agent817
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Post by agent817 on Dec 21, 2013 21:45:18 GMT -5
When I was added on there, I was looking at some people who I had forgotten about (And mostly knew OF, but not actually knew as I didn't interact with them), and a lot who I actually remember. Anyway, there is talk of having a class reunion event somewhere, but that's not what this thread is about. What this thread is about is that I started getting feelings of inadequacy. I see that people who I graduated with are married and have families of their own, whereas I am still single and more interested in my education than I was when I graduated high school.
People have told me that I shouldn't compare myself to others, and while I tell myself that all that time, but for some reason I can't seem to shake that feeling I have. I know it's been a decade (Well, this coming June, anyway) since I've finished high school, and I know that it's been a long time since those days and I even look back and cringe about certain things that I've gone through, and I laugh about some of them as well. But why do I feel like some people are ahead of me in life?
Like I said, I can acknowledge that I should not feel this way and I am doing my best not to feel this way. I might even attend the reunion when it happens, but the main point I am making is the feeling that I've been having and that I shouldn't feel this way.
What do you think?
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Post by mcmahonfan85 on Dec 21, 2013 22:01:18 GMT -5
i'm gonna let Katt Williams give you some advice on the subject:
(warning: language)
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Post by Orange on Dec 21, 2013 22:04:14 GMT -5
I see that people who I graduated with are married and have families of their own, whereas I am still single and more interested in my education than I was when I graduated high school. Not even remotely is this a bad thing. There are a lot of people out there who have families that wish they would've focused more on their education, so that is definitely not a negative thing in the slightest. You're doing it right, brother, and if it pays off for you then you'll have the type of situation that most people envy. I'm not saying the people you went to school with regret having families, but there are a lot of people out there that would kill to have the opportunity to go back and do education first and family second. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 22:22:24 GMT -5
Having a family is an enormous responsibility and not one everyone is truly happy to have. It's great to have accomplishments but every accomplishment has its cost. Every degree, every job, every relationship has its ups and downs, its positives and its negatives. They are not the measure of who you are as a human being but they are aspects of your life that, should you want to pursue them, can change you in ways you cannot predict. Take this as a sign that you are not happy with where you are in life right now and decide if you want to change in order to arrive at a different place.
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agent817
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Post by agent817 on Dec 21, 2013 22:37:12 GMT -5
Having a family is an enormous responsibility and not one everyone is truly happy to have. It's great to have accomplishments but every accomplishment has its cost. Every degree, every job, every relationship has its ups and downs, its positives and its negatives. They are not the measure of who you are as a human being but they are aspects of your life that, should you want to pursue them, can change you in ways you cannot predict. Take this as a sign that you are not happy with where you are in life right now and decide if you want to change in order to arrive at a different place. Well, it would be nice to see some people who I have not seen in quite a long time. I am by no means depressed about it, but it sometimes makes me wonder what I have been doing with my life, but a lot of people think that. Well, with what I have been doing lately, I feel like I am on the right track in my pursuit of my goal, so I am satisfied for the most part. |
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Post by Lila on Dec 21, 2013 22:42:41 GMT -5
Every time I log-in into Facebook, someone new is pregnant.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2013 23:00:20 GMT -5
Everyone is thinking the same thing in a highschool reunion, even the ones with families, success, and lived a more interesting life than the most interesting man in the world
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Post by blackmegaman on Dec 22, 2013 1:15:06 GMT -5
Grass is Greener and all that.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 22, 2013 6:37:30 GMT -5
When I was added on there, I was looking at some people who I had forgotten about (And mostly knew OF, but not actually knew as I didn't interact with them), and a lot who I actually remember. Anyway, there is talk of having a class reunion event somewhere, but that's not what this thread is about. What this thread is about is that I started getting feelings of inadequacy. I see that people who I graduated with are married and have families of their own, whereas I am still single and more interested in my education than I was when I graduated high school. People have told me that I shouldn't compare myself to others, and while I tell myself that all that time, but for some reason I can't seem to shake that feeling I have. I know it's been a decade (Well, this coming June, anyway) since I've finished high school, and I know that it's been a long time since those days and I even look back and cringe about certain things that I've gone through, and I laugh about some of them as well. But why do I feel like some people are ahead of me in life? Like I said, I can acknowledge that I should not feel this way and I am doing my best not to feel this way. I might even attend the reunion when it happens, but