Matt
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Post by Matt on Sept 8, 2010 1:02:46 GMT -5
I think I mentioned one other time about this girl at work who I really liked but in case not I met this girl who started working part time in January this year. I didn't deal with her a whole lot then but she came back in June for the summer. We got to be closer at work and I ended up with her phone number. Though because of the political stuff that I do dating what is considered an intern is frowned upon (I was pretty much told out right not to)
But against my better judgement I have now fallen into really liking her. She's four years younger than me but we enjoy hanging out at work when we can. But I ran into this now. The other guy she spends most of her day with is 35 and married. But he seems to be able to say and do what he wants with her (he likes to make his comments and put his hands on her ect) which I don't do because I don't want to get fired over this. But it seems when given the choice she seems to spend time with him over me. I'm not sure if she likes the attention or putting the two of us against each other over her ect. I have been trying to beat him at his own game lately and been a bit more agressive when I talk to her but I again don't want to get fired.
Now here's my problem. I'm 23 and my dating record is terrible. I actually had given up on the idea of it and knowing that I'm not supposed to like her isn't helping. But I called her tonight (I've only called her two other times and never for anything personal) and I tried asking her out for Friday. She said she has plans, which could be her being nice or she could have an actual plan. She didn't totally blow me off on the idea yet.
I have to talk to her on Friday so here is where I run into the problem. Do I try asking her again or should I assume she just blew me off nicely and back off some?
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Post by i.Sarita.com on Sept 8, 2010 1:16:23 GMT -5
Ignore her for awhile. That might get her to come after YOUR attention if she really like having it, if not, then move on.
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Post by Lardlad on Sept 8, 2010 6:39:55 GMT -5
I would probably let her suggest going out next time. You tried to make plans for Friday and she is busy, but at least she knows that you're interested in doing something with her now, so let her bring it up next.
And if you find out she's hanging out with the married guy outside of work, just back off and let her go. It's not worth the time or drama that will ensue....
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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Sept 8, 2010 7:26:00 GMT -5
I'd back off, dude, especially if this could have a negative impact on your job. If she starts pursuing you, then maybe it'd be worth a shot, but I'd be wary about risking my job on someone who may not actually be interested.
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Post by domrep on Sept 8, 2010 8:09:29 GMT -5
She's not worth losing your job over, and she may also be into the other guy because he's married. Men and women have this fascination with trying to get what they can't have.
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Post by Ducky Momo on Sept 8, 2010 12:52:26 GMT -5
She's not worth losing your job over, and she may also be into the other guy because he's married. Men and women have this fascination with trying to get what they can't have. Also you sound like the nice guy, while the other dude seems to be a jerk. YAY! for stereotypes, she sounds just like one...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2010 15:45:53 GMT -5
I'd chill on her. She knows you're interested. If she's interested, she'll make the next move. You don't want to come across as desperate or clingy. Those will kill you in a second.
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Post by kingfeurio on Sept 8, 2010 15:57:15 GMT -5
The other guy she spends most of her day with is 35 and married. But he seems to be able to say and do what he wants with her (he likes to make his comments and put his hands on her ect) which I don't do because I don't want to get fired over this. He sounds like an ass. If I were you I would not pursue her; you don't want to lose your job over a girl who may or may not like you. You could always see if she's interested after her internship.
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Matt
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Post by Matt on Sept 8, 2010 21:15:58 GMT -5
The other guy she spends most of her day with is 35 and married. But he seems to be able to say and do what he wants with her (he likes to make his comments and put his hands on her ect) which I don't do because I don't want to get fired over this. He sounds like an ass. If I were you I would not pursue her; you don't want to lose your job over a girl who may or may not like you. You could always see if she's interested after her internship. He is an ass. I've actually more or less stopped dealing with him as much as I had. My plan was to pursue her after the internship. The problem with that was they brought her back so I can't separate her from the job anymore. I seriously wish I wasn't in the spot that I'm in. I'm a little too nice of a guy when it comes to this stuff. But I also don't think I'm stupid enough to lose the job over it. But I did already kind of roll the dice with it by calling her. So I'm trying to back off some now.
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Post by Predator McBroski on Sept 8, 2010 21:30:47 GMT -5
Wait. 4 years younger than you? and your 23? I don't know man..
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Matt
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Post by Matt on Sept 8, 2010 21:35:15 GMT -5
She's 19. It is borderline I know.
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Post by i.Sarita.com on Sept 9, 2010 0:54:01 GMT -5
She's 19. It is borderline I know. Maturity level is what means more, but to me she sounds like a dumb young 19 year old, if she's flirting with some older married dude. Forget about it, man. Not worth your job, nor the drama that could end up happening. Greener grass elsewhere down the path.
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Post by OblivionSorceress on Sept 9, 2010 1:01:56 GMT -5
I would totally just take a break from that chick. She sounds like a waste of time I hate to say it. She sounds like the office loose girl. Hopefully for your sake I'm wrong but I have this annoying thing where I always seems to be right about the bad sh**. >.< I would go looking for someone else, if she comes to you that could be cool if not then don't worry about it. You will find someone who deserves your time.
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Post by Matt on Sept 9, 2010 20:04:01 GMT -5
I know, I keep telling myself the same thing. I have to see her for the first time since all this tomorrow. So it could be normal or awkward.
I honestly can say to anyone who reads this please be smarter than I was. Either way I have to lose out on it, and I'm honestly sorry that I got involved with her to begin with in a lot of ways. She's a nice girl and all, I just know I stuck my neck out a little too far.
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Post by kingfeurio on Sept 9, 2010 20:42:42 GMT -5
I know, I keep telling myself the same thing. I have to see her for the first time since all this tomorrow. So it could be normal or awkward. I honestly can say to anyone who reads this please be smarter than I was. Either way I have to lose out on it, and I'm honestly sorry that I got involved with her to begin with in a lot of ways. She's a nice girl and all, I just know I stuck my neck out a little too far. Everybody makes mistakes, and it's not like you took things way too far--you didn't sleep with her, just flirted a little. Don't be too hard on yourself.
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