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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2023 20:47:16 GMT -5
I'll still never forget the time I was told by someone working a hotel during a fur con, that from their experience the coin collector and antique conventions were apparently far worse behaved than the furries and far meaner to the staff, which is pretty impressive to think about. As I mentioned earlier, I run a smaller, local comic con for charity, and the staff and I are constantly told by the hotel workers that they vastly prefer dealing with our crowd than the ones at their Etsy maker shows and the vendor shows for Lularoe, Scentsy, and all of those MLMs.
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Post by pinja on Apr 29, 2023 21:15:05 GMT -5
Most adults I know don't have any hobbies, and I also find it difficult to maintain my hobbies on a regular basis. When I come home from work, I can't sit down on the sofa straight away if I still want to get something done. I exercise four times a week, it's a hobby and certainly socially recognised, but at least in my circle of acquaintances it's exotic enough that I regularly get comments for it. Everything else flies under the radar anyway. I like to write and maintain a large collection of books, but one doesn't really talk about it, one just does it. And there we are again with my first point: I find it difficult to maintain such rather intellectual hobbies because they cost me a kind of energy of which I hardly have any left in the late afternoon. That's why I'm currently combining at least my recreation with my writing. In other words, I watch a film or read a book and review it for myself. Otherwise I would hardly be able to bring myself to write specifically.
What does that have to do with the actual topic now? I think that although I actually have "respectable" hobbies, it's not a grown-up thing to cultivate them. Rather, it is a luxury that many adults cannot afford. Be it because they lack the time or the energy. That's why no natural dialogue develops with friends and acquaintances over it. They don't share the hobbies, so they don't care whether they are socially accepted or located in younger years. Wrestling, nerd culture, etc., anything I just consume, are not hobbies for me, but interests. I've watched wrestling with my boss and video games are something you can talk about with almost anyone. Among my circle of colleagues, there are enough role-players that they work out huge campaigns. One of them has already published on the subject. If an interest, of any kind, produces a scientific paper, then that's always socially accepted.
The thing is, and I at least hinted at this, for all your interests and hobbies, you rarely talk about it. With work colleagues and friends, if we manage to meet, I talk about work, about experiences of the last time, plans for the next. About relationships, the household, investments, what's going on at the moment. We make sure, so to speak, that we have our lives under control and that we are going through the world in a reasonably attentive way. As long as this is the case, we can pursue any interest or hobby, no matter how absurd. The personality is more conspicuous anyway. If that is out of the ordinary, you will be looked at askance even over a glass of wine at an art exhibition.
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Allie Kitsune
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Apr 29, 2023 21:26:31 GMT -5
Cigars, Whiskey, talking about Financial Wheelings and Dealings, custom tailored business suits, working on cars.
Otherwise, you're not supposed to have hobbies. Your life is meant to be nothing but work, and possibly military service.
Unless you want your father to hate you forever.
*sigh*
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Post by "Cane Dewey" Johnson on Apr 29, 2023 22:12:31 GMT -5
I prefer to live by this quote from Lewis Carroll, writer of "Alice in Wonderland": "Critics who treat adult as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But then into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development: When I was ten I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." That's actually a CS Lewis quote. Still a valid response though. I think Simon Pegg's column from a few years ago adds much needed nuance and contemporary perspective to Lewis' quote, no less in consideration of today's world in which we are encouraged to cultivate the very lack of "moderation" (to use Lewis' precise word) of childishness that borders on infantilization. simonpegg.net/2015/05/19/big-mouth-strikes-again/Especially in the years since Pegg wrote this column, I'd argue that people don't even need to be encouraged by extrinsic forces to do cultivate a lack of moderation of childishness; they happily desire the very thing all by themselves.
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Post by Instant Classic on Apr 29, 2023 22:56:37 GMT -5
Not my little ponies
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Dr. T is an alien
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Post by Dr. T is an alien on Apr 29, 2023 23:28:13 GMT -5
I’m thinking of taking up craft brewing.
Yes, Perfect Cell’s voice from DBZA was going through my head as I typed that. I am serious about wanting to brew my own booze though.
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legendkiller1985
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Post by legendkiller1985 on Apr 29, 2023 23:28:36 GMT -5
Just remember those who tell you that you can't do something were the ones who failed at it and refused to try again.
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Cranjis McBasketball
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Apr 30, 2023 0:11:36 GMT -5
You're not supposed to be into anything, but really, once you're like "My retirement fund didn't receive a good return this", it's time to hang up the Superman cape and join the real world.
I know, Superman is awesome cause he punches away all the bullies, but still, it's time. It's time.
