Jam
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Post by Jam on Jan 17, 2015 1:45:21 GMT -5
We have 3 kids too. The night time is right time, if you catch my drift. I shouldn't complain any further tonight since we did just get down about a half hr ago, but even the nights are tough as shit for that. I work a difficult job that keeps me busy and she stays home and gets run ragged. By the time we are together I'm still wired and ready but she is wiped out. I got lucky tonight f***ing A. Right on. Me too. Married nookie for the win. Ha.
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adamclark52
El Dandy
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Post by adamclark52 on Jan 17, 2015 1:53:50 GMT -5
Getting married didn't change my relationship with my girlfriend/wife much at all. But having kids did. That's changed our relationship quite a bit...maybe not for the better. I love the kids but we've both been burning out in the five years since we had out first son and it's really starting to hit hard now.
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The Unconquered Sun
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He has no pants! What a heathen!
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Jan 17, 2015 3:27:27 GMT -5
for those that say "it's who you marry," or "it's what you make it," you're right, absolutely 100% right.
but here's what happens when you choose poorly like i did.
my wife and i have been together for 15 years, married for 9. about 2 1/2 years ago she met the other man. apparently she forgot the part of our vows where she was going to forsake all others. and it's just been one long running firefight since then. and the kicker, she blames this whole mess on me!
i won't file for divorce because I've got everything to lose, including my daughter, which is the one thing i can't lose. she won't file because i'm her insurance and her safety net, when things go bad between them she comes back to me, but not for long.
we tried patching things up between us back in November. just the two of us on a vacation for a week. the day we got home, i found her sexting him. so much for true love. November was the last time we even sleep in the same room and the truth is, i don't miss it at all.
after all the lies and bullshit, i'm left angry and bitter. i can honestly say if i was ever single again, i wouldn't date. i'm glad a lot of you guys are in happy marriages. and that proves the point, its the couple that makes the marriage.
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Post by Amazing Kitsune on Jan 17, 2015 5:23:50 GMT -5
We've been together seven years and it's the best decision I ever made.
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Post by Mid-Carder on Jan 17, 2015 7:25:19 GMT -5
for those that say "it's who you marry," or "it's what you make it," you're right, absolutely 100% right. but here's what happens when you choose poorly like i did. my wife and i have been together for 15 years, married for 9. about 2 1/2 years ago she met the other man. apparently she forgot the part of our vows where she was going to forsake all others. and it's just been one long running firefight since then. and the kicker, she blames this whole mess on me! i won't file for divorce because I've got everything to lose, including my daughter, which is the one thing i can't lose. she won't file because i'm her insurance and her safety net, when things go bad between them she comes back to me, but not for long. we tried patching things up between us back in November. just the two of us on a vacation for a week. the day we got home, i found her sexting him. so much for true love. November was the last time we even sleep in the same room and the truth is, i don't miss it at all. after all the lies and bullshit, i'm left angry and bitter. i can honestly say if i was ever single again, i wouldn't date. i'm glad a lot of you guys are in happy marriages. and that proves the point, its the couple that makes the marriage. This is terrible. As a woman, I'm ashamed of women who use children (and money) as pawns this way. I hope you get this sorted out
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Mozenrath
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Post by Mozenrath on Jan 17, 2015 19:41:04 GMT -5
for those that say "it's who you marry," or "it's what you make it," you're right, absolutely 100% right. but here's what happens when you choose poorly like i did. my wife and i have been together for 15 years, married for 9. about 2 1/2 years ago she met the other man. apparently she forgot the part of our vows where she was going to forsake all others. and it's just been one long running firefight since then. and the kicker, she blames this whole mess on me! i won't file for divorce because I've got everything to lose, including my daughter, which is the one thing i can't lose. she won't file because i'm her insurance and her safety net, when things go bad between them she comes back to me, but not for long. we tried patching things up between us back in November. just the two of us on a vacation for a week. the day we got home, i found her sexting him. so much for true love. November was the last time we even sleep in the same room and the truth is, i don't miss it at all. after all the lies and bullshit, i'm left angry and bitter. i can honestly say if i was ever single again, i wouldn't date. i'm glad a lot of you guys are in happy marriages. and that proves the point, its the couple that makes the marriage. Oof, that's rough. I'm really sorry, man. I am glad you have your daughter, who sounds like she means the world to you for you to tolerate this woman for an instant. That said, and you can take or leave this advice, someday when your daughter, if she ever does, asks more about her mom, just try not to knock her too hard. As much as she's wronged you, she's still half of who your kid is, and it weighs on a kid sometimes to hear one parent knock the other. I have some issues with my mom, who I've mentioned before is a meth addict, but I try to look at the positives. There is so much she'll never know she f***ed up with me and my brothers, but it doesn't do any good to trash her, I guess, since it only really hurts me to get that angry. Hope that makes any sense.
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