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Post by britishbulldog on Feb 2, 2013 18:02:53 GMT -5
Well I guess 13 years with one person will be coming to an end. This sucks more than I could explain. Yet somehow I still hope to find a way to get her back. I love my wife and never want to be without her.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Feb 2, 2013 18:08:05 GMT -5
I was where you were are in October, pal, and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It's like being punched in the gut, every day.
You have my sympathy, but from a man four months out, take it from me, it gets easier.
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Post by Tom Selleck on Feb 2, 2013 19:05:49 GMT -5
Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life. Seriously, enjoy your freedom while you can. Think about it, you're now free to do whatever the hell you want, with whoever the hell you want. You were just given a get out of jail free card, don't waste it brother. You're free!
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Post by Bone Daddy on Feb 2, 2013 19:18:15 GMT -5
Sorry to hear it bro. Not to go into it too much if you don't want to, but was it a big surprise?
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Post by britishbulldog on Feb 2, 2013 19:46:30 GMT -5
Sorry to hear it bro. Not to go into it too much if you don't want to, but was it a big surprise? Not a surprise, we have had problems for a while. I have just always had a belief that we were stronger than the problems and eventually we would find a way to get us back. We have both done things that hurt the marriage, but she gave up and I have continued to fight. I admit to not always being a stubborn, hardheaded and opinionated person and sometimes I am difficult to change my mind. It appears that is her big issue, but I don't really know. As far as being the first day of the rest of my life and freedom and all that crap, sorry but until you live for someone for that long the other option isn't an appealing one, at least not for me. Not to mention we have 2 great kids that will suffer because of it. |
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Post by Mochi Lone Wolf on Feb 2, 2013 19:56:40 GMT -5
In my opinion, you should continue to try to make things work out until the very end. If nothing else, for the kids' sake. They deserve to have their parents at least attempt to make things right.
No child should ever have to deal with that if it can be avoided. That's just how I feel though.
I wish you and your family all the best.
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Post by britishbulldog on Feb 2, 2013 19:58:20 GMT -5
In my opinion, you should continue to try to make things work out until the very end. If nothing else, for the kids' sake. They deserve to have their parents at least attempt to make things right. Believe me it is my intent. I still have a ring and pictures of her in my apt. They will not come down. I doubt even after it gets finalized I will remove them for a while. I love my wife more than I can say, to me she is worth dying for and I will continue to hold to whatever hope I can to return my family back to what it can be. |
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Post by milkomania on Feb 2, 2013 20:41:11 GMT -5
In my opinion, you should continue to try to make things work out until the very end. If nothing else, for the kids' sake. They deserve to have their parents at least attempt to make things right. No child should ever have to deal with that if it can be avoided. That's just how I feel though. On the same token though, your children have probably already been affected by the fighting. Staying together for the kids isn't always better for the kids. My parents just divorced after 40 years of marriage. They were unhappy as hell for at least 30 of that, and it affected my brother and I in deep ways. My brother is 25 and has already been divorced twice, and I don't ever want to marry. Anyways, it sucks what you're going through, and I feel for you. Just remember once your emotions settle that this might actually improve your and your children's relationships, and spend a lot of time (as much as you can) talking with your kids and telling you they're the most important to you. Good luck. |
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Post by britishbulldog on Feb 2, 2013 20:44:27 GMT -5
we have maintained a very polite relationship even with the anger. I talk to my girls all the time. Enrolled us all in a divorce support class. One for the kids and one for me.
I want to thank everyone for your support. It means more than you know right now.
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Post by Mozenrath on Feb 2, 2013 20:52:04 GMT -5
we have maintained a very polite relationship even with the anger. I talk to my girls all the time. Enrolled us all in a divorce support class. One for the kids and one for me. I want to thank everyone for your support. It means more than you know right now. That sounds like the best move possible. |
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