Captain Stud Muffin (BLM)
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Post by Captain Stud Muffin (BLM) on Jun 24, 2020 4:08:35 GMT -5
A damn shame
Makes me happier tho that him and Mia Yim have found each other through their trials and tribulations
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2020 4:10:19 GMT -5
Keith Lee is a sweetheart and it f***ing sucks that it happened to him. I'm glad he's at least comfortable enough to come forward with this now.
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Post by HMARK Center on Jun 24, 2020 11:03:56 GMT -5
That's heartbreaking, and Lee seems like a really great guy.
It really is awful the way we pressure men to bottle everything inside; to show emotion, vulnerability, or even a lack of sexual desire in a given situation ("she was throwing herself at you, bro!") somehow makes you less of a man, and in a culture of toxic masculinity there's nothing worse a man can be insulted with than saying he's acting "gay" or "like a woman", as if being like either of those groups should be something to be ashamed of. Then a man gets assaulted or harassed, and now he's too afraid to come forward about it because it'd make him look weak in the eyes of patriarchal culture; "I can't look like a VICTIM, only women or gay people can be victims!". It's insanity, but millions of people internalize garbage like this.
It's why it's so powerful for a guy as visible and as big as Lee to testify to his own experience like this. Is Keith-freaking-Lee somehow "less of a man" because this happened to him, or because he's admitting how it hurt him? God, no, and if anything he's all the stronger a person (forget the "man" label, here) for baring it to the world in a bid to reach out to others and let them now they're not alone.
I get that there's a difference between what most women go through and what many men who get harassed do; I've had a couple times in my life where I was being hit on heavily by women I did not wish to reciprocate with, but women are much more likely to have their stories of abuse and harassment ignored or called lies, plus I knew as the more physically powerful person in each situation that I was never in any real physical danger that I was aware of. But again, that only makes a story like Lee's all the more powerful; he's physically stronger than I could ever be, but even he could be physically victimized, and while his being a man means his story is more likely to be believed across the board, he faces the aforementioned challenges many of us are bringing up about being belittled or seen as lesser because he dared to show vulnerability. Dude deserves a lot of credit for not holding back.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2020 15:59:09 GMT -5
Horrible. I'm so glad that he's happy in life now and that his voice can inspire others as well.
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Post by Squirrel Master on Jun 24, 2020 15:59:18 GMT -5
I would never have expected someone the size of Keith to be a victim. Really puts things in perspective. Did you not see Pulp Fiction?
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