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Post by Young Game on Dec 11, 2009 0:41:45 GMT -5
Ya know, I just realized something....this thread is a flippin' sausage party!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2009 0:44:03 GMT -5
For the love of ray j DO NOT contact her on Facebook!!!! That's super creepy. Just sat hello when you see her. Introduce yourself, say something along the lines of "So what you taking now that The Beatles class is over?" Idle conversation goes a long way in a situation like yours. You are right on the whole FB contact thing, which is why I posted here. Problem is, I don't know if I'll be having classes with her again - and Uni is quite big, it's not like I bump into her all the time - ya know? As for the sausage fest comment, quite agreed - bring your wives and girlfriends into the conversation, or mothers and sisters. Help us out ;D
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Post by mattyc on Dec 11, 2009 1:30:56 GMT -5
If there is no chance that you will get to see her again you should contact her on Facebook, even if she ignores you you’ve got nothing to lose. If you don’t do anything you’ll wonder what if when you look back months or years from now, and that is always horrible. It’s best to try and fail instead of wondering what could have been if you’d have been brave enough to make a move.
Just be careful how you go about approaching her via Facebook though, I once had a similar issue with a girl that I worked with a few times before that I got along with and wanted to keep in contact with, purely on a friendship level because I thought she was a cool person personality wise, I had no sexual attraction to her.
Unfortunately something about my approach must have freaked her out as she ignored the message and friend invite (the message was purely innocent and not too long winded, it was just a quick “Hi how are you doing since we last met? How’s your new job etc” icebreaker type deal)
A few weeks later by pure coincidence we actually ended up seeing each other in person again when she visited the shop, It was clear by the look on her face that she did not expect me to be there at that time (a shift change) and while she acted polite I could tell that she clearly didn’t want to see me, it was an awkward moment for both of us. Then a few short hours later my friend invite on Facebook was accepted, but I didn’t care because I knew it wasn’t sincere. Neither of us spoke to each other and she deleted me a couple of months later, and life goes on.
I don’t regret it though, I felt there was a chance at forming a friendship and it didn’t pay off, but at least I took the chance and now I know I did all that I could do.
It is annoying how many women out there think that a guy befriending her has a sexual interest, It is possible for a man to like a woman as a friend. It's caused me a bit of grief in the past with the boyfriends of some female friends.
If you feel you want to get to know this girl, be careful how you approach but take the chance, You have all to gain and nothing to lose.
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Post by Grendel on Dec 11, 2009 1:34:10 GMT -5
Approach her while carrying some sort of music playing device and make sure the "Africa" by Toto is playing. Since you're using Facebook as a part of your conquest you should look at her friends list and see if the two of you share any mutual friends. If so you can get that person to introduce you to her. Once you're introduced you've got the Beatles Class as a nice topic to open with. If that doesn't work just give me her name and I'll gladly add her to my facebook. All good ideas. But you could also go on some city wide quest like some guy in one of those romcoms that I keep avoiding seeing. You could travel around with a pic and sappy music playing in the background. And then if all goes well ...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2009 1:59:27 GMT -5
Approach her while carrying some sort of music playing device and make sure the "Africa" by Toto is playing. Since you're using Facebook as a part of your conquest you should look at her friends list and see if the two of you share any mutual friends. If so you can get that person to introduce you to her. Once you're introduced you've got the Beatles Class as a nice topic to open with. If that doesn't work just give me her name and I'll gladly add her to my facebook. All good ideas. But you could also go on some city wide quest like some guy in one of those romcoms that I keep avoiding seeing. You could travel around with a pic and sappy music playing in the background. And then if all goes well ... LOL And off in the city I go
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"Magic" Mark Hurr
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Post by "Magic" Mark Hurr on Dec 11, 2009 6:18:45 GMT -5
You could come to class late so you can enter using R-Truth's theme.
If she says "What's Up" the it's meant to be.
If she doesn't, calmly appologize to the teacher and class and sit down.
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Post by Bo Rida on Dec 11, 2009 7:46:52 GMT -5
So you need help, well we can work it out. Say good morning good morning, act naturally and just let it be, then things will start getting better.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2009 11:21:17 GMT -5
So you need help, well we can work it out. Say good morning good morning, act naturally and just let it be, then things will start getting better. they can't get much worse
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