An old friend of mine...

[dabossftw]

shot and killed himself yesterday. He was only 24 years old, with a child, age 9 months.

I want to take the time to let each and every one of you know:

***If you EVER have thoughts of suicide, are feeling hopeless, depressed, or feel like you're losing control in your life, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, talk to someone- a friend, family member, loved one, a stranger, your doctor, a police officer, ANYONE. Remember, suicide is not the answer.


suicidehotlines.com/

suicidepreventionservices.org/

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Thank you all for reading.

[Hawk Hart]

This is horrible. I actually just had a friend kill himself on Monday night. It's a shame to see so many die young, and by their own hand.

We're here for ya buddy.

[Franchise]

Jesus man, I'm sorry. I, along with many other fellow Crappers, I'm sure, are here for you. My condolences on your loss.

[Soultastic]

Sorry to hear that, man. Luckily I've never lost anyone to suicide but it came really close to happen. My condolences to you, the rest of his friends and his family.

[dabossftw]

Thank you for your condolences, friends. While we weren't ever THAT close, not enough to drive me to tears or anything, it's still sad to see someone do something like that to themselves.

The worst part of it all- he did it in front of his grandmother and mom.

[KStrick]

Yeah, I lost my best friend to suicide 1 year prior to my separation from the Air Force.

I try to make it a habit to visit his family and his grave site every year.

Still, it's no joke. I really feel for people who feel so helpless.

My thoughts and prayers are with your friend's family.

[Hypnotix]

Oh god. How can you do that, leaving a child behind? That poor kid. I could never do that to my son, and I went through some dark days as my marriage collapsed, and my wife was cheating on me, but I couldn't do that to my son or my family. That's just terrible. Sorry to hear about this all.

[Grendel]

I'm sorry to hear that. Back in my younger days, one of my buds couldn't stand the fact that his mom was being a whore and stepping out with one of his coworkers so he went onto the playground one morning with a gun and attempted to blow his brains out. He survived, and if you look at him, you wouldn't even know that he had tried to kill himself. His vision is screwy and he has to wear thick glasses, but he adjusted well after all that.

I feel really bad for you and the man's family.

["Hollywood" Cactus Matt]

Good God, man - in front of his family?

I'm so, so sorry to hear about this. And thanks in advance for posting that information - if it saves a life, it was worth it.

[Alexander The So-so]

My deepest condolences. Suicide is such a dark thing to deal with. Having dealt with clinical depression and suicidal thoughts myself, I know what it's like to feel like life is hopeless. But things like this also make me realize how much it hurts the people around you.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I just hope that more people come to learn that.

[theganzobomb]

Im sorry to hear that.

[twiggy101]

Can't imagine how horrifying it is for his mother and grandmother. Last summer my cousin hung himself on a swing set. He's a little younger than me and he has a baby son. Got into an argument with his girlfriend and then killed himself. The sad part is it looked like he was having second thoughts but he didn't make it. Unfortunately, I don't really know him. He lived on a reserve far away from where I live. Sometimes, reserves can be a harsh place to live in.

[Grendel]

Jan 8, 2010 22:17:13 GMT -5 "Hollywood" Cactus Matt said:

Good God, man - in front of his family?

I'm so, so sorry to hear about this. And thanks in advance for posting that information - if it saves a life, it was worth it.

I worked with one gal who was having marital problems, but they were working them out. She took the kids Christmas shopping, and when they came home and she opened the garage door, there he was hanging from the ceiling. It was hard enough on her, but I can't imagine how the kids felt.

["Playboy" Don Douglas]

Jan 9, 2010 2:43:29 GMT -5 devondragon said:

I've been thinking about it, just so my family can get the life insurance.
No, I'm not joking

I'm pretty sure most policies do not pay out in the event of suicide.

Besides, I can't condone suicide for any reason.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

I dunno if it helps or whatever, but here's Alice Cooper's anti-suicide song, "Hey Stoopid".



Grieve in the way that makes you happy.

[Hypnotix]

Jan 9, 2010 2:43:29 GMT -5 devondragon said:

I've been thinking about it, just so my family can get the life insurance.
No, I'm not joking

Don't do it. Don't do it for so many reasons.

Life insurance is a pathetic reason to do something so drastic, and it won't be granted anyway. Yes, I'm serious. Policies don't cover suicides. So you'd be leaving your family with even more debt than they had before (medical and funeral expenses, etc.)

But I can't believe I'm even using those for excuses why not to do it. Whether you know it or not, you have family and friends who can't imagine this life without you. And they'd be terribly angry and upset with you if you did that. I guarantee you none of them would say, "Well at least we've got $100,000 coming to us from his life insurance." Wouldn't happen, I promise you.

But think about it. The message boards just lost Paul Servo to cancer. I believe Dinobot Prime (sic) passed away from cancer as well. If it wasn't cancer, I'm pretty sure it was an accidental death that took him far too soon. John "Earthquake" Tenta was a friend to these boards and cancer took his life too. Sadly, I know I'm forgetting some board members. The point of all these examples is that if these guys had things their way, I'm sure they'd still be alive. Sadly, they didn't have a choice and their lives were cut short way too soon. I guarantee you none of these guys thought about the financial benefits of death - because I can assure you, there are none. No dollar amount can take the place of a loved one. I know people that have won millions in a wrong death suit, and it still didn't matter. They lost a husband and a father, and the money never made up for that.

Believe me, you're family and friends want you to spend their lives with you. They don't want to figure out how to spend or invest a lame life insurance settlement. Money would never fill the void you would leave behind.

Please go talk to someone. I spoke with a therapist and it helped me tremendously.

[Grendel]

Jan 9, 2010 2:43:29 GMT -5 devondragon said:

I've been thinking about it, just so my family can get the life insurance.
No, I'm not joking

Dude, don't do it. Talk to someone and get some help.

[default]

Really sorry to here. I lost a friend I knew throughout my school years who kept moving around. He was a really nice and smart guy who always had it rough and it was sad to here, even though I'd lost contact with him for a few years.

I feel really bad for those that go through it. Probably because I think I would myself if I wasn't so seemingly numb.

[The Goob, phd (is Jobbing)]

I don't want to be a dick, but could you...sort of..."warn" in the title. I was genuinely shocked when I opened it up. I lost my father to suicide.