Paul
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Post by Paul on Dec 22, 2019 16:37:33 GMT -5
Telling a kid to fight is a bad idea. This is not like movies or TV shows. There's a good chance he'd get his ass kicked by a kid who's stronger than him. Tell him to not provoke the other kids and keep to himself and try to ignore anyone who's giving him trouble.
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lionheart21
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Post by lionheart21 on Dec 22, 2019 17:10:53 GMT -5
Telling a kid to fight is a bad idea. This is not like movies or TV shows. There's a good chance he'd get his ass kicked by a kid who's stronger than him. Tell him to not provoke the other kids and keep to himself and try to ignore anyone who's giving him trouble. It's not asking for him to instigate a fight, though, but rather for him to be able to defend himself if it is necessary.
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Post by Milkman Norm on Dec 22, 2019 21:38:55 GMT -5
I'm not opposed to the idea of using self defence or striking a bully. But if this child is physically weaker or more clumsy than the average 12 year old that probably isn't a good idea.
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Dub H
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Post by Dub H on Dec 22, 2019 21:55:02 GMT -5
Basically dont start fights but to not be afraid of protecting himself. I stabbed,choked and was still bullied at times,so it is not a physical anger standing up The moments I stopped bullying the most was mostly verbal.
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Post by claytanic on Dec 23, 2019 0:44:25 GMT -5
Like others have cautioned physicality is a last resort and may not yield the result he is looking for.
The best life advice I can give though is the more you can build him up, help him see the value in himself and who he is, that makes the target a whole lot smaller.
Bullying is about trying to put someone down to dominate over them.
If it is non physical just being able to stand there and say, "You don't bother me, I'm over it." laugh and walk off like he could give two shits less takes that power away from them.
If it is physical fighting back is a two way street... great if win, could be terrible to lose. So I would exhaust resources before going that route.
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Post by ogreknee on Dec 23, 2019 0:56:16 GMT -5
Do martial arts
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Nr1Humanoid
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Post by Nr1Humanoid on Dec 23, 2019 6:59:16 GMT -5
Fighting back sounds nice in theory, but bullies have sidekicks, ready to step in when needed.
I say raise hell with the school, including involving the law, give them no choice but to act. Silence is a bully's best friend.
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Post by Natural Born Farmer on Dec 23, 2019 8:21:05 GMT -5
Do schools still have those “zero tolerance” policies where they don’t look into the cause of a fight, all participants just get punished equally and they report the matter to the police?
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Post by Milkman Norm on Dec 23, 2019 12:02:43 GMT -5
From another perspective what are the young man's strengths and interests? Could you help lead him to a community that could validate and support him? Even if it's online only?
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Post by edgestar on Dec 23, 2019 12:41:42 GMT -5
I wouldn't go the route of decking the kid, but speaking out can help. I was bullied as a kid, because of the glasses I had, and I have a shunt, and kids said I was gross, because of the tube in my neck. Things I can't help, and I need them. Besides, true beauty is within. We're all different. Your nephew may be a target to someone, now, but he will be okay. Bullies bully a lot of the time, because they are frustrated with something, and it's easy to say mean things.
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Post by Hit Girl on Dec 23, 2019 13:32:29 GMT -5
Is there a Cobra Kai dojo in your town?
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