lovingway
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Post by lovingway on Dec 22, 2012 7:06:58 GMT -5
I'm curious about something. How did you know she was interested in you? Sorry just saw your post. Basically, she would go out of her way to get my attention (this is where I might have confused attraction to attention). She would try to make connections in conversations I had with others. One day I mentioned that I enjoy a certain type of bubble bath from Bath and Body Works and the next day she came in wearing the lotion scent of it and bragging about it. Another time she mentioned that she was a cheerleader for a rival school of my old high school and said that we probably met each other a bunch of times and didn't know it (we didn't as I never did the sporting events) She would give me puppy dog eyes in meetings with parents and be a little too happy when I complimented her on something. As I stated earlier, I truthfully feel it was more of a "I need attention from a male and you are the closest one here." A few days after I leave and decide to see if she wants a bite to eat she is cold as ice. I am not upset it didn't work out as basically I just wanted a date for New Years but the way she is doing it is quite new to me
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Dec 22, 2012 7:30:21 GMT -5
My wife says it's because she didn't want to say "no thanks" and they feel like yer gonna get mad if they say no or keep asking. But of course ignoring someone is not the right way to do it. Yep. Some people would rather try to get you to take a hint instead of being direct; no confrontation that way, and they're not the"bad guy." You didn't do anything wrong, but for whate er reason, if she was interested, she ain't now. Just chalk it up as a loss, and forget bout it.
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Post by KobashiChop on Dec 22, 2012 8:16:34 GMT -5
Youve done nothing wrong, just move on and forget about it.
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Post by bob on Dec 22, 2012 8:41:38 GMT -5
HOW DARE YOU WANT A SEX SLAVE!?! Christian disapproves She found that Gay Asian!!!!!!! I will not let that get no sold ;D ;D ;D
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 23, 2012 2:17:26 GMT -5
I'm curious about something. How did you know she was interested in you? Sorry just saw your post. Basically, she would go out of her way to get my attention (this is where I might have confused attraction to attention). She would try to make connections in conversations I had with others. One day I mentioned that I enjoy a certain type of bubble bath from Bath and Body Works and the next day she came in wearing the lotion scent of it and bragging about it. Another time she mentioned that she was a cheerleader for a rival school of my old high school and said that we probably met each other a bunch of times and didn't know it (we didn't as I never did the sporting events) She would give me puppy dog eyes in meetings with parents and be a little too happy when I complimented her on something. As I stated earlier, I truthfully feel it was more of a "I need attention from a male and you are the closest one here." A few days after I leave and decide to see if she wants a bite to eat she is cold as ice. I am not upset it didn't work out as basically I just wanted a date for New Years but the way she is doing it is quite new to me I dunno, not to deflect this back to me, but the girl I mentioned previously, we got on well enough everyone was asking what was up, co-workers, strangers. They got this vibe there was something, I never did. Which to me seems correct because nothing ever happened between us, Basically I got a different message from the way we interacted than others did. Not sure what it means, but that's the way. Worst part is, I was totally mental over her.
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Post by PrinceD on Dec 23, 2012 9:57:25 GMT -5
she's playing games. just stop giving her attention, ignore her. let her come to you
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2012 10:10:17 GMT -5
Don't obsess. Only a very small fraction of women are looking for that guy that will show up in a car that's not his to a place he wasn't supposed to know she was at because he can't the thought of her alone out there in the World without his influence.
People just naturally like each other but you can reverse that by being creepy and ridiculous.
Perhaps she's the fruit loop, but there's nothing to gained from you're continuing to press, it seems.
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Post by tibbo on Dec 23, 2012 10:42:59 GMT -5
I agree with the previous responses, although something else to think about is maybe you left it too long to ask her out? Sometimes you have to strike while the iron is hot and there is still that initial attraction... by waiting until you finnished your internship maybe you waited too long and that initial attraction had faded for her?
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Post by lovingway on Dec 23, 2012 11:48:11 GMT -5
I agree with the previous responses, although something else to think about is maybe you left it too long to ask her out? Sometimes you have to strike while the iron is hot and there is still that initial attraction... by waiting until you finnished your internship maybe you waited too long and that initial attraction had faded for her? Honestly I think she wanted me to do it on my last day but I wanted to make sure all of my paperwork was in and done with. The heads of the my college program tried their best to get me out of the program because I wasn't what they deemed as an ideal teacher (I basically told them when they were wrong) and they were grasping for straws the last few weeks of my internship hoping to find something to kick me out for. If I made a move and it was the wrong move they would have jumped over it. As stated earlier I am letting it die for now. I knew going in that this wouldn't be a long term thing as I got the impression from one of the first times I met her that she was high maintenance. I was just the guy there that she was going to show attention to. I am gone and someone else will fill that void. Not to sound like an ass, but my main goal was to have a date for New Year's and she was going to fill that void. Call me shallow but I have needs. It is just the whole not responding thing that pisses me off. I am a straight ahead type of guy and just want to be told the truth or basically be honest with me. The whole avoiding deal is childish
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