Conquering emotions?

[TheVoiceofReason]

For as long as I can remember, I've always been one with a bleak outlook on life. I've never had a girlfriend, suck at math, not a "marketable" person, and so on. Lately, though, I've been succeeding in convincing myself that it's not the end of the world.

One thing that I've always assured myself is that I'm a person with a reasonable amount of intellect. Now, I questioned that immensely after failing a class this past semester in college, but ultimately I concluded that it was meaningless. One thing I've always hated is being told that I cannot do something that I want, and more often than not I prove that person wrong. Often, this person tends to be myself. I grew to learn that happiness is a choice, and it's not something that's gained by acquiring certain items in life. If you loathe your situation so much, change it. If there's literally nothing you can do about your situation, learn to accept it. If you fail to learn how to accept it, then that's your own fault.

I never needed a school to dictate how smart or dumb and deluded I am; that all comes from within. Anyway what do you all think of this perspective, and can some of you relate?

[rapidfire187]

I've always boiled it down to happiness = being able to do what I want. That means having the time and money to do the things I want, and having the relationships to make them possible. So for this reason, I've been unhappy for a very long time. Not depressed, just not happy. I wish that it was as simple as deciding to be happy, but that's not the case for me. The thing that's so problematic about being unhappy is that bad stuff seems to suck more than it should...and bad shit seems to happen to me a lot for some reason.

[TheVoiceofReason]

Jan 15, 2012 18:06:28 GMT -5 rapidfire187 said:

I've always boiled it down to happiness = being able to do what I want. That means having the time and money to do the things I want, and having the relationships to make them possible. So for this reason, I've been unhappy for a very long time. Not depressed, just not happy. I wish that it was as simple as deciding to be happy, but that's not the case for me. The thing that's so problematic about being unhappy is that bad stuff seems to suck more than it should...and bad s*** seems to happen to me a lot for some reason.

It goes without saying, but you don't want to be unhappy. Is there anything you can do with your time currently that would bring about a long-term sense of happiness? You won't be able to do everything you want (as is the case with all people), but surely there must be some activities accessible to you.