How do I approach this girl?

[Deleted]

Okay, long story short - I've never had a problem with girls, but this time, I have no idea what to do.

I've been taking a class on the Beatles this semester (finished it today actually). All through the semester, I kept noticing this girl who remarkably looks like Eva Angelina (face wise). I brought my friend into class one time because I couldn't believe the likeness, and even he (who loves to contradict me) couldn't believe it.

Never got around to talking to her though. Today, before our final, I notice that I'm sitting a few seat away from her at the library - but keep going on in my studies. She gets up and then I notice that she has a Strokes badge on her bag. The Strokes are my favorite band. Plus she obviously loves the Beatles. Plus she looks like this



Now, having never spoken to her, I didn't know what her name was, until I went on the class mailing list and one by one, checked out the names to the faces on Facebook (am I a stalker yet?). I now know her name, and wanna talk to her, but the semester's over, so the whole face to face thing won't happen - is there anyway I can talk to her without appearing like a freakazoid?

Thanks Wrestlecrap

[Next Level was WRONG]

Judging by the picture, from behind.

[ThereIsNoAbsurdistOnlyZuul]

Dec 10, 2009 20:37:35 GMT -5 Next Level was WRONG said:

Judging by the picture, from behind.

And perhaps wearing some ninja gear.

[Thrillho]

Walking on your knees with a fish sellotaped over your eyes.

[Tapout]

Dec 10, 2009 20:41:46 GMT -5 Thrillho said:

Walking on your knees with a fish sellotaped over your eyes.

Trying something a little more understated than this would probably be a good idea.

It sounds like you're just intimidated by this girl and at this point, you're driving yourself insane by inventing weird stalker-y what-if scenarios in your head.

In my experience, no women actually enjoy being approached by weird stalker-y guys. Try to treat her like a regular person, respectfully but low-key, almost like she's your classmate. Actually, since she is your classmate, treat her like a classmate. You could easily break the ice with her by talking to her about coursework, the class, the instructor, etc., and go from there.

Unless it's a case of her falling in love with you at first sight, which hasn't happened yet (and therefore, won't ever happen), you will not get to go from "I don't really know this girl" to "meaningful relationship" in a single day. You're going to have to take it slow by getting to know her. Break the ice, get a conversation going, and don't come at it like a needy stalker who expects her to immediately start dating.

Keep it low key, don't psyche yourself out, don't weird her out, and go from there. Her resemblance to an adult star has nothing to do with her (unless she's related), you, or your chances. The way you act and talk does.

Also, keep in mind, you're not the only factor in this situation with regards to whether or not anything comes of this. She may not be looking for a boyfriend, or she may already have one. So you may win big, or you may not get anywhere, but you won't know until you try.

In a friendly, respectful, but low-key, non-stalker-y way.

[ThereIsNoAbsurdistOnlyZuul]

Dec 10, 2009 20:49:24 GMT -5 Tapout said:

Dec 10, 2009 20:41:46 GMT -5 Thrillho said:

Walking on your knees with a fish sellotaped over your eyes.

Trying something a little more understated than this would probably be a good idea.

It sounds like you're just intimidated by this girl and at this point, you're driving yourself insane by inventing weird stalker-y what-if scenarios in your head.

In my experience, no women actually enjoy being approached by weird stalker-y guys. Try to treat her like a regular person, respectfully but low-key, almost like she's your classmate. Actually, since she is your classmate, treat her like a classmate. You could easily break the ice with her by talking to her about coursework, the class, the instructor, etc., and go from there.

Unless it's a case of her falling in love with you at first sight, which hasn't happened yet (and therefore, won't ever happen), you will not get to go from "I don't really know this girl" to "meaningful relationship" in a single day. You're going to have to take it slow by getting to know her. Break the ice, get a conversation going, and don't come at it like a needy stalker who expects her to immediately start dating.

Keep it low key, don't psyche yourself out, don't weird her out, and go from there. Her resemblance to an adult star has nothing to do with her (unless she's related), you, or your chances. The way you act and talk does.

Also, keep in mind, you're not the only factor in this situation with regards to whether or not anything comes of this. She may not be looking for a boyfriend, or she may already have one. So you may win big, or you may not get anywhere, but you won't know until you try.

In a friendly, respectful, but low-key, non-stalker-y way.