the main point I am making is the feeling that I've been having and that I shouldn't feel this way. What do you think? Here's how I approached all this. Two years ago, must have been, was my 10th high school reunion. I'm not sure why I clicked the accept button on the little page they made but I did. So anyway, a lot of my Facebook friends are people I went to high school with and whoever is left is just people too lazy to defriend me. Of that gaggle of people, who if I gave even a slightest damn about I'd have bothered to keep in contact with during but especially after high school, there's a city worth of kids, divorces, a widow or two. Anyway, there's not this path to take. Once you're out of high school, the path you're forced to take is over. As a kid, you gotta do what, well really, the government makes your parents make you do. School. After that. It's all you. Once you're not forced to sit in a classroom every day, you can go to college, do what I did go to work, be a hobo under a bridge, go into porn, live on your parents couch as they as they let. There's no ladder to climb. Step A isn't go to college and get crushed by debt. 23 isn't meet the love of your life and get married, 26 isn't have kids. 65 isn't retire. Do what you want, what makes you happy. It's natural to compare yourself to other people, but don't define yourself by that. I'm 30, perpetually single, the main reasons I think about getting around to thinking meeting a girl are regular sex and someone around to force me to stop living like a bear with furniture. Anyway, I'm totally happy. It's 4:30am. I'm off work, I can sleep until it's getting up for work time. There's no kids to consider, no girl to consider. Totally selfish, it's all me. |
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Post by King Ghidorah on Dec 22, 2013 6:51:02 GMT -5
Every time I log-in into Facebook, someone new is pregnant. Feeling left Out? |
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Post by Sam Punk on Dec 22, 2013 12:38:12 GMT -5
Nothing wrong with that.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2013 12:40:06 GMT -5
It's mainly about reconnecting with people you haven't talked to in years. The only people who are interested in "what have you done all this time" are the ones who feel inadequate about what they've done, so they feel the need to compare.
The rest are just glad you're still alive and want to have a good time. If YOU feel you're doing a good thing, then be proud. Don't ever feel bad about your own path of success.
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Post by Danimal on Dec 22, 2013 13:09:05 GMT -5
When I was added on there, I was looking at some people who I had forgotten about (And mostly knew OF, but not actually knew as I didn't interact with them), and a lot who I actually remember. Anyway, there is talk of having a class reunion event somewhere, but that's not what this thread is about. What this thread is about is that I started getting feelings of inadequacy. I see that people who I graduated with are married and have families of their own, whereas I am still single and more interested in my education than I was when I graduated high school. People have told me that I shouldn't compare myself to others, and while I tell myself that all that time, but for some reason I can't seem to shake that feeling I have. I know it's been a decade (Well, this coming June, anyway) since I've finished high school, and I know that it's been a long time since those days and I even look back and cringe about certain things that I've gone through, and I laugh about some of them as well. But why do I feel like some people are ahead of me in life? Like I said, I can acknowledge that I should not feel this way and I am doing my best not to feel this way. I might even attend the reunion when it happens, but the main point I am making is the feeling that I've been having and that I shouldn't feel this way. What do you think? Guessing it's the 10year reunion. So what if you aren't married at 28? Plenty aren't, including many people with good social-lives. Plus you said you are focusing on college, so it isn't like you aren't doing anything with your life. |
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Post by Lila on Dec 22, 2013 14:56:58 GMT -5
Every time I log-in into Facebook, someone new is pregnant. Feeling left Out? Hell NO! |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2013 15:08:55 GMT -5
Why would anyone even want to get married in their 20's? That portion of your life should be spent on your own, traveling the world and/or finding out who you really are as a person. I know for certain that I won't settle down until I'm in my 30's.
I know a guy from HS who was very intelligent and ended up in a prestigious university, but he married last year at the age of 21. Why on earth would someone bog themselves down in a marriage at such a young age?
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Post by Professor Chaos on Dec 22, 2013 22:04:30 GMT -5
Nothing beats being single with every day an opportunity to nail another hot chick. A big part of me died once I gave that up and I haven't been the same since. Family is nice at times but I was never really a family guy growing up and inheriting a new one now still feels weird. Don't have any kids of my own just a step. I'd probably feel differently with a kid of my own.
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agent817
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Post by agent817 on Dec 23, 2013 1:49:30 GMT -5
It's mainly about reconnecting with people you haven't talked to in years. The only people who are interested in "what have you done all this time" are the ones who feel inadequate about what they've done, so they feel the need to compare. The rest are just glad you're still alive and want to have a good time. If YOU feel you're doing a good thing, then be proud. Don't ever feel bad about your own path of success. Good point. |
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