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Post by Bone Daddy on Jan 29, 2013 9:44:13 GMT -5
Inspired by the "closet" thread.
I have a few gifts, photos, etc that my ex GF gave me in a box in my closet. We broke up about 3 months ago and I honestly kind of forgot I had the stuff, but I don't have the heart to throw it out.
We're still friends and even though we were together for 4 years I am quite sure that we will never ever ever get back together, like ever. (sorry I had to)
Anyway, the question is, what do I do with all this stuff? The gifts are whatever, but the photo albums I would really like to keep. Broken up or not there are a lot of good memories in there and they're a nice snap shot of 4 years of my life.
What do you guys think? Do I have to get rid of the stuff?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2013 9:54:56 GMT -5
If you have the slightest idea that it's not going to be a burden or whatever towards yourself in the future, then yeah, keep the photo albums at least. The gifts...it honestly depends on what those gifts were, to be honest.
Like, I have a kind of similar situation, except on my end, me and the girl don't even talk anymore. I also have belongings, but some of the things, I was alright to just sell off (Borderlands 2 the ex gave me. While I love the game, I haven't touched it in awhile, and it just didn't feel good on my hands), although I have a ton of DVD's that I doubt will go for much anywhere. And then I have a homemade blanket and scarf that she made for me. I would just try and give them off to the current girl I'm with, but she HATES the fact that I would have anything to do with her, so no clue.
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Post by chazraps on Jan 29, 2013 13:03:45 GMT -5
Keep all the photos/letters for sure.
As for the gifts, keep those too for now. Next time you move, you'll be in a better situation to decide if they're really necessary in your life or if you can toss them, but at this point when you're so close to the relationship ending, I'd say save yourself the inner-turmoil and just keep it because you know (even if it's ultimately the right decision) you're going to be going back and forth in your head for weeks after debating whether or not it was right to throw them out.
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Post by Hit Girl on Jan 29, 2013 13:26:38 GMT -5
Keep them.
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Post by Dat Dude on Jan 29, 2013 15:20:37 GMT -5
If your friends, give it back to her. Really simple.
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Post by dlg3000 on Jan 29, 2013 17:02:29 GMT -5
Keep them. It is good that at least you are friends.
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Post by Mozenrath on Jan 29, 2013 17:23:01 GMT -5
If it ended on good terms, sure, keep it. It's a reminder of where you were.
If you were with someone who had a real issue with you having it, that'd be one thing, but there is no obligation to toss the stuff out just because you feel it is expected.
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Post by BigBadZ on Jan 29, 2013 17:53:14 GMT -5
It depends on what the gifts are but the photo albums would be the thing to get rid of or at least pick through some of the pictures. If you know you'll never get back together, your next girlfriend will question the motives of keeping photos of an ex. If not remove, definitely something to keep in the closet unless your next gf is cool with your ex as you seem to be.
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Post by Throwback on Jan 29, 2013 19:21:48 GMT -5
If my g/f broke up with me and I got rid of everything that reminded me of her. It would be like my 20s didn't exist. But if they are small things that you just keep in a box that you don't use. give them to someone who will.
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Post by theryno665 on Jan 29, 2013 19:45:16 GMT -5
Burn them.
Or at least burn something.
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Post by chazraps on Jan 29, 2013 20:55:05 GMT -5
It depends on what the gifts are but the photo albums would be the thing to get rid of or at least pick through some of the pictures. If you know you'll never get back together, your next girlfriend will question the motives of keeping photos of an ex. Nononononono, if that's the case, that means the new girlfriend is weirdly insecure and possibly controller. You gotta drop that zero and get with the hero. |
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Jan 29, 2013 21:06:19 GMT -5
why is closet in quotes in the first post?
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Post by SenorCrest on Jan 29, 2013 21:27:15 GMT -5
I still my ex gf's pokemon poster that she gave me. It is still on my wall. Its even autograph by her. I also have an a7x and atreyu shirt she gave me. I see nothing wrong with it. I even have a shoe box with old letters from people i know/ exs.
In fact. My current girlfriend was curious about the shoe box, so I showed her what was inside and ever had her read some of the letters. I am very transparent with her.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Jan 30, 2013 2:09:51 GMT -5
Burn them.
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Jan 30, 2013 9:57:16 GMT -5
Start a collection.
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