Just wanted to vent, you don't have to read this

[The Legendary Ring Troll {BLM}]

Sorry everyone, I have no one else to talk to about this, so I just wanted to post here. You don't have to read this, I just needed to vent.

My wife tried to intentionally overdose last night. This all stems from the previous night. We were watching Godzilla on the bed, both of us on our devices. She turned completely away from the TV, facing towards me, while still using her phone. Without thinking, I said "Godzilla's that way." She took this as rude and unnecessary and turned away from me. She soon left the room in the middle of the movie without a word to me and didn't come back for awhile. I turned the TV off and laid down. Mind you, we both suffer from depression. The next morning, she asks me to do something with a bit of anger in her voice. When I returned, she angrily asked if I did it. I returned her tone and said yes. This set her off, now I'm being mean and trying to fight since I had a tone. This sets me off, as this is a regular occurrence and usually I'm apologizing for random stuff, but its built up to the point where I'm upset now. I leave. She locks the door. I come back because I don't have my phone, wallet, keys, nothing. She won't open the door. I need my things but she won't let me in, I finally have to break the door to get my stuff. She starts gaslighting me and telling me I'm crazy and she's frightened of me and I'm doing all this. I leave. We don't talk all day. She sends me a picture of an empty pill bottle while I'm at work. Shortly after, I go to the hospital to see her. She's passed out, practically comatose. The couple times she does manage to open her eyes, she doesn't really seem to know what shes seeing. Doctor said she'll be there overnight and I should go home.

I receive a call today from her in the hospital. Still slurring and groggy. Says come pick me up. I go to the hospital, and they're confused. Someone finally comes talks to me and says, she's being admitted by the doctor and is unable to leave. When I asked if I could see her, I was told she became physical with staff while trying to exit the ward and is now sedated and restrained. I'm not allowed to see her, she's not allowed to leave, I don't know what's going on, my depression started triggering during our fight and now I'm full on depressed. I don't know what to do.

[ookkie]

First of all - good for you for reaching out. No need to feel guilty for doing so or for feeling depressed and angry.

It can be hard for people to process and communicate their feelings in situations like this, so my suggestion would be to keep the lines of communication open however you can - with friends, family, your wife, a counsellor, a help line, whatever. It sounds like your wife needs help to address whatever issues she’s facing and that the doctors will be there to look out for her. While you are there to support her, know that it is equally important to address your own fears, frustrations and sadnesses. For some this could be prescribed medication, counseling or a mixture of the two.

In any event, it sounds like both of you need help stabilizing yourselves for your own wellness first, and then can later address the relationship.

Communication is key. I’m the type who tends to bottle up my sadness and frustration and then lash out angrily, so it has taken a lot of time to adjust.

I think I speak for all of us on the forum that we’re here for you. Please take advantage of the advice offered by your medical professionals and loved ones.

[Chainsaw]

God, I'm so sorry to hear this, man. Hoping you and her are going to be okay. *hugs*

[edgestar]

We're here for you. Depression is a scary thing to go through. I do hope that you both can be helped. Taking an angry tone, when she was already angry, didn't help. She still wanted you to help, by showing that picture.

When I get angry, I cry. A lot. Then I wonder why I was so upset.

I will keep you both in thoughts and prayers. You're not alone.

[Clash, Never a Meter Maid]

I’m really, really sorry you’re currently dealing with that right now. All of my love and support to both of you at this time, dude.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry for what you are going through.

I was married for 12 years and my wife and I both have mental problems. I wanted to deal with mine in a healthy way and take my meds and go to therapy. She wanted to drink and make herself worse. Needless to say, it didn't work out. I'm not telling you what to do, but I just want to say that sometimes love is not in fact enough. I loved my wife I just couldn't be healthy while she was being self destructive. I'm much happier without her.

[The_Don_Mecha]

I feel for you. That's a very difficult situation and I hope that you seek some kind of counseling for yourself, as that is a traumatic situation that will most likely have an effect on you. Please stay safe and reach out to those who can support you.

[Blade]

As someone who has been in both the you situation and the your wife's situation, it's good that you're reaching out. You need help too, this kind of thing is not something anyone should be handling alone. Isolation in these sort of circumstances is horrific. I hope you have good friends that you can rely on for support.

I will second everyone in saying that although I know very well it isn't easy, getting therapy is worthwhile. Don't be tempted to let it slide just because things go back to normal for a week or two, or even months. Therapy won't fix all your problems, but a competent one can make a world of difference in coping strategies and techniques to make it easier to make it through each day.

Good luck, and good on you for making it this far and doing what you can. Nothing happened that can't be taken back - and that's a really silver lining to this dark cloud.