I never, ever know what to say on Tinder

[mcstoklasa]

I have a decent amount of matches and I never message anyone on Tinder. Occasionally I'll receive a message but I never know what to say.

The message could be something like "Hiiiiiii *wink faces*" or it could be more formal like "Hello! How are you?". I'll reply something rubbish and then it fizzles out, and often its me losing interest. I just feel uncomfortable messaging people I don't know. Sometimes the conversation will get going but then I'll think there's no chemistry or spark is all boring "so where do you work, what do you do" formalities. I feel like I'm a bit stiff and boring. I feel more like "me" in real life.

I also straight up don't like messaging girls on these apps because I hate the feeling after I've sent a message of waiting around for a response. No matter how hard I tell myself not to care about some random girl I've never met, I'll still be thinking "will she or won't she reply?". And I don't enjoy that feeling.

So basically how do I put/show more enthusiasm in my Tinder messages because I think I am just too disillusioned/bored/unenthusiastic about this sort of thing.

I don't normally like to use it but I've moved to a new city and I don't know anyone.


Edit- I also often will get a message from a girl and then won't reply for ages. Not to be cool in a false sense. More that I'll procrastinate on replying because as detailed above I find the whole thing pretty unpleasant and then I'll take so long to reply that by the time I might decide to reply they will have unmatched me.

[Deleted]

Just talk about common interests. They're just people on the other side of your smart phone looking for good convo.

[Professor Chaos]

Is there a way to use this if you don't have facebook? I downloaded the app and it asked me for my facebook info.

[mcstoklasa]

Dec 14, 2014 16:27:01 GMT -5 Professor Chaos said:

Is there a way to use this if you don't have facebook? I downloaded the app and it asked me for my facebook info.

Not sure. Don't thinnk so

[Mutant Couch]

I've received some really questionable messages on Tinder. So, I'd say just go with a "hi." Whatever you do, don't do this:



It's weird.

Dec 14, 2014 16:27:01 GMT -5 Professor Chaos said:

Is there a way to use this if you don't have facebook? I downloaded the app and it asked me for my facebook info.

Unfortunately there's not. I was hesitant to sign up for a long time because I didn't want it connected to mine.

[Main Eventer]

Say this: "Uh, hey baby you wanna score heh heh heh heh heh heh."

100% success rate guaranteed.

[Sparkybob]

Ask them which member of the shields she prefers.

[Non Banjoble Tokens]

Dec 14, 2014 20:57:13 GMT -5 Mutant Couch said:

I've received some really questionable messages on Tinder. So, I'd say just go with a "hi." Whatever you do, don't do this:



It's weird.

What? You don't like pizza?

[Dave the Dave]

Some girl asked me if I "would like to get lucky on here."

I said no.

[Toxik916]

Tinder is f***ing awesome. It's the best way to find some strange in this day and age. I've yet to have a relationship from someone on tinder but I've had a few hookups.

Tinder is best used for casual flings so keep your messages short and mainly based on your attraction to the match.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

Dec 14, 2014 20:57:13 GMT -5 Mutant Couch said:

I've received some really questionable messages on Tinder. So, I'd say just go with a "hi." Whatever you do, don't do this:



It's weird.

Dec 14, 2014 16:27:01 GMT -5 Professor Chaos said:

Is there a way to use this if you don't have facebook? I downloaded the app and it asked me for my facebook info.

Unfortunately there's not. I was hesitant to sign up for a long time because I didn't want it connected to mine.

It could have been Al Snow!

You could have also wound up buried in a shallow grave on the beach of that lake, but he had pizza at a lake for some reason.

["Gentleman" AJ Powell]

Dec 14, 2014 20:57:13 GMT -5 Mutant Couch said:

I've received some really questionable messages on Tinder. So, I'd say just go with a "hi." Whatever you do, don't do this:



It's weird.

Dec 14, 2014 16:27:01 GMT -5 Professor Chaos said:

Is there a way to use this if you don't have facebook? I downloaded the app and it asked me for my facebook info.

Unfortunately there's not. I was hesitant to sign up for a long time because I didn't want it connected to mine.

So that's where I've been going wrong! Evidently Pizza is the ultimate seduction tool!