Burst
El Dandy
*inarticulate squawking*
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Post by Burst on Nov 9, 2012 10:09:10 GMT -5
Seriously, I feel like I'm going in circles in life right now because I can't step up my game and stop trying to please everyone around me. I'm putting the "pathetic" in empathetic right now with how much I get caught up with worrying about other people's lives or feelings at the expense of my own.
With anything I want to do career-wise you pretty much have to be cutthroat and ruthless to get ahead, so I don't know why I can't force myself to become meaner, to care less about other people, to, well, be more forcibly self-centered, more dog-eat-dog.
I feel like I've been too much of a nice guy for too long even if that's being tempered lately by my frustration and stress boiling over into fits of rage and anger, but even that I wind up being uselessly apologetic afterwards.
I just wish I could stop caring about other people and start caring about myself for once.
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kidglov3s
Bill S. Preston, Esq.
Wants her Shot
Who is Tiger Maskooo?
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Post by kidglov3s on Nov 9, 2012 10:12:33 GMT -5
Seriously, I feel like I'm going in circles in life right now because I can't step up my game and stop trying to please everyone around me. I'm putting the "pathetic" in empathetic right now with how much I get caught up with worrying about other people's lives or feelings at the expense of my own. With anything I want to do career-wise you pretty much have to be cutthroat and ruthless to get ahead, so I don't know why I can't force myself to become meaner, to care less about other people, to, well, be more forcibly self-centered, more dog-eat-dog. I feel like I've been too much of a nice guy for too long even if that's being tempered lately by my frustration and stress boiling over into fits of rage and anger, but even that I wind up being uselessly apologetic afterwards. I just wish I could stop caring about other people and start caring about myself for once. We're seeing a new side of That Crazy Dan, a more aggressive side. (credit to kn) |
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Post by "Gentleman" AJ Powell on Nov 9, 2012 12:14:00 GMT -5
Too much of a nice guy eh?
But yeah, I know what you mean. I pretty much used to just try to appease other people. Then after I dumped my psycho ex, pretty much decided to just care about myself for a while. It was nice. More open now, still get moments of kinda selfishness though.
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Yami Daimao
Patti Mayonnaise
Really, really wants to zigazig ah!
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Post by Yami Daimao on Nov 9, 2012 14:56:41 GMT -5
RUTHLESS
AGGRESSION
But seriously, I can kind of relate.
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Post by Shy Guy on Nov 9, 2012 15:11:45 GMT -5
be. aggressive.
be be aggressive.
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Post by Azrael from Outerspace on Nov 9, 2012 16:28:28 GMT -5
I just wish I could stop caring about other people and start caring about myself for once. While I understand and agree that you need to care about yourself more (if you don't). I can't disagree more with you having to stop caring about people to do so. We have to move past the idea that being cut throat/ruthless is an acceptable way to carry yourself. |
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Glitch
King Koopa
Not Going To Die; Childs, we're goin' out to give Blair the test. If he tries to make it back here and we're not with him... burn him.
Watching you.
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Post by Glitch on Nov 9, 2012 16:46:30 GMT -5
Tell your fans to stick it.
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Post by Orange on Nov 9, 2012 16:54:07 GMT -5
I don't think you need to be a ruthless, cut-throat asshole - and believe me, I've been in your shoes for a long time with this very issue. But I received some good advice about how to still be nice but get what you want.
The key to it all is to not be a doormat, nobody likes a doormat. So, you don't have to completely change yourself and become "that guy" that people hate and nobody ever wants to be around - but you have to have a certain sense of selfishness.
Of course, it's finding that balance that's the hard part - but you've just got to try. You'll find it eventually, but nobody likes the ruthless asshole. Ever.
In conclusion - nice guys don't finish last - doormats do. Carry that with you, free of charge. ;D
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2012 17:43:52 GMT -5
Put whoever is in your way in a armbar until they tap out. Then leave the armbar for a additional five seconds to make a statement.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Nov 9, 2012 20:03:30 GMT -5
be. aggressive. be be aggressive. B E A-G-G R-E-S-S-I-V-E |
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triplethreatmark
Grimlock
Party Fouler
I look exactly like this avatar in real life.
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Post by triplethreatmark on Nov 9, 2012 20:15:34 GMT -5
Put whoever is in your way in a armbar until they tap out. Then leave the armbar for a additional five seconds to make a statement. Is it doesn't make Del Rio look like a badass, what hope does the OP have? |
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