Honestly, what am I supposed to think?

[Spider2024]

What's the line exactly for a fan of a wrestler? Where does it go from "a good fan" to "a f***ing crazy psychopath of a fan"? Because apparently I've measured this line wrong way too many times recently.

Or maybe I'm crazy in reading into signs too much. I am crazy actually. I've got Asperger's Syndrome as well as OCD. I've got a very complicated, f***ed up brain that I have been getting treatment/therapy/medication for continually.

In fact that's the main issue here: Me contacting wrestlers (many with similar issues) on social media with general & harmless comments/questions/etc. and way too often getting completely ignored by a lot of them.

How am I supposed to take this, exactly? Honestly, how am I supposed to NOT thing they're hypocrites? Or, how am I supposed to NOT think they went too far in assuming I was being ultra-creepy or stalking them after sending honest, harmless words to them?

Did I do it wrong by even contacting them at all? In wide-open online venues that are open to everyone, or maybe not?

Every time I try to be a good fan only to get the stone wall of silence back, it fractures my psyche and will to try to be personable and talk openly even further. I've never been mean to a wrestler. Or at least I never thought I was being mean and worthy of a middle finger of silence. And yet here I am, posing various questions to whoever will listen.

I feel tricked, honestly. Completely tricked (I'll even use the word 'entrapment') over the fact that so many wrestler people treat their fans like literal nothingness. Especially the ones who also have similar problems, thus they SHOULD know it's wrong to ignore people or over-assume bad things about people for no good reason.

Should I not be fans of wrestlers? Should I not even try to say anything to them at all, despite the implied invitation to, since it's on a PUBLIC social media account? Should I learn my lesson by now? Not even be a fan of any wrestler person at all ever again?

I no longer know what the answer is. So I'm throwing this onto any of you who might read this and might have been in any or all of these similar situations. How maybe any of you have dealt with any of this. How do I go on? I just want to try to go on without bothering me every day of my life.

Sure, wrestlers can't respond to EVERYONE. But I now have to feeling that "fans" get the umbrella/blanket treatment of being ignored and not cared about, by way too many wrestlers. Despite wrestlers being "fans" at one point themselves, too many wrestlers seem too willing to condemn "fans" this belittling way, conveniently forgetting that wrestlers were "fans" long before.

Is this incorrect? I almost hope you tell me that it is incorrect, and that wrestler people (most of them at least) aren't somehow shitty and hypocritical and stereotyping towards the very same fans that give them love and support.

(I guess I should be really asking, how do I not care or let this bother me? Because honestly it shouldn't. But my f***ed up brain and my fractured psyche and my shattered soul makes me dwell on these things way more than it should, I know that. I don't know if more meds will help, or even different meds, because I've tried changing all that, I've tried way too many "recipes" and none of it has really worked and it really has only led me to being a 35-year old man writing this post.)

[Mister Pigwell]

They're celebs with a ton of messages a day, if they respond to any it's gonna be pulled from a hat or something that caught their eye usually.

They don't owe anyone their time or attention. Gotta remember that.

Ok so what I would do to help with your final point there, just stop @ing wrestlers. You can be a perfectly fine and supportive fan without actually trying to converse with them.

[hotshotalex]

You sound so entitled dude.

[cactussam]

I have worked in the mental health field working directly with individuals like yourself. I previously served one individual that had some similar thoughts and sentiments and had developed a number of delusions about certain wrestlers including that John Cena had been raping women around the country and his promos were coded to this individual. He had deemed that he was the only one that could stop Cena and started making threats that the next time they came to town he would do something about it. The issue was that this man's day program was across the street from the Hotel where the wrestlers stayed when WWE came to town. What we had to enact was a full on restriction from wrestling for him.

In essence what I'm saying if it is making you this miserable you have to disconnect from wrestling and wrestlers on social media. I can tell you I've never even thought about contacting a wrestler on social media. I consider the entertainment they provide me enough. I'm very glad you are seeking help.

[Allie Kitsune]

I'm kind of glad the few times I've responded to a wrestler, almost none of them have ever responded back (the only one who ever has is Brandi Rhodes, when I told Cody that he should get a second husky).

Getting on the bad side of Blue Checkmarks makes you someone who won't have a long lifespan on the Twittah Machine.

[Mozenrath]

Aug 29, 2019 18:22:36 GMT -5 Allie Kitsune said:

I'm kind of glad the few times I've responded to a wrestler, almost none of them have ever responded back (the only one who ever has is Brandi Rhodes, when I told Cody that he should get a second husky).

Getting on the bad side of Blue Checkmarks makes you someone who won't have a long lifespan on the Twittah Machine.

Was... was she onboard with the dog idea?

I've been fortunate. Have only really written a handful, and all of them were polite, even ones like Aries and Konnan where some people might figure they'd be jerks. (Granted, Aries responded in-character, since he was Austin Starr at the time)

[Allie Kitsune]

Aug 29, 2019 18:29:25 GMT -5 Mozenrath said:

Aug 29, 2019 18:22:36 GMT -5 Allie Kitsune said:

I'm kind of glad the few times I've responded to a wrestler, almost none of them have ever responded back (the only one who ever has is Brandi Rhodes, when I told Cody that he should get a second husky).

Getting on the bad side of Blue Checkmarks makes you someone who won't have a long lifespan on the Twittah Machine.

Was... was she onboard with the dog idea?

I've been fortunate. Have only really written a handful, and all of them were polite, even ones like Aries and Konnan where some people might figure they'd be jerks. (Granted, Aries responded in-character, since he was Austin Starr at the time)

No, she absolutely was NOT on board with the idea.

[Deleted]

I’m not famous by any stretch but I have thousands of followers on Twitter and I usually wake up to 100+ alerts..