Also be confident. This one is REALLY key. I mean, you have no idea how key. Shy guys and the best friend types rarely get the girl because they aren't showing the girl their interest, and showing that they deserve the interest.

This doesn't translate into being a Zach Ryder or any other kind of jerk, but definitely you need to convey to her in your interactions that "I am good enough to sit at this table."




P.S. Dressing up like ninja resolves some of these issues.

[Dr. Mantis Toboggan]

I have a question myself:

They have classes on The Beatles?!?!?!Where do I sign?

[Deleted]

Greatest class of all time.
Problem is, it's done now - so there is no class for me to sit next to her and talk to - had that been the case, I wouldn't be posting and asking for help.

To reiterate the problem.
I think this girl's awesome (i barely know her, granted) and I wanna talk to her - but with no class now, and I found her on Facebook. But I can't up and send her a message and be like "hey, I'm that guy from your class - wanna start talking to me?" now can I?

[Koda, Master Crunchyroller]

This is how you approach her. Warning, language:

[Bob Schlapowitz]

What should you do...................?















"GO GET HER, RAY!"

[i.Sarita.com]

I think your opening line NEEDS to be how you think she looks just like some internet porn star. That'd go over well I'm sure.

[SHAKEMASTER TV9 is Don Knotts]

Dec 10, 2009 21:42:39 GMT -5 Bob Schlapowitz said:

What should you do...................?















"GO GET HER, RAY!"

Okay; sticks?
HOLDIN'!
Heat 'em up!
SMOKIN'!
MAKE 'EM HARD!
READY!
Let's show this chick how you do things downtown.

[Tom Selleck]

Since you're using Facebook as a part of your conquest you should look at her friends list and see if the two of you share any mutual friends. If so you can get that person to introduce you to her. Once you're introduced you've got the Beatles Class as a nice topic to open with. If that doesn't work just give me her name and I'll gladly add her to my facebook.

[Bob Schlapowitz]

Dec 10, 2009 22:12:54 GMT -5 SHAKEMASTER TV9 is Don Knotts said:

Dec 10, 2009 21:42:39 GMT -5 Bob Schlapowitz said:

What should you do...................?















"GO GET HER, RAY!"

Okay; sticks?
HOLDIN'!
Heat 'em up!
SMOKIN'!
MAKE 'EM HARD!
READY!
Let's show this prehistoric bitch how you do things downtown.

Fixed that quote for you.

[HMARK Center]

Tapout said most of it best, and that applies to talking to a woman in person or online; be direct, be confident, but be casual, as well.

If you do get in touch with her on Facebook, just say something along the lines of "I was in that Beatles class with you, but I happened to notice the Strokes patch on your bag, which is ten kinds of awesome", and just let her know you'd like to chat some time. Don't write too much, since a long introductory email/private message is usually considered a turn off. Again, be direct, but casual.

[Non Banjoble Tokens]

Approach her while carrying some sort of music playing device and make sure the "Africa" by Toto is playing.

[Dr. Mantis Toboggan]

Dec 10, 2009 22:51:04 GMT -5 HMARK Center said:

Tapout said most of it best, and that applies to talking to a woman in person or online; be direct, be confident, but be casual, as well.

If you do get in touch with her on Facebook, just say something along the lines of "I was in that Beatles class with you, but I happened to notice the Strokes patch on your bag, which is ten kinds of awesome", and just let her know you'd like to chat some time. Don't write too much, since a long introductory email/private message is usually considered a turn off. Again, be direct, but casual.

I agree with this.That's probably the best thing to do.

[Young Game]

Do you own any ultra-rare, ultra-hard-to-find Strokes cd's?
Are you of age to purchase good wine and/or Heineken?

Show up at her door with these two things in hand.
Should you make it past the front door, just be casual.

[Deleted]

Hahaha I do have some rare Strokes items
I can buy Heiney and wine

I facebooked through the student list to find her name, so showing up at her door with alcohol would be... hmmm, how you say... stalkerish?

I'm annoyed that I have to make the approach through FB to be honest, I mean, what do I answer when she says "who are you? and how did you find me?" I mean realistically, what can I say to that?

[The Charismatic Enabeler]

For the love of ray j DO NOT contact her on Facebook!!!! That's super creepy. Just sat hello when you see her. Introduce yourself, say something along the lines of "So what you taking now that The Beatles class is over?" Idle conversation goes a long way in a situation like yours.