One of my online friends won't stop getting on my case.

[autisticgeordie]

I've told you guys in the past that I used to RP on Twitter, well, I couldn't help myself and reactivated one of my RP accounts and, ironically, it was the first ever account that I had set up back in November of 2011; it was an original character I came up with and all that, but, one of my friends in the Twitter RP community also happened to use the same face-claim that I used for her OC. 

Which is fair enough, you know, there's nothing wrong with that, and, what you do in RP Twitter is that you often tweet in character, with marks like this '//' to let people know that you're out of character, it's a simple system and, yet, when I tweeted something as a heel, she gave a response that seemed like it was legitimate frustration, for whatever reason. 

So, I DMed her and asked her about it, and she confirmed that it was legitimate frustration because my character was coming off as too abrasive, even if they were a heel and she didn't like it because she felt 'Guilty by association' because we both used the same FC for our characters. 

She's had a go at me before and it actually got to the point where I left Twitter RP for a spell, but I came back, because I find it a way for my creativity to come out. But, this time, we were having a discussion and we've got a few mutual friends who we RP with and have banter and all that; and, since we've got the same FC, our characters get compared, as mine as the heel, they're referred to as the 'discount' version of the character my friend portrays.

I've got no problem with that, and actually find it quite amusing, now, I was assuming that she didn't like the fact that we were using the same FC, so I DMed her with "Is me having -insert reference here- that big of an issue to you and she said that it wasn't, but then she said, quote "Seems as if you’re trying to make me look like a bad guy here, though. Appreciate it."

Now, is me offering to change my character's look so she feels better really me making her out to be the bad guy? Because, honestly, I don't see it, but I don't want to say that, because she'll just get snippier and more confrontational, so it's best to just agree with her because trying to explain things to her just makes it worse. 

Some people take fun escapism and find a way to make it waaaay too serious; the thing is, I don't want to make anyone feel bad, so I was just caught off guard by the fact that she was so confrontational and I didn't have the bottle to just go "Look, can you get off my case??"

[warden]

As a mentor once told me. Those people, you got to snip. Like a scissor... Snip

[Kyn]

That's not a friend. I'd stop interacting with her.

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[Big BosskMan]

I guess the question is "What is more important - the online friend or the face you're both using for these characters?"

You don't say you've heard from this person outside of this RP stuff, but she's bringing drama now over the fact you returned and your RP personas share the same face and people are getting confused.

Unless you're really married to the appearance of this character you've made, let her have the face, change yours, block her, and be done with it.

Some might see that as a loss but for the sake of a character face and a relationship that is tenuous at best, it's more of an investment in getting her out of your hair.

[Rave]

I can understand the importance of the perfect portrait for a character. At the same time, a face claim is a stupid reason to cause drama. You can try to hash it out with this person, but I get the feeling they'll be finding more things to cause drama over in the future, so it might not be worth the time/effort. I actually advocate the path of no contact when it comes to people like this. Cutting away the negativity works wonders.

The people referring to your character as a "discount version", on the other hand? I'd block them outright. They're just unnecessarily furthering the drama.

EDIT: This thread made me remember someone I used to know. This is the first person I'd ever actively had to request not to have to interact with in a game, and a big reason why I lean towards little to no contact with those who cause drama and trouble whenever possible.

Over the years, I've met a ridiculous amount of people through roleplay. Most have been cool, while some...eeeeeeeehhhhh. There have been munchkins, power abusers, people who insist on playing antisocial characters in group settings (which is just WTF), general WTFery, some creeps, and a few people who I've genuinely thought at least once that they belonged in the loony bin. This is about one of those people who're in that last category. For simplicity's sake, I'll call them Rook, after their most played character.

Rook was...unique. If you got them outside the games where them played that character, Rook the player was actually pretty pleasant to interact with. The games where they played that character, on the other hand? Hoo boy. Rook the character had to be the center of attention, had to be included in everything, had to be the best, or else Rook the player would throw an ungodly fit. They were also horribly passive-aggressive, so anyone who caught their ire would be the target of snippy comments and crap at the very least, which tended to escalate quickly. There was sockpuppetry of other characters they had control of to