Should a friend set me up?

[mattperiolat]

Seriously, could use some thoughts here.

I have a friend who I like and get along with real well. We're hanging out tomorrow in fact. But, she's engaged and besides, I think we are two different people. But, since she knows me pretty well and we are friends, I feel I can trust her to help me find someone. This is a case where no one gets hurt and it's just asking for help, so why not?

[Kash Flagg]

If you guys are friends, there's no real harm asking her to keep an eye out on someone that may be suitable for you.

Do want to add, if she does find a friend to hook you up with and it ends badly, she will know about it. Keep that in mind.

[mattperiolat]

Dec 27, 2014 21:40:01 GMT -5 Kash Flagg said:

If you guys are friends, there's no real harm asking her to keep an eye out on someone that may be suitable for you.

Do want to add, if she does find a friend to hook you up with and it ends badly, she will know about it. Keep that in mind.

Oh, good point. But I look at it another way - friends who want what's best for friends will not let a friendship be endangered by a relationship. Easy to say, but tough to prove. I will take the advice and go with care.

[Brood Lone Wolf Funker]

To add to that if it does end badly you may wind up resenting your friend for setting you up with the person. Just because someone knows you doesn't mean they know what you like in a girlfriend or significant other.

["I'm Batman..."]

It's worth a shot.

["Magic" Mark Hurr]

Set you up? Should she put you on her shoulders and hoist you up for the doom's day device? Why sure. That's what friends are for.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

If you want to. Just remember, you gotta take the bitter with the sweet. Her taste in woman might suck. Also, the words she uses to describe her friends will probably mean something way different in woman language than in men language.

[Deleted]

Give it a go.

Dating is hard. It never hurts to have someone putting feelers out there for you.

They have to "get you" though. Sometimes that sort of thing works out like when my Mom buys me pants. She never displays any understanding of my personal sense of style. She buys me stuff she wants me to wear.

[abjordans]

I wouldn't ask her to set you up.. But, if she naturally suggests she has a friend you may get along with, go with it.

I had a friend who used to always bug my ex girlfriend to set him up with one of her friends. She didn't like it because it came off a bit creepy and that he only wanted to hang out to get in one of her friends pants. She also said it was too much pressure because she never felt lime it was just hanging out, because he was always like "so what is up with so and so? She single?" instead of just hanging out and letting the peices fall in place.

[Milkman Norm]

Yes. You should.

["Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay]

As long as you are aware of the potential ramifications if it goes south or even if the date goes bad, you have nothing else to lose at all.

Lots of people are dead against setups and they can be awful, but your first date with someone you actually meet yourself and flirt with could be awful. Nothing in life comes easy, or without risk - nothing worth having or with any permanence at any rate.

Go for it.

[Mid-Carder]

I think if this girl knows you and the girl she sets you up with well enough, it could work out and she could match up two well-suited people. But, as others have said, just be aware of the potential drawbacks

[The Shareholder is nude]

Just go on J-Date