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Post by Dr. Mantis Toboggan on Sept 20, 2012 20:12:44 GMT -5
No offense, but I really want to kick anyone who says these type of things square in the balls. My daughter has it and her struggles are significant. She does not want to be that way. She comes into her mom's office (her mother works at the school) frequently crying because she did not understand some children and either they hurt her feelings or she hurt theirs. Once that happens she just cannot let her feelings go, which tends to be worse when she hurts others in her confusion. She hates doing that and she cannot forgive herself even when she gets forgiven by the ones she hurts. The thing is that she isn't socially awkward. All of the other children love her but just do not understand her thinking process and sometimes get scared by her reactions. I am indebted to you so much for saying what was on my mind with some of the responses on here. I was diagnosed at 14 and I was very similar to how your daughter reacts to certain things except I was very socially awkward. I had a lot of classic Autistic traits as a toddler with being sensitive to touch and stuff like that, but I grew out of it basically, although there still are some sensory issues I still have. I say I was socially awkward because that was something I had to struggle with to get over. I'm able to go out and talk to people and go to parties or a bar and have fun, which was unimaginable back in the day (and still, I have to have friends around to feel comfortable). I still have moments (typically in stressful situations) where my autism "comes out", so to speak, and I am nowhere near as calm and collected as I present myself. Having Asperger's is a whole hell of a lot more than just being socially awkward, I can tell you that as someone who has it, has a brother who has it, and a brother with "classic" autism. |
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Post by Red Impact on Sept 20, 2012 20:15:32 GMT -5
The problem I have with some of these newer diagnosis (most things in the autism spectrum) is that there's nothing concrete about them. They pick from an ever-expanding list of symptoms and apply it to kids and adults, many who are doing things that aren't abnormal.
That does an incredible disservice to those who really do have a significant form of the disease and need help coping, because resources that would be better spent helping those with actual learning and social problems get spread around to those who are just bored in school and rambunctious on the playground.
Of course, that also plays into the public perception and policy of the disease, but I won't get into that because it'd get political pretty quickly. I hope in the future that these symptoms and diagnoses begin to get pared down some so that the help, research, and public discussion can be centered on those who actually do need help, and not everyone who meets a few fairly broad symptoms.
This isn't me saying that the disease doesn't exist, because it definitely does, but I think there needs to be a lot of research in developing a lot more reliable tests to separate those who need and can benefit greatly and those who just have personalities different from what their parents and teachers want.
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Post by Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster on Sept 21, 2012 2:24:57 GMT -5
No offense, but I really want to kick anyone who says these type of things square in the balls. My daughter has it and her struggles are significant. She does not want to be that way. She comes into her mom's office (her mother works at the school) frequently crying because she did not understand some children and either they hurt her feelings or she hurt theirs. Once that happens she just cannot let her feelings go, which tends to be worse when she hurts others in her confusion. She hates doing that and she cannot forgive herself even when she gets forgiven by the ones she hurts. The thing is that she isn't socially awkward. All of the other children love her but just do not understand her thinking process and sometimes get scared by her reactions. Alright sorry,i did go too far by sayign it's TOTAL bs.I just meant that it is diagnosed left and right,to people that are socially awkward.And that being socially awkward doesn't mean such a thing Eh doctors aren't diagnosing Aspergers left and right but rather the real problem would be twats that take an online test and then self diagnose themselves because they think it will give them an excuse for being lazy and not wanting to improve their shithouse social skills. As much as I want to punch those types in face I also really want to punch people who say it doesn't exist as well. |
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Post by TheVoiceofReason on Sept 21, 2012 6:01:32 GMT -5
For a while I thought I had Asperger's and often think I still do, but I'm not going to go around saying I have it without a proper diagnosis. What I do have though, is very similar, and I was diagnosed with this back in elementary school: "Nonverbal Learning Disability."
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Post by biafra on Sept 21, 2012 6:08:46 GMT -5
When it comes to mental illness everyone thinks they know better than medical professionals. Those are the same people who tell me to deal with my anxiety by "just calming down" and my depression by "just cheering up."
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Post by 67 more on Sept 21, 2012 11:52:40 GMT -5
When it comes to mental illness everyone thinks they know better than medical professionals. Those are the same people who tell me to deal with my anxiety by "just calming down" and my depression by "just cheering up."Oh God, this. The fact that they can't comprehend depression as an inability to cheer up drives me f***ing crazy. |
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