Post by Andrew is Good on Jan 19, 2013 0:44:27 GMT -5
So I was looking through the confidence thread, and many other threads on this topic, but here is something that I'm having problems with, and it was really bad tonight.
I went out to my local establishment that served adult beverages, and I was hoping I could meet some people there, as I usually hope when I go out. Not happening of course. The confidence thread made me think of it a lot as well, but it might be a different problem.
I own my own house. I own my own car. I work out everyday. I don't have a job now, but I am potentially going back to a job which could get me over $150,000 a year. In fact, I made $60,000 last year working for 5 months. I also just said "f*** it" and I'm going on a vacation to Japan, booked my flight yesterday and am going next week, just because I could. If I wanted to, I could take a vacation anywhere in the world and leave tomorrow morning if I felt like it. The life a lot of people would dream, and I'm very grateful for it. I'm posting this on my Mac book even. But why can't I go up to someone at a bar and talk to them?
Now, this gets easier if I get piss f***in' loaded drunk, but then I lose my tact and get extra creepy. I also try to build up my confidence with more drinking at the bar/club, but I end up losing my tact and I over think things. I have and can meet up with women, but I do it through dating sites, where it's easier to slowly get to know someone and have a good situation like meeting at a Tim Horton's or something, which I even did this week, but the chick seemed to not enjoy the situation, and she had a ton of school work.
Personally, I think that with my confidence, I'm just f***ed and will be one of those people who will forever not be able to talk to a woman at a bar. That isn't a "cry me a river" story, I can meet women, but just not in that setting. The question is "how does one meet a woman in that setting"? I heard the book "The Game" is good. Basically, you just bury everyone around you to make yourself look better. Actually, it's not, but "The Game" seems to be a very sexist, but very successful book on picking up women, and I'm likely gonna purchase it to listen to during my big trip. So yeah, how does one talk to women out of the blue? Is that even a good idea?
I went out to my local establishment that served adult beverages, and I was hoping I could meet some people there, as I usually hope when I go out. Not happening of course. The confidence thread made me think of it a lot as well, but it might be a different problem.
I own my own house. I own my own car. I work out everyday. I don't have a job now, but I am potentially going back to a job which could get me over $150,000 a year. In fact, I made $60,000 last year working for 5 months. I also just said "f*** it" and I'm going on a vacation to Japan, booked my flight yesterday and am going next week, just because I could. If I wanted to, I could take a vacation anywhere in the world and leave tomorrow morning if I felt like it. The life a lot of people would dream, and I'm very grateful for it. I'm posting this on my Mac book even. But why can't I go up to someone at a bar and talk to them?
Now, this gets easier if I get piss f***in' loaded drunk, but then I lose my tact and get extra creepy. I also try to build up my confidence with more drinking at the bar/club, but I end up losing my tact and I over think things. I have and can meet up with women, but I do it through dating sites, where it's easier to slowly get to know someone and have a good situation like meeting at a Tim Horton's or something, which I even did this week, but the chick seemed to not enjoy the situation, and she had a ton of school work.
Personally, I think that with my confidence, I'm just f***ed and will be one of those people who will forever not be able to talk to a woman at a bar. That isn't a "cry me a river" story, I can meet women, but just not in that setting. The question is "how does one meet a woman in that setting"? I heard the book "The Game" is good. Basically, you just bury everyone around you to make yourself look better. Actually, it's not, but "The Game" seems to be a very sexist, but very successful book on picking up women, and I'm likely gonna purchase it to listen to during my big trip. So yeah, how does one talk to women out of the blue? Is that even a good idea?
