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Post by YAKMAN is ICHIBAN on Jan 5, 2011 15:27:17 GMT -5
Fine, I'll be the lone asshole. I wouldn't, ESPECIALLY if the cause is genetic. I wouldn't want to put an extra burden on myself, or in the case of the genetic aspect, potential children.
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Post by HMARK Center on Jan 5, 2011 15:32:36 GMT -5
My cousin is currently dating a guy who's wheelchair bound ever since a car accident he was in.
She seems to be totally fine with it, I can't honestly say I know I could do it or not.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Jan 5, 2011 15:33:29 GMT -5
Fine, I'll be the lone asshole. I wouldn't, ESPECIALLY if the cause is genetic. I wouldn't want to put an extra burden on myself, or in the case of the genetic aspect, potential children. I don't think that's being an asshole, that's knowing what you want out of life and being with someone in a wheelchair isn't it. At least I don't think you're an asshole...this time. ;D |
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Post by DiBiase is Good on Jan 5, 2011 15:36:57 GMT -5
Fine, I'll be the lone asshole. I wouldn't, ESPECIALLY if the cause is genetic. I wouldn't want to put an extra burden on myself, or in the case of the genetic aspect, potential children. Doesn't make you a bad person at all. A lot of people when posed this question will say "of course" but if they were actually faced with it in a real situation then I don't think it would be as easy as answering a hypothetical question. |
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Post by CM Dazz on Jan 5, 2011 15:38:58 GMT -5
Honestly, I don't know unless I was in the situation myself. Good luck either way.
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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Jan 5, 2011 18:52:59 GMT -5
I signed up for this free dating site a few years back and saw that one of the profiles was for this really pretty girl who happened to be in a wheelchair. I definitely considered messaging her, but the only real problem would have been that I live on the top floor of my apartment building and it isn't wheelchair accessible. The funny thing is, I was watching the local news this past year and the girl was on there and turns out she was Miss Wheelchair South Dakota. I wished I would have messaged her when I could have. Who knows, I could have a rejection message in my inbox from Miss Wheelchair South Dakota. Ah, what could have been.  |
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Post by rapidfire187 on Jan 5, 2011 19:51:49 GMT -5
Fine, I'll be the lone asshole. I wouldn't, ESPECIALLY if the cause is genetic. I wouldn't want to put an extra burden on myself, or in the case of the genetic aspect, potential children. The genetic aspect is actually not an issue. Both parents have to carry the gene and then there is a 1 in 4 chance of the child having it. |
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Post by Efren on Jan 5, 2011 20:01:59 GMT -5
Good point. If she's in a wheel chair, I think the last thing she'd be worried about is myspace angles, but you never know with women. This is very very true. Then again I once had a chick I met online fake her death in a very elaborate way just for the hell of it so for all I know this chick could be able to run circles around me and is just psycho or something. I really doubt it, but it's not out of the realm of possibility. I like her a lot though. I guess I'm thrown off a bit by the fact that she seems to want to talk to me a lot. Like, I'm not used to that. Don't get me wrong, I really like not having to play all these games in order to pursue a girl slowly, but it seems like there could be a bad reason behind that. Until I find out otherwise though I'll just assume it's because I'm incredibly sexy and smart and funny and a good rapper ;D Dude, thats shouldn't throw you off shes in a wheelchair, even if shes super pretty and cool she is in no position to play games like as if she was a super catch, thats probably why, tho you being a sexy, smart rapper might be part of it too. I demand to hear more about the death faking psyco, i must be entretained. Edit: Pretty please. |
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Post by rapidfire187 on Jan 5, 2011 20:16:56 GMT -5
I demand to hear more about the death faking psyco, i must be entretained. Edit: Pretty please. Here's a link to "Crazy Internet Bitches vol. 2" www.myspace.com/rapidfire187/blog/379166500*LANGUAGE WARNING* This was written a long time ago and posted on Myspace. I'm not even sure if the link will work for you if you're not my friend. Let me know if it doesn't. It's quite long but it's worth it. |
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Post by aka Cthulhu on Jan 5, 2011 20:21:05 GMT -5
Fine, I'll be the lone asshole. I wouldn't, ESPECIALLY if the cause is genetic. I wouldn't want to put an extra burden on myself, or in the case of the genetic aspect, potential children. That worries me sometimes. I mean, if I ever have kids, there's a chance that they'll get ankylosing spondylytis as well. Though my dad didn't get it, some of my cousins from his side of the familiy has it. |
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Post by i.Sarita.com on Jan 5, 2011 20:21:29 GMT -5
I wouldn't. I enjoy doing stuff of a physical nature outdoors a lot, and it'd just be too much of a hassle to date a girl who couldn't really do that sort of thing with me. Especially when there are plenty of girls who aren't in wheelchairs to date.
(No offense to any girl in a chair, since it's not like they're less of a human, just not my type I suppose.)
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Post by shadowangel on Jan 5, 2011 20:29:59 GMT -5
There are no boundaries for real love Simple as that, if you really love a person, you love him/her. What's so bad about a wheelchair bound person? it's still a human being with a personality and if him/her is awesome than....why not? I mean it's basically the same shit i always hear because i'm with my girlfriend and all the "don't you miss something" "what about a guy"-shit. It's been over 6 years now....f*** it, love finds it's ways and there's nothing wrong with it. And what's so bad about people in wheelchairs? I mean, some people act like those people can't do anything or live a boring life. Those people have sport too, like basketball, hockey, tennis...there's even a version of tae kwon do for wheel chair people and have you people ever seen those off road wheel chair racers? It's like a rallye and it's awesome. So may people think that people in wheel chairs are boring and don't have anything to do...they're so wrong |
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Post by Kash Flagg on Jan 5, 2011 20:33:05 GMT -5
I don't think anyone here is badmouthing women in wheelchairs, just that some have different reasons for saying no.
