Post by OGBoardPoster2005 on Nov 25, 2009 13:11:21 GMT -5
A while back one of my friends fell for one another. The way it had been conceived was that he had been pursuing 2 other girls just two days earlier and out of nowhere went out with her. Things went smoothly it seemed for a while and suddenly issues started rising up between him and her mom. Her mom found out that he was going to visit her at school everyday for 5 minutes(while in the process lurking around the area for 1-2 hours beforehand). He would also sit outside her workplace for 2-3 hours waiting for her break to talk to her again for 15 minutes. In late-October he illegally took her to Washington D.C. for her field trip(without telling her mom) leading to her being grounded for a month and her forbidding him to see her in that time. However, he refused to listen and kept going to the school. 2 weeks ago they broke up and he blamed her mom for making her do it.
He calls her mom and asks her if she played a role in it and her mom says no. Suddenly he changes his mood and starts claiming how he never liked her and liked someone else instead then he called her "controlling". He continues seeing her and last week her mom caught him again and threatened to charge him with stalking. He claims that her mom is stalking him. I was under the influence that his gf was just as determined to undermine her mom as he was.
However, on Monday she calls me and tells me how he was controlling her and had forbidden her from contacting me or any other friends. That he was the one who pushed himself into going to the school and that he was causing friction between her and her mom. Since September he's told me that he plans on getting her emancipated(after 1 months of knowing her) and that he was going to sue her mom for harassment. Last night he told her he was going to kill himself if she didn't take him back. I'm currently minoring in psychology at my local college and I've analyzed his behavior thoroughly.
I fear that his love has turned into obsession. He stalks her constantly and this issue is causing damage to her mentally and academically and creating friction between her and her mom. He is 19 years old, has no job, and doesn't even attend school. He has a tendency to blame everyone but himself for his problems. I fear this could get worse, so anyone who has any knowledge or experience in a situation like this, what would you suggest?
He calls her mom and asks her if she played a role in it and her mom says no. Suddenly he changes his mood and starts claiming how he never liked her and liked someone else instead then he called her "controlling". He continues seeing her and last week her mom caught him again and threatened to charge him with stalking. He claims that her mom is stalking him. I was under the influence that his gf was just as determined to undermine her mom as he was.
However, on Monday she calls me and tells me how he was controlling her and had forbidden her from contacting me or any other friends. That he was the one who pushed himself into going to the school and that he was causing friction between her and her mom. Since September he's told me that he plans on getting her emancipated(after 1 months of knowing her) and that he was going to sue her mom for harassment. Last night he told her he was going to kill himself if she didn't take him back. I'm currently minoring in psychology at my local college and I've analyzed his behavior thoroughly.
I fear that his love has turned into obsession. He stalks her constantly and this issue is causing damage to her mentally and academically and creating friction between her and her mom. He is 19 years old, has no job, and doesn't even attend school. He has a tendency to blame everyone but himself for his problems. I fear this could get worse, so anyone who has any knowledge or experience in a situation like this, what would you suggest?