I can’t reply to all of them. Sometimes I look at how many I have and I say “Nah... f*** that.”

Following and sending tweets to a wrestler isn’t taking it too far.

Contacting their families, going to their homes, etc... that’s too far.

[Spider2024]

Aug 29, 2019 18:21:01 GMT -5 cactussam said:

In essence what I'm saying if it is making you this miserable you have to disconnect from wrestling and wrestlers on social media. I can tell you I've never even thought about contacting a wrestler on social media. I consider the entertainment they provide me enough. I'm very glad you are seeking help.

I've actually been considering that, a temporary but complete break of at least social media. An 'internet detox' I guess. A lot of people on the internet seem to try a clean break for a week or 2 or even longer to clear their head.

I might just do that until my next therapy appointment. Remove the SM from the favorites bar and see how I feel after a while.

[Spider2024]

I'm sorry for what I said hotshotalex

Thank you all for being understanding so far.

[Spider2024]

Aug 29, 2019 18:40:57 GMT -5 @negan said:

I’m not famous by any stretch but I have thousands of followers on Twitter and I usually wake up to 100+ alerts..

I can’t reply to all of them. Sometimes I look at how many I have and I say “Nah... f*** that.”

Following and sending tweets to a wrestler isn’t taking it too far.

Contacting their families, going to their homes, etc... that’s too far.

Before this thread, I was considering spilling these thoughts out to the husband (also a wrestler, and to his "for bookings" email) of the woman wrestler I was really hoping would read them.

That wouldn't have been creepy or stalker-y at all.

So I'm happy for my own sake that I came here instead. (Technically the lesser of two evil options.)

[Can you afford to pay me, Gah]

There is nothing wrong with trying to interact with a wrestler on a public social media.Just don't expect a reply all the time and feel grateful when they do if and when it does happen. This, more so if they are a top talent in the WWE or any big league company. They likely get hammered by millions of messages if there DMs are unlocked and tagged in millions of post. With how busy they are, there not going to be on social media 24/7 to reply to everything. Just keep that in mind. Now some wrestlers are also better than others with using social media. It seems like it almost a requirement for a WWE guy to have one these days. Now how one uses it, its on them.

[lucas_lee]

The wrestlers are much better to meet in person. I rarely had a bad interaction (Virgil and Raven are exceptions). Social media they rarely answer back. Dont feel slighted theyre busy folk like you and me.

[Mister Pigwell]

Aug 29, 2019 18:45:19 GMT -5 Spider2024 said:

Aug 29, 2019 18:40:57 GMT -5 @negan said:

I’m not famous by any stretch but I have thousands of followers on Twitter and I usually wake up to 100+ alerts..

I can’t reply to all of them. Sometimes I look at how many I have and I say “Nah... f*** that.”

Following and sending tweets to a wrestler isn’t taking it too far.

Contacting their families, going to their homes, etc... that’s too far.

Before this thread, I was considering spilling these thoughts out to the husband (also a wrestler, and to his "for bookings" email) of the woman wrestler I was really hoping would read them.

That wouldn't have been creepy or stalker-y at all.

So I'm happy for my own sake that I came here instead. (Technically the lesser of two evil options.)

Just for the record, that's absolutely crossing the fandom line. Bad juju.

[rnrk supports BLM]

Anyone else remember the guy on here several years back who was really, REALLY into Melina, would derail any thread with a passing reference to Melina's purported attitude issues and/or sex life with an impassioned defense of her, and who posited that John Morrison was a sociopath based on how rarely he'd respond to tweets?

The saddest part was that he posted about plenty of other topics on here as well and seemed like a normal, intelligent, witty guy, this Melina thing was just a colossal blind spot for him and he seemed to have no idea how badly his Melina posts came across.

Please don't be that guy.

[Can you afford to pay me, Gah]

Aug 29, 2019 18:51:15 GMT -5 Mister Pigwell said:

Aug 29, 2019 18:45:19 GMT -5 Spider2024 said:

Before this thread, I was considering spilling these thoughts out to the husband (also a wrestler, and to his "for bookings" email) of the woman wrestler I was really hoping would read them.

That wouldn't have been creepy or stalker-y at all.

So I'm happy for my own sake that I came here instead. (Technically the lesser of two evil options.)

Just for the record, that's absolutely crossing the fandom line. Bad juju.

Yeah any attempts of talking to a wrestler, only do it directly on there public social. The better way is hopefully they do a public signing somewhere close and meet them. That may take a while but at less when it does happen, you have your chance to say something.

[King Devitt]

I will say on the positive side of things, at least you recognize that this might be a problem (b/c it kinda is), and are open to talking about it publicly.

My partner also has Asperger's so I can get where you're coming from in my interactions with him. He doesn't obsess over famous people, but he has his own quirks that he does obsess over, and often asks if he's being too OCD about stuff.

My advice, admire from afar.
And if you feel the urge to contact so directly, stop and ask yourself why.

[Spider2024]

Aug 29, 2019 18:58:30 GMT -5 Can you afford to pay me, Gah said:

Aug 29, 2019 18:51:15 GMT -5 Mister Pigwell said:

Just for the record, that's absolutely crossing the fandom line. Bad juju.

Yeah any attempts of talking to a wrestler, only do it directly on there public social. The better way is hopefully they do a public signing somewhere close and meet them. That may take a while but at less when it does happen, you have your chance to say something.

I was thinking of that too, but now I'm actually thinking maybe this rant did get it out of my system. (for forever, I hope). So now I hope I never feel the need to rant into a wrestler's face at a signing.

[Spider2024]

I don't want to hurt any body. In any way shape or form. Figuratively or literally.

Just thought I needed to say that.

[Deleted]

a lot of them will only reply to being dissed. Some guys have been teased or gotten heat for retweeting compliments. Try not to take it personally