My Mom Has Died (Update on Page 2)

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I found out today that mom doesn't have much longer to live. Her body has given up on her, and she only has a few more days. I already made the agreements to have her final days be comfortable and to make sure that the arrangements will be in place. I said my final goodbyes to mom and began informing people about the news.

My mom was only 53.

[Milkman Norm]

So sorry to hear. My sympathy to you and your family.

[Giul T.]

53 ain't no time to go.

Rest in peace.

Sorry for your loss.

[Deleted]

I can't imagine saying a final goodbye to my mum then leaving. I legit couldn't do it.

Sorry for your loss.

[MC Blowfish]

I'm sorry to hear about that.

[Dr. T is an alien]

My mom was just 55 when I lost her. I'm glad you at least got to say goodbye and have some time to process it before she passes. I'm not going to lie to you, however. It will be hard to accept for a while, but it does help to have family and friends to reminisce with. Hell, my dad, who long held a grudge against my mom for how their breakup went down and their bitter custody battles, was the biggest help for me in that regard as her passing allowed him to let it all go. Having him tell me about the good times before it all went south was extremely enlightening. I gained a better understanding of my mother, flawed as she may have been, and while it made me miss her a little more it also meant that it helped me focus on only the good memories that were precious to me.

I am also going to say something that is a little pathetic, but if it helps then it might be worth it. For a few months after her passing I occasionally would call her cell phone just to hear her voice in the outgoing message. I just did not want to forget the sound of her voice. Unfortunately, I did not think to keep paying her cell phone bill and her number was reassigned. In the end, that is fine, but it was something I felt I needed at my most vulnerable (my mother committed suicide and at the time I blamed myself for not realizing she was in trouble). If you think that you might feel the need for such things, be sure to take the right steps to keep any services online until you no longer feel such a need.

[edgestar]

I'm very sorry to hear that. If you need prayer, or just a happy thought, I can do that for you.

[Deleted]

Man, that sucks to hear. Hope at least the time she has is good.

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Jan 6, 2016 13:46:44 GMT -5 Dr. T is an alien said:

My mom was just 55 when I lost her. I'm glad you at least got to say goodbye and have some time to process it before she passes. I'm not going to lie to you, however. It will be hard to accept for a while, but it does help to have family and friends to reminisce with. Hell, my dad, who long held a grudge against my mom for how their breakup went down and their bitter custody battles, was the biggest help for me in that regard as her passing allowed him to let it all go. Having him tell me about the good times before it all went south was extremely enlightening. I gained a better understanding of my mother, flawed as she may have been, and while it made me miss her a little more it also meant that it helped me focus on only the good memories that were precious to me.

I am also going to say something that is a little pathetic, but if it helps then it might be worth it. For a few months after her passing I occasionally would call her cell phone just to hear her voice in the outgoing message. I just did not want to forget the sound of her voice. Unfortunately, I did not think to keep paying her cell phone bill and her number was reassigned. In the end, that is fine, but it was something I felt I needed at my most vulnerable (my mother committed suicide and at the time I blamed myself for not realizing she was in trouble). If you think that you might feel the need for such things, be sure to take the right steps to keep any services online until you no longer feel such a need.

Thanks.

Well, I am at least comforted by the fact that I did the absolute best I could to take care of her. If it wasn't for me, she would've died in agony months ago from sepsis and anemia.

I'm just guessing that a life without mobility was just too much for her to take, and she just gave up.

Oh, I know it's gonna be difficult. With my anxiety issues and my mental problems, I'm likely going to be enduring many days ahead where I don't feel like it's worth going on. But, I know I have to, not just for her sake, but for me. I am still young and got a long, full life ahead of me, and I want to make sure of that.

My mom wasn't perfect. She nagged and complained a lot, and I'm gonna miss the nagging. But, we had a lot of fun. There was the time we went to the Zoo when I was in the 5th grade and it rained all morning, so we hung out together and shared a meal. And she was there with me when I graduated from high school.

She made sure to see all of my accomplishments and she taught me a lot about life before going. And I will never forget her for that.

[Father Dougal McGuire]

Sorry to hear the bad news, I lost my dad when he was 42. Dealing with a parents death is hard, but the thing to remember is to live on, that is what they would want you to do. My prayers are with your mom and you.

[cool]

so sorry to hear this my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom

[Sparkybob]

I hope you found peace. I can't imagine my Mom passing so I don't have a way to say I know the feeling but I hope you and her friends and family have cherished memories.

[Deleted]

This is depressing to hear. That is way too young and it makes me think that my mother is older. I am deeply sorry to hear. You're in my thoughts

[Deleted]

My condolences.

[Douglas]

Sorry to hear about your loss. 53 is too young.

[Duke Cameron]

Wow this thread is hard to read. Just remember all the good times spent together and continue on like your mom would want you to.

[Clash, Never a Meter Maid]

I'm terribly sorry about your loss.

My condolences, I know she's proud of you. You're a good dude.

[The Spelunker!]

Jan 6, 2016 13:31:28 GMT -5 @jdogindy said:

I found out today that mom doesn't have much longer to live. Her body has given up on her, and she only has a few more days. I already made the agreements to have her final days be comfortable and to make sure that the arrangements will be in place. I said my final goodbyes to mom and began informing people about the news.

My mom was only 53.

I went through this in February. Feel free to hit me up if you need a shoulder to lean on man. I took care of my mom for years until she got bad enough to go into a nursing home, and after a couple years of that, she just gave up too. It was really, really hard, but at least you had the foresight to deal with final preparations. Having to do that stuff while dealing with the emotions is so awful. I'd recommend talking about it with people, and reminiscing about her with the people she was close with. A couple of my friends I grew up with that knew her well came over and spent the night at our house for a couple days, and that really helped my sister and I cope.

I'd save dealing with her stuff for later, if you can. Cleaning out her and my dad's rooms when they died was just about the worst thing I think I dealt with in the fallout.

[Bang Bang Bart]

My thoughts, prayers, and condolences to you, your mother, and your family.

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Thank you so much, everyone.

I'm gonna be upset when they tell me she finally passed away, and I'm gonna have a lot of sad days, but I know where my friends are and the people that supported me will be there for me. And I know my mom will be so proud of me for being able to take care of everything and she'll look down on me with support herself.

Thankfully, I can adjust the finances to where I control things for good, and they also have arranged for a cremation burial.