While you are right that love doesn't have boundaries, people do. Part of what makes us all different.
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Post by i.Sarita.com on Jan 5, 2011 20:39:34 GMT -5
I don't think anyone here is badmouthing women in wheelchairs, just that some have different reasons for saying no. While you are right that love doesn't have boundaries, people do. Part of what makes us all different. Exactly. I doubt I'd ever spend the effort or time needed to fall in love with a girl in a wheelchair just because she wouldn't be someone I'd see as having any sort of future with. But that doesn't mean I view them any less in terms of being a person. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2011 22:19:59 GMT -5
Sounds like a Romantic Comedy that leans on the serious side or a Chick Flick. I say the whole thing is cute. Don't see a problem here.  or it could turn out to be like Freddy Got Fingered |
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Post by rapidfire187 on Jan 5, 2011 22:33:19 GMT -5
Sounds like a Romantic Comedy that leans on the serious side or a Chick Flick. I say the whole thing is cute. Don't see a problem here. or it could turn out to be like Freddy Got Fingered I seriously hope I get fingered. |
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Post by Alucard on Jan 5, 2011 22:33:53 GMT -5
Only live once. Give it a shot. Better to have gone for it and found out for yourself than to sit around and wonder "Damn, I wonder if it would've been cool with that girl in the wheelchair".
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Post by darthalexander on Jan 6, 2011 0:15:15 GMT -5
Oh the story I could tell about this topic...a big date-from-hell story. TELL IT I still feel pretty crappy about the whole thing. Years ago I used to go on these phone dating lines and I'd talk to various girls and there was one where we really hit it off. On our 4th or 5th conversation she admitted she had spina bifida and was in a wheelchair. I really didn't care about all that because I was extremely naive at that time when it came to dating. I forgot all about the important aspect that is called "physical attraction". So time passes and we really go too far to fast and we both buy into this supposed relationship before we even met in person. A HUGE no-no. So we set up a date and we're to meet at the college she's going to. I get there and I'm all anxious and excited and can't wait to see this girl who is totally amazing. This is where the story turns really bad. I see her and instantly I know it's not happening. First she has a weird rash on the side of her face. Then she has really weird teeth that are yellow and the size of "Chiclets" gum. Her hair is kind of weird and ends in a rat's tail (or whatever it's called). She also has a very weird looking body. She looks like an egg with feet. Right away I feel like the world's biggest ass but I still do the right thing and go up to her and introduce myself. Instantly I'm thinking how the hell do I get out of this mess? She likes me instantly, I can tell, and that makes me feel even worse. If she had looked at me in disgust or something it would have been so much easier. She's also in a motorized wheelchair. The first thing she wants to do is introduce me to all her pals. So she grabs my hand and hits the forward button and zoom, away she goes. I have to practically run to keep up with her and I'm a tall guy who can take long strides. I had a hell of a time keeping up. So we zoom down the hall to this meeting area where students who are not disabled help students who are. She starts introducing me to them and they all start fawning all over me. They tell me what a great guy I must be because she talks about me all the time, how her mood has been depressed until I came along and she's become a new person now....how she's never been so happy and joyful. I feel about an inch tall. She goes off (has to do a small errand) and I wait in this area. They keep going on and on about how nice I am, what a great guy I am, etc. I'm feeling worse and worse by the second. She comes back and we go to lunch. Her bus (she takes special buses for disabled people) isn't due for a while so we go to the school caf. While we are there she hands me a love letter and I feel even worse. She also included a "sexy photo" that was anything but.  She starts asking me when am I going to kiss her and I can't. I just can't. I dodge the bullet by saying I'm shy (yeah, outright lying) and she says it's a shame. She keeps looking at me with love in her eyes and that feeling of what utter crap I am gets bigger and bigger. Then some more friends show up and she calls them over. She introduces me as her boyfriend and they start going at me again. You're wonderful. You're great. She has been so happy since she met you! I want to crawl into a deep deep hole. So two long hours pass (two of the longest in my life) and I take her to her bus and she goes and as it leaves, she gives me this big smile and waves. She's totally in love (or at least think she is) and I just stand there feeling like a total piece of crap. She goes and my mind starts working overtime. How do I get out of this? What do I do? I'm the kind of person who hates to hurt anyone. I don't like it. I've been hurt a ton in my life and the idea of hurting someone else kills me. I talk to my family about this and immediately they crack up laughing about it. That night she called and I broke the news to her. It was awful. Really awful. I can still hear her like it just happened ten minutes ago. The feeling I felt during and after that call made earlier in the day seem like nothing. Remember that episode of the Simpsons when Lisa tells Ralph off and Bart says you can see the moment his heart breaks? Well I could hear the moment hers broke and it's not something I ever want to hear again. It was awful. So Karma being what it is, I met my first girlfriend right after and she put me through hell. So this was the Universe paying me back big time I think. This happened about 16 years ago (roughly) and I still can't think about it too much today without feeling horrible about it. I can tell you I smartened up a bit (not much) after this. If anyone takes anything from this story, let it be this: do not commit yourself to ANYTHING until you've actually met someone in person. So that's my sad little tale. |
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Post by Efren on Jan 6, 2011 2:02:46 GMT -5
I demand to hear more about the death faking psyco, i must be entretained. Edit: Pretty please. Here's a link to "Crazy Internet Bitches vol. 2" www.myspace.com/rapidfire187/blog/379166500*LANGUAGE WARNING* This was written a long time ago and posted on Myspace. I'm not even sure if the link will work for you if you're not my friend. Let me know if it doesn't. It's quite long but it's worth it. Thank you, that cracked me up. |
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