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Post by Bo Rida on Apr 30, 2023 2:44:36 GMT -5
Most adults I know don't have any hobbies, and I also find it difficult to maintain my hobbies on a regular basis. Rather, it is a luxury that many adults cannot afford. Be it because they lack the time or the energy. Good full post but these in particular. I'd add lack of money too. Can't have "adult" hobbies like gardening if you can't afford a house, can't own a classic car if every penny goes to your landlord. Can't join a sports team if you work unsociable hours. Big concerts and sports events cost more than they once did. But even many with time and money seem to lack hobbies. Personally I'm lucky that being able to WFH has given me more time, energy and money by eliminating the commute. I've been able to watch more wrestling and do more excercise than I've been able to in many years. Plus it means I'm sick less often which again means more excercise. Which means I sleep better which gives me more energy. It's a virtuous circle. Finally drink lots of alcohol is a popular adult hobby for all ages.
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Post by aka Cthulhu on Apr 30, 2023 3:12:45 GMT -5
You're not supposed to be into anything, but really, once you're like "My retirement fund didn't receive a good return this", it's time to hang up the Superman cape and join the real world. I know, Superman is awesome cause he punches away all the bullies, but still, it's time. It's time. That feels rather defeatist to me. Like, yeah, you gotta take mind of what the future holds and prepare as best you could, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue some passions you have right now. Live within your means, make small sacrifices without harming your future, or else life is just sacrificing your day-to-day until the day comes in an unknown future and you find out that you won't really enjoy anything because you skipped past everything.
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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Apr 30, 2023 3:17:09 GMT -5
Hanging out at the Gentleman's Club wearing full tuxedo, top hat and monocle, sitting around with all the other gentlemen discussing the latest musings on the stock ticker machine in British accents.
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Post by Glitch on Apr 30, 2023 7:32:27 GMT -5
The only thing an adult is absolutely supposed to be into is being responsible and professional in conduct.
Me paying my bills on time while having anime figures on my desk and wearing cosplay is way more adult than a beer aficionado who's finances are a complete mess and acts very hostile to anyone that slightly annoys them.
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Post by schma on Apr 30, 2023 10:17:41 GMT -5
You're not supposed to be into anything, but really, once you're like "My retirement fund didn't receive a good return this", it's time to hang up the Superman cape and join the real world. I know, Superman is awesome cause he punches away all the bullies, but still, it's time. It's time. It is possible to engage in fiction and enjoy cosplay while still being firmly rooted in the real world. For some cosplay is about the artistry (it takes hours to make costumes, sewing skills, crafting skills, hell sometimes woodworking skills). For some it's because they love a character and want to dress up like them for fun for a day or two while surrounded by other people who enjoy doing the same. Hell it's like halloween.
The thing is, while every fandom has its members who are immature or not 'grown up' there are plenty who enjoy something that is not traditionally considered adult for a variety of reasons. I love stories of good overcoming evil regardless of the format, whether tv, movie, book, comic. Not everything i absorb follows that format though and I fully recognize that the world is a complicated place. However, comics, even superhero comics at their best are far more than 'Superman punches away the bullies'. The best comics tell a great story that moves the reader. It's not all awesome like that. Wrestling is similar. Some of wrestling is incredibly juvenile and immature, but when it's great, it's great.
It's easy to say join the real world, grow up. However, this thread shows that we can't even really agree on what that constitutes. I regularly game, videogame, table top game, board game and I have met a wealth of mature, well adjusted people who are friendly and welcoming. I also work with plenty of people that I honestly feel like I'm babysitting and many of them engage in what is traditionally considered grown up stuff.
My world has space for worrying about my mortgage, retirement and other adult things while also having space for the nerdy shit I love.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2023 11:34:52 GMT -5
You're not supposed to be into anything, but really, once you're like "My retirement fund didn't receive a good return this", it's time to hang up the Superman cape and join the real world. I know, Superman is awesome cause he punches away all the bullies, but still, it's time. It's time. I’ve found that it’s entirely possible to keep up with my retirement fund and dress up like a Ghostbuster on the weekends. Cosplayers are some of the most skilled multitaskers you’ll ever meet.
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hassanchop
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Post by hassanchop on Apr 30, 2023 12:16:21 GMT -5
What this guy says
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Post by BlackoutCreature on Apr 30, 2023 13:22:26 GMT -5
Not gonna lie, would be willing to accept it if it got me sitting at a table next to 80's Amanda Pays.
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Post by ChitownKnight on Apr 30, 2023 13:32:30 GMT -5
Whatever the hell they want as long as they have their shit together and don’t harm anyone
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Post by Cyno on Apr 30, 2023 14:15:50 GMT -5
Vigorous debates about the capital gains tax.
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Post by 4real on Apr 30, 2023 14:42:41 GMT -5
HARDCORE NUDITY!
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Post by Triangle Lancer on Apr 30, 2023 16:05:15 GMT -5
Si non oscillas, noli tintinnare.
(If you don't swing, don't ring.)
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