Post by Thrasher Enby on Jun 24, 2019 21:44:12 GMT -5
Just remembered that today is June 24th, meaning 12 years have passed since the Benoit tragedy, and it was a huge punch in the gut remembering that.
I cannot believe it has been that long.
Where were you when you heard the news?
I, just like many others, turned on the TV with my family to watch Raw and was greeted by the graphic, along with 3 hours of the most uncomfortable tribute show in hindsight. I was still a kid and didn't somehow get the gravity of the situation.
I hate dwelling on it and debated on making this thread, but sometimes I feel it's a reminder on how far the wrestling business has come.
Post by arrogantmodel on Jun 24, 2019 22:12:20 GMT -5
I was dating a girl, and we went out that Monday night. I figured, nothing too exciting is happening, I won't miss anything.
Next day, I get on my computer, and first thing I see is about the "death of WWE star and family." I was thinking somebody was in a car crash or something. Then it says it was in their home, and I thought carbon monoxide.
So I missed the Benoit tribute show and had no idea what had happened, since I wasn't getting ppvs, so I didn't know Benoit no showed. But damn was this insane to hear.
The Benoit murders is definitely wrestling fan's 9/11 and Kennedy assassination. You'll never forget where you were when you heard the news.
Post by bennith the Friendship Frog on Jun 24, 2019 22:25:01 GMT -5
Someone on MSN Messenger (remember that?) told me to look at WWE.com
"Benoit Family Found Dead" I believe the headline was. Keep in mind this was during the time when Vince was blown up in a limo and you had detectives as characters on TV and ongoing "whodunit?" as the main storyline. My immediate thought was it was the next step in that storyline..
When it was said that RAW would be a tribute show for him and Vince himself was there, my mind went to a home invasion or a terrible accident of some kind.
Not once did I ever think that it was what it turned out to be.
I don’t remember exactly when I found out, but I was home alone while my parents were on vacation, and while I was watching the tribute Raw my electricity just completely shut down and didn’t come back on. So I had to go over and spend the night at my sister’s house for the first and only time, and I just remember not getting any sleep at all that night. A combination of thinking about the tragedy, sleeping on an air mattress, and having a really uneasy feeling. The power shutting down during such a dramatic time just had me completely on edge. So the next day they’ve got the TV on CNN for whatever reason, and I see the actual story developing.
I’ve never felt those feelings again. Just the most uneasy, uncomfortable feeling I’ve ever felt.
I've reached the point at which I've stopped questioning why it happened or what might have been. I have a hard time conceiving of a different series of events which would have ended up with the same result.
Benoit's actions, while certainly horrific, had some of the most edifying consequences imaginable. It was the murder-suicide that blew the lid off the concussion studies and catalyzed the snowball that forced professional sports to take a good, hard look at its response to CTE. It even brought attention to a study of Toronto's homeless population which suggested that 50% of that city's homeless suffered from some measure of brain injury. It shook pro wrestling to its core, but the changes that emerged came from the bleachers and the locker room, not the board room. More and more, wrestlers started thinking about their work/life balance and what awaited them at the end of their careers; fans lost a lot of their collective stomach for the ultra-violent movesets and spots that risked significant injury; size ceased to be a hard requirement for entry into the profession. While more would die after Benoit, those deaths were fewer and farther between, and the contagion of mourning that has been seeping into the subculture dissipated seemingly overnight.
It was a dark and challenging time, but wrestling emerged from it more resilient and healthier than ever, I think.
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Post by "Evil Chops" Jackson Vanik on Jun 24, 2019 23:04:56 GMT -5
It's honestly shocking in hindsight that they did a tribute show for him. In that situation where foul play has to be on your mind, you gotta at least assume there's a possibility something happened. And if he wasn't the culprit, you would know by the next day. I literally remember changing the channel from RAW crying over his death and immediately seeing headlines on CNN that he killed his family. It was surreal.
I remember checking PWInsider that morning for Vengeance results, and there was a small note that Benoit missed the show because of a “family emergency.” At that point I didn’t think much of it other than “gee, hope everything’s okay.”
The next time I accessed the Internet was shortly before Raw started. As this was supposed to be the Mr. McMahon tribute show, I was all set to kick off my night of posting with a joke about which of these would dominate the show: Vengeance recaps or McMahon tribute segments. For some reason I decided to make a quick visit to WWE’s website, and that’s where I saw the headline:
“BENOIT FAMILY FOUND DEAD.”
Now without reading the article—and remember that all the details hadn’t come out yet—I thought maybe there had been some kind of accident, or even that someone had broken into the home and killed the family.
I raced right over here and things were understandably tense. My dad called me during the tribute show to ask if I had heard what happened, and that’s when I found out that the police were treating the case as a murder-suicide.
My grandfather fell in his nursing home that morning and landed pelvis/hip first. He was rushed to the hospital and was unresponsive to efforts to communicate with him due to pain and medication. I, my Dad (his son) and my aunt (his daughter) went to the hospital as soon as we heard and stayed next to him the whole day until visiting hours were ending. The only words he said was when a nurse tried to move his leg and he said "NOW CUT THAT OUT!" but while we couldn't exchange words, we were by his side, holding his hands as he still squeezed back.
At one point in the afternoon I stepped out to the bathroom. I turned my phone on (this was pre-airplane mode/pre-smartphone and phones weren't allowed in hospital rooms) and during that window my buddy patrick called to tell me benoit and his family were found dead. No cause of death was given, and my mind went to a carbon monoxide leak, not even thinking murder/suicide could be a possibility.
I stepped out of the bathroom, turned the phone off and rejoined my family until we had to leave for the night.
I was home for only 30 minutes of the Raw tribute before we got the call that my grandfather had died. We drove back to the hospital and there was my grandfather looking lifeless and in pain. His eyes shut, his mouth open like he was screaming. His head and neck arched into the air. My whole life I'd been told how at peace people look right after they die, like all their worries and concerns just fade away and they're at peace. This was the complete opposite. It was everything we fear about how sliding into death looks. I really, really wish I hadn't seen it. I thankfully have many happier, brighter, more vivid memories of my grandfather that I think of first when he comes to mind, but this was just so ghastly he was almost unrecognizable.
My phone was off until I got home that night. I didn't want to turn it on. I didn't want to talk to anyone. I put on my livejournal, xanga, and AIM Away Message that my grandfather had just died and I didn't want to talk to anyone for a few days (I used to deal with grief by hardcore withdrawling). I then went to check the wrestling news sites to see if there was a update on Benoit's cause of death and found out all at once that it was being investigated as a homicide, but nobody outside the crime scene was being suspected. I stayed up lurking on these forums and reading every news site I came across to see if there were updates as they slowly poured in a midst speculation. It was, at the very least, a distraction that kept me busy for a while before I really had to begin processing my grandpa's death.
This is the first time I've ever been able to talk about losing my grandfather that day. Thank you for indulging me.
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Benoit was my favourite wrestler so it took me a long time to get over it.
Heard it being announced at work on the radio (Radio 1 if I remember rightly) about 3 hours before my shift was due to end and after that that was all I could think about. This was before I could drive so it took me an hour to get home and before I had a phone that could access the internet. Got home, had a read through on this board and even saw it mentioned on Sky Sports News. Don’t know if it made our national news or not. Probably.
That evening I had a driving lesson and it went terribly and I burst into tears and probably shouldn’t have had the lesson. 9 days later I passed my driving test at the 9th attempt. If anything good came out of Benoit’s death for me it was it caused me to have a driving lesson so bad I burst into tears and by the time the test came around I was fully focused and ready.