iwchater
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Post by iwchater on Dec 12, 2006 19:46:32 GMT -5
Well, i forgot to mention there's this other chick who i swear REALLY likes me. Here's the catch (there's always a catch.), she's the ex-girlfriend of one of my best friends. Ever since i asked him if it was ok if i dated her he's kinda been acting like an ass. The other chick is perfectly nice. But damn this situation sucks as well.
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Post by Chris Decker-The Wild Rover on Dec 12, 2006 19:50:13 GMT -5
gents its all bout being confident.
thats all i got really i've been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years so maybe i'm outta the loop
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Dec 12, 2006 20:30:23 GMT -5
This man is correct.
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Post by amsiraK on Dec 12, 2006 20:50:49 GMT -5
gents its all bout being confident. thats all i got really i've been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years so maybe i'm outta the loop LOL - hell, I don't know why I even click on these threads. Next year is 10 years of wedded wackiness for us.
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Matt Rogers
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Post by Matt Rogers on Dec 12, 2006 20:51:38 GMT -5
gents its all bout being confident. thats all i got really i've been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years so maybe i'm outta the loop LOL - hell, I don't know why I even click on these threads. Next year is 10 years of wedded wackiness for us. Happy anniversary! Although maybe I'm a bit ahead of myself there.
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 12, 2006 21:15:06 GMT -5
Whoever said confidence nailed it.
See, me, </dons cowboy hat and giant gun> I'm a Sexual Tyrannosaurus! </chews tobacco, grows Jesse Ventura-mustache>
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Dec 13, 2006 0:04:41 GMT -5
confidence
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CONFIDENCE
NOW WHERE THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO FIND THIS?
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Dec 13, 2006 1:19:45 GMT -5
confidence ... CONFIDENCE NOW WHERE THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO FIND THIS? Half of it is acting the part. When I broke up with my ex and started getting back into the loop, I wasn't much of a ladies man. You guys might laugh, but my solution was simple... Act like Ric Flair's image. Style and profile. Use his old Ray Steven's quote (I'm a f***er and a fighter and a wild bull rider). It worked. Which then boosted my natural confidence and let my natural charisma come out...it becomes complimentary, and you learn that success is possible. When you get that, then striking out doesn't seem like nearly as big a deal. And seriously...be yourself. Ric Flair was a good influence for me because his image is/was so over the top, and I've got a really tremendous ability to enjoy the ridiculous. So it worked well, because I was acting in a fashion that wasn't a stretch for me. Find something that has the same effect for you, and stick with it. The results are well worth putting yourself out there.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Dec 13, 2006 1:21:33 GMT -5
Excellently put my friend. I totally agree. You develop confidence. and like was just mentioned, you can sometimes fake your way into it. It sounds weird but it works, even if you're not 100% exuding confidence, you can carry yourself in such a way that it seems like you are, and then somewhere along the way, you actually are confident.
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 13, 2006 1:24:47 GMT -5
I'll just walk around campus with "Cult of Personality" playing in my head. Makes me walk even more upright (something I'm already good at), and I feel like I'm in control of things whenever I hear it.
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Dec 13, 2006 1:26:23 GMT -5
Excellently put my friend. I totally agree. You develop confidence. and like was just mentioned, you can sometimes fake your way into it. It sounds weird but it works, even if you're not 100% confindence, you can carry yourself in such a way that it seems like you are, and then somewhere along the way, you actually are confident. I was always pretty confident to start with...like, the kind that if you don't know me and I wasn't being unfailingly polite, would probably have you wondering if I'm cool or I'm an arrogant prick. But with the ladies, I always had difficulty. The only reason I had success before that was because when I was debating and what not in high school, I was GOOD...and when I was debating, I didn't think about the girls I was talking to because we were talking debate stuff. They noticed me for the success, they got into me because I let it happen. As far as the development goes, one success is really all anyone needs, at least in my experience. They'll beat themselves up forever if they haven't gotten together with a lady they made an attempt on constantly, but when one actually goes for it, then most people see that getting turned down isn't actually as big a deal as it seems. Don't get me wrong, its not fun, but it's not the end of the world.
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Dec 13, 2006 1:27:45 GMT -5
I'll just walk around campus with "Cult of Personality" playing in my head. Makes me walk even more upright (something I'm already good at), and I feel like I'm in control of things whenever I hear it. Pretty much any good rock song helps me out. My favorites around the time my lady and I got together was I Believe in a Thing Called Love by the Darkness. I need to have them be pretty positive, though, otherwise I just get intense and wanna break windows and headbang.
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 13, 2006 1:30:38 GMT -5
Very true. Failure never feels good, but you learn to put stuff into perspective once you've had at least one success.
Also, never short change yourself; I was kind of a late bloomer, so to speak, but when I did start getting "successes" awhile back, word got around that, well...I was good.
And when word like that travels, it's good for you. That's part of the "when it rains, it pours" idea; you hit it off with one person, suddenly you've got two more interested in you.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Dec 13, 2006 1:31:31 GMT -5
That's a great point as well. Everybody strikes out once in awhile. But hell there's three billion women or so on the planet.
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 13, 2006 1:34:11 GMT -5
That's a great point as well. Everybody strikes out once in awhile. But hell there's three billion women or so on the planet. And hell, even if you get truly heartbroken, you never have to let it cripple you. I had my heart broken about three years ago, absolutely shattered, but, after awhile, I moved on, saw new people, yadda yadda. It still hurts me to think about the heartbreak, and there's still a big part of me that wants that to work out again, but, in the meantime, I'm not about to let it weigh me down, or stop me from enjoying myself now. Heh, I just wrote a whole paragraph that could be summed up as "Don't be emo."
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Dec 13, 2006 1:38:01 GMT -5
Did the same about a year and a half ago. Time, it is a band-aid. And it's sorta like what I told a friend of mine who a few months ago was going through something similar to my own heartbreak when they said " it'll kill me to leave". Nothing will kill you, it may hurt like hell, you may wish some days it would, but nothing of that sort will kill you. Hell in a way, to me mine was worth it for the lessons learned. Besides there were some good times too, and I wouldn't trade those for missing the hurt.
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salTy
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Post by salTy on Dec 13, 2006 1:39:48 GMT -5
I've taken a vow of not getting involved with women because they'll only get in the way of my schemes with their sex powers.
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