a God. Others, you get such angry people who just don't see what you see or, whatever they are angry about, they take it out on you.

And yeah, you know it's bad if just thinking about it causes the headaches.

[Evil Homer]

Sept 1, 2014 17:45:03 GMT -5 mattperiolat said:

Sept 1, 2014 17:10:32 GMT -5 Evil Homer said:

What kind of work do you do ? I myself was in a similar situation, Our department had 30 people - I was ranked 3rd best overall - & best on my shift. I put in the hours , worked hard - was promised a shift change ( which never happened ) I asked for more money - didnt get it. This went on for 7-8 months until I finally quit ( at my final meeting , I was offered the money & shift I wanted but declined ) I got my stuff together & moved across country to pursue a new career.

Call center doing customer service. Work 3 PM to midnight five days a week since February, been doing the job since last October. It's rough sometimes. I mean, sometimes you talk to people and they're great and you can make their day and feel like a God. Others, you get such angry people who just don't see what you see or, whatever they are angry about, they take it out on you.

And yeah, you know it's bad if just thinking about it causes the headaches.

yep customer service is a tough gig - I only did it for about 6 months - I just couldnt deal with angry ilogical people , who were " To be treated as if your talking to God " according to the supervisors. No thank you

[Dat Dude]

I did the same exact job for over 4 years before burning out.

At the time I thought the job was too much to bare. So I did something rash and quit that job, enrolled into an apprenticeship program (which put me 7k in debt), and worked as an intern getting paid under the table a wage that was but a fraction of what I was making beforehand (ended up getting laid off after a year).

I work in the military now, and the hardships from that customer service gig look like child's play to what I've delt with in my current job.

So having been your shoe's: have some perspective that things could be a lot worse, and don't do anything rash.

[mattperiolat]

I want to thank everyone for the advice and support. But two things before we continue - 1. Not including this job and a seven year break for college, I have seven years of work in retail behind me, so this will make eight total. 2. I'm not just going to quit tomorrow. God knows I'd like to just to be done, but I owe it to myself and those I love to hang with it until I have a safety net below me. I have a goal to at least make it through the holidays so I have a larger nest egg as well.

In the meantime, I'll just keep carrying on as best I can. Yes, I may be cranky and in pain, but at least I am paying the bills, right?

[BlackoutCreature]

I've pretty much learned in my life that if you are that absolutely miserable at your job then you're better off leaving, no matter how much they're paying you or how much you might need the money. Although I would do it in a responsible way, send out feelers and get an idea of what's out there before giving your notice.

Also if your headaches are bad enough to start effecting your vision you might want to see a doctor. There could be something a lot worse happening then just stress.

[Brandon Walsh is Insane.]

Leave your job. Sounds like you know what to do; do it. Don't waste time. Time is our most valuable asset.

I do applaud you doing what you need to do to make a living tho

[Can you afford to pay me, Gah]

Yes it's easy to say leave it without warning but the problem is the bills won't get paid. Trust me, I know how you feel because I am at that spot myself. There been this feeling over me for a couple months that I just want to walk out and say screw it and what is sad is I'm not the only one feeling that way.

I hate the fact that the morale in the whole place of business is in the shitter so to speak in away I never seen it and I've worked there for eight years next month and that from grand opening. From day one I've been there and honestly very few in this store can say that. Yet left and right people saying this and that like we are in high school. It's just ridiculous coming from people who are old enough to be my mom. I say this as until this Sat I've been the ONLY guy here and I know because of that I get taken advantage of to do most of the heavy lifting and crap like that you it has taken it's told one me. What sucks is I know what I need and can not afford it. The fact my knees when I bend sounds like Rice Crispies I know it's not good.I'm 31 and I feel like I'm 50 some days.

I can deal with doing hard work but when I always gets the worst of stuff. Like hey lets have me clean the bath rooms and make him cover two departments and be the only backup cashier on one of the busiest days of the week. Yeah it gotten to that point that I want to just walk and Christmas season is getting close and I'm not liking it.

The worst is I have three weeks of vacation and I NEED one of them in May because of a wedding that is all week deal so I feel like I'm stick.

[mattperiolat]

Sept 1, 2014 21:49:27 GMT -5 Can you afford to pay me, Gah said:

Yes it's easy to say leave it without warning but the problem is the bills won't get paid. Trust me, I know how you feel because I am at that spot myself. There been this feeling over me for a couple months that I just want to walk out and say screw it and what is sad is I'm not the only one feeling that way.

