My Own Mother Says I'll Never Find Someone

[Fade]

f*** that noise, brah. My mother can be quite the negative nancy and downer. Screw that dude. Chin up, treat yourself, take a class, do something out off your comfort zone, something anything. You're the man, and treat yourself as such

[revolver86]

At least you had that. The best I ever managed was a nine month relationship, and now I live in a 100sq ft room. I'm 240 lb and a dishwasher. Also I'm a bipolar alcoholic. 30 years old and I worry, every night that I'm not gonna wake up, the next day. Cherish yourself, dude.

[ayumidah]

My mother is annoying about things too. What cracks me up is I'm happily single and have been for years and she nags me about wanting grandkids. Hmmm how DOES she expect that to happen?

Either way, parents are just weird, hurtful things sometimes. Keep doing what you have to do, no matter what anyone says. You'll be fine.

[Glitch]

I'm guessing your mom also thinks women should stay at home.

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

this thread is making me appreciate my own mother a hell of a lot. she'd never say something like that to me, or pester me for grandkids.

[A Platypus Rave is Correct]

Feb 6, 2017 6:45:41 GMT -5 Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! said:

this thread is making me appreciate my own mother a hell of a lot. she'd never say something like that to me, or pester me for grandkids.

Yeah... my mom would neer flat out tell me something like that...

On the other hand I can tell she wants my sister who is married to start having kids... even if she isn't flat out pushing for it ... she's not subtle

[Deleted]

Ive been told that I would never get a girl all through my teen years.

Well I have had plenty of girlfriends (no wife though) and know for a fact that anyone can find love.

Its rediculous that people ever say that. Different people want different things and there are plenty of girls out there who would love to meet any guy.

[Limity (BLM)]

Feb 6, 2017 10:57:21 GMT -5 A Platypus Rave is Correct said:

Feb 6, 2017 6:45:41 GMT -5 Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! said:

this thread is making me appreciate my own mother a hell of a lot. she'd never say something like that to me, or pester me for grandkids.

Yeah... my mom would neer flat out tell me something like that...

On the other hand I can tell she wants my sister who is married to start having kids... even if she isn't flat out pushing for it ... she's not subtle

I've always thought that was unforgivably messed up of parents to do. Kids are a permanent life changer, sometimes for the worse. That decision belongs solely to the individuals involved, and no one else.

[y4j1981]

[Hit Girl]

Tell your mom to join FAN.

I need to have a few words with her.

[Perfect Timing]

My mum says all sorts of shit. I think they just feel bad about their own lives so put down others and think you will probably believe her and it will hurt you.

[MC Blowfish]

I don't have a lot of money and I'm married. I was living at my mother's when I met my wife. That's completely untrue about what she said.

[2 time pro bowler Fred Dryer]

They say that "Moms do know best", so I guess you're going to die alone. Sorry, man.

[Shai]

If you had have told me 10 years ago that I'd be married with 4 kids I'd have laughed in your face then punched you in the face for getting my hopes up. I seriously thought I was going to be a crazy cat lady. My family and friends are still in disbelief that there is a man in this world willing to put up with my brand of crazy.

[Nikki Heyman]

My mother has never put me under that pressure, and I'm in no real hurry to settle down.

I've dated some wonderful people, just never took that next step

[britishbulldog]

Feb 4, 2017 22:26:04 GMT -5 crabbymelt said:

Hi, um...female here. Explain to me again why having a significant other is the epitome of happiness? Because it's never been for me. In fact, I was most miserable in a relationship. I had to be that person's perfect girlfriend all the time, all because I didn't want to be alone. All of my friends who rubbed their happiness in my face are divorced now. My exes are lousy people, so why would I want that for life? As a single person, I can dress and look the way I want to, go traveling where and when I want to, eat what I want to. If I want to spend my money on something frivolous, I do it, because it's my money. Sure I get lonely. But there's literally NOTHING I can't get from somewhere else that a significant other is supposed to be giving me.

I get your point. To counter my marriage was the one time I was truly happy with all aspects of my life. Had my best friend walking beside me everyday. Even after my divorce I consider her still to be my best friend and would do anything for her. I'm fine bring along and have been for a couple years. But being in a healthy relationship and growing with someone is something I still wish I had. The stability, the sorry, the warmth.

[blake6905]

Yeah... your moms a bitch dude. Don't ever let anyone talk negative to you regardless if it's family or not. You know what kind of person you are and what kind of person you want to be and nobody can take that away from you.

There are girls out there... just hard to find. Met my wife while working at Office Depot... which yeah... means I had ZERO monies. She is smoking ass hot and for some reason fell in love with me. It damn sure wasn't because of my bank account or looks...(or what's in my underwear for that matter.). We make each other laugh all day everyday. We like the same stuff. We have each other's back. 10 years later (I'm 30, she's 29) and nothing has changed( well 3 kids, she's a teacher and I'm in the oilfield... but ya know)

Chin up dude. Now days there are tons of dating apps and stuff to help. Go to a gym or start a hobby that will build your confidence... you only get one life don't let some asshat ruin it for you... SEIZE THE DAY BABY! Take chances... have some fun! Only thing stopping you is your brain

[CMPunkyBrewster]

Feb 4, 2017 21:37:56 GMT -5 Reflecto said:

My mother said the same thing.

Many times.

Including after I did what she wanted and got a job- she made it clear "Nope, it's not good enough." Not because it's minimum wage- my mother made it clear for decades it would never be enough for her until I work at a supermarket- she even once told me to drop out of high school to work at one when one made me an offer, but it'd be impossible for me to make it from my school to that supermarket for the 3PM starting time. (And even through jobs, she's made it clear that her one goal isn't even the supermarket, or even a discount on food...but to sell me out and be able to befriend while feeling so totally superior to the people who lived across the street from us.)

I even told her flat out- "You want me to work at a supermarket SO BADLY? Fine. Put your money where your mouth is. You set me up with someone, I'll work at a supermarket", and she said "no, not happening, I still don't deserve someone."

The worst part is she's clearly right. If someone was going to love me, it would have happened by now. Anyone who would love me is past "pity" or "money" or "US Citizenship" and into "A sick joke that they took a little bit too far."

Ok, I'm sorry, and I don't want to derail the thread, but...

What in the actual f*** is going on in this post? This is some messed up shit. It sounds like something from an episode of Tim and Eric. Are we all just ignoring this?

Is this real? I'm not meaning to make light of your situation if so, but...what the hell?

[Mozenrath]

Man, my mom is a major f***up on a lot of levels when it comes to how she's been with me and my brothers, but at least she butts out of my love life. Sorry about all this.

[The Thread Barbi]

Chin up mate. If any parental predictions came true for me, I would probably be the worst person ever to have existed.