I hate the fact that the morale in the whole place of business is in the shitter so to speak in away I never seen it and I've worked there for eight years next month and that from grand opening. From day one I've been there and honestly very few in this store can say that. Yet left and right people saying this and that like we are in high school. It's just ridiculous coming from people who are old enough to be my mom. I say this as until this Sat I've been the ONLY guy here and I know because of that I get taken advantage of to do most of the heavy lifting and crap like that you it has taken it's told one me. What sucks is I know what I need and can not afford it. The fact my knees when I bend sounds like Rice Crispies I know it's not good.I'm 31 and I feel like I'm 50 some days.

I can deal with doing hard work but when I always gets the worst of stuff. Like hey lets have me clean the bath rooms and make him cover two departments and be the only backup cashier on one of the busiest days of the week. Yeah it gotten to that point that I want to just walk and Christmas season is getting close and I'm not liking it.

The worst is I have three weeks of vacation and I NEED one of them in May because of a wedding that is all week deal so I feel like I'm stick.

Jeez, man. You make me feel bad, given you have real problems. All I have are tension headaches and tired of getting yelled at by people. By comparison, what do I have to be upset about, really?

Truth is, and I'm pretty sure this is true of us all, we work very hard to pay the bills and to feel like, at the end of the day, we have accomplished something. This is not a hobby to keep us occupied, this is something we do to survive. Jobs are not meant to be easy, it's why it's work. But we all have our limits, physically and emotionally, and we have gotten to the point where we push beyond those limits out of sheer fear of what could happen when we don't.

I'm a big boy, I know I need to suck it up since I have an $800 a month mortgage to pay, plus utilities and expenses. I need the health insurance I get through my work to defray the costs of my diabetic medications, keeping them at a manageable $100 a month instead of the thousands it could run. I have to do that since, without my meds, Im dead in two weeks.

The trade off is just the nature of the beast, how humanity is sometimes. They don't see who I am or know that, believe it or not, I do care about all of my customers until they give me a reason not to. But everything put on me, I feel. So it is and I know it's impacting my performance and wearing me down physically. And the worst part? It's not just me in this world, as this statement proves. We all endure a world that views the average joe as expendable meat for the machine. It will grind on without us.

And yet... are we not meant to be so much more than this?

[mattperiolat]

Sept 1, 2014 21:49:27 GMT -5 Can you afford to pay me, Gah said:

Yes it's easy to say leave it without warning but the problem is the bills won't get paid. Trust me, I know how you feel because I am at that spot myself. There been this feeling over me for a couple months that I just want to walk out and say screw it and what is sad is I'm not the only one feeling that way.

I hate the fact that the morale in the whole place of business is in the shitter so to speak in away I never seen it and I've worked there for eight years next month and that from grand opening. From day one I've been there and honestly very few in this store can say that. Yet left and right people saying this and that like we are in high school. It's just ridiculous coming from people who are old enough to be my mom. I say this as until this Sat I've been the ONLY guy here and I know because of that I get taken advantage of to do most of the heavy lifting and crap like that you it has taken it's told one me. What sucks is I know what I need and can not afford it. The fact my knees when I bend sounds like Rice Crispies I know it's not good.I'm 31 and I feel like I'm 50 some days.

I can deal with doing hard work but when I always gets the worst of stuff. Like hey lets have me clean the bath rooms and make him cover two departments and be the only backup cashier on one of the busiest days of the week. Yeah it gotten to that point that I want to just walk and Christmas season is getting close and I'm not liking it.

The worst is I have three weeks of vacation and I NEED one of them in May because of a wedding that is all week deal so I feel like I'm stick.

Jeez, man. You make me feel bad, given you have real problems. All I have are tension headaches and tired of getting yelled at by people. By comparison, what do I have to be upset about, really?

Truth is, and I'm pretty sure this is true of us all, we work very hard to pay the bills and to feel like, at the end of the day, we have accomplished something. This is not a hobby to keep us occupied, this is something we do to survive. Jobs are not meant to be easy, it's why it's work. But we all have our limits, physically and emotionally, and we have gotten to the point where we push beyond those limits out of sheer fear of what could happen when we don't.

I'm a big boy, I know I need to suck it up since I have an $800 a month mortgage to pay, plus utilities and expenses. I need the health insurance I get through my work to defray the costs of my diabetic medications, keeping them at a manageable $100 a month instead of the thousands it could run. I have to do that since, without my meds, Im dead in two weeks.

The trade off is just the nature of the beast, how humanity is sometimes. They don't see who I am or know that, believe it or not, I do care about all of my customers until they give me a reason not to. But everything put on me, I feel. So it is and I know it's impacting my performance and wearing me down physically. And the worst part? It's not just me in this world, as this statement proves. We all endure a world that views the average joe as expendable meat for the machine. It will grind on without us.

And yet... are we not meant to be so much more than this?

[Can you afford to pay me, Gah]

Sept 1, 2014 22:39:09 GMT -5 mattperiolat said:

Sept 1, 2014 21:49:27 GMT -5 Can you afford to pay me, Gah said:

Yes it's easy to say leave it without warning but the problem is the bills won't get paid. Trust me, I know how you feel because I am at that spot myself. There been this feeling over me for a couple months that I just want to walk out and say screw it and what is sad is I'm not the only one feeling that way.

I hate the fact that the morale in the whole place of business is in the shitter so to speak in away I never seen it and I've worked there for eight years next month and that from grand opening. From day one I've been there and honestly very few in this store can say that. Yet left and right people saying this and that like we are in high school. It's just ridiculous coming from people who are old enough to be my mom. I say this as until this Sat I've been the ONLY guy here and I know because of that I get taken advantage of to do most of the heavy lifting and crap like that you it has taken it's told one me. What sucks is I know what I need and can not afford it. The fact my knees when I bend sounds like Rice Crispies I know it's not good.I'm 31 and I feel like I'm 50 some days.

I can deal with doing hard work but when I always gets the worst of stuff. Like hey lets have me clean the bath rooms and make him cover two departments and be the only backup cashier on one of the busiest days of the week. Yeah it gotten to that point that I want to just walk and Christmas season is getting close and I'm not liking it.

The worst is I have three weeks of vacation and I NEED one of them in May because of a wedding that is all week deal so I feel like I'm stick.

Jeez, man. You make me feel bad, given you have real problems. All I have are tension headaches and tired of getting yelled at by people. By comparison, what do I have to be upset about, really?

Truth is, and I'm pretty sure this is true of us all, we work very hard to pay the bills and to feel like, at the end of the day, we have accomplished something. This is not a hobby to keep us occupied, this is something we do to survive. Jobs are not meant to be easy, it's why it's work. But we all have our limits, physically and emotionally, and we have gotten to the point where we push beyond those limits out of sheer fear of what could happen when we don't.

I'm a big boy, I know I need to suck it up since I have an $800 a month mortgage to pay, plus utilities and expenses. I need the health insurance I get through my work to defray the costs of my diabetic medications, keeping them at a manageable $100 a month instead of the thousands it could run. I have to do that since, without my meds, Im dead in two weeks.

The trade off is just the nature of the beast, how humanity is sometimes. They don't see who I am or know that, believe it or not, I do care about all of my customers until they give me a reason not to. But everything put on me, I feel. So it is and I know it's impacting my performance and wearing me down physically. And the worst part? It's not just me in this world, as this statement proves. We all endure a world that views the average joe as expendable meat for the machine. It will grind on without us.

And yet... are we not meant to be so much more than this?

Yeah it sucks. regardless, I mean the worst of it is when most of the people involved are all managers of this place. That what makes it bad is the managers acting like high schoolers and that what makes it worst then anything is hearing about it all the time. But I feel like it's just comes down to the company as a whole as turned worst then it was when I started as for as systems on how you do stuff. But yeah headaches all the time but like I said, I wish I could leave but I'm like you to many bills that don't pay themselves. That my hold back more than anything. But we will see I know I a meant to do something better than this and I'm sure you are too. Hope we both find that soon.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

Go to work, dude. It's work, not super happy fun time. I've worked weekend nights for, it's unfair to say every last one but enough you wouldn't notice it, 16 years? Something like that.

I dunno. I have this bizarre idea of work I got off my parents, which is, they tell you to be there, you're there. Everyone happens to be working Dec 25? Guess when Christmas is? Not then.

If you hate it that much, quit. Because all you're doing is making yourself and everyone around miserable. Either quit or just go do it. Simple as that.

[Deleted]

Call centers are an AWFUL job. Not to be too over the top, but I honestly believe they're pretty much the exact opposite of the way people are supposed to live. I used to do them, and they had the same effect on me. I literally had my family doctor encourage me to quit.

You're probably American right? Do you guys have stress leave down there? We do up here in the frozen wastes of canada. Maybe go on leave for a few weeks to reset if you guys have it?

[mattperiolat]

Well, it's clearly time to go. Had a woman yelling at me and after the call, I was literally shaking I was so upset. Took me a moment to keep from breaking into tears. The trick now is finding another job before I get out. Gotta have it for health insurance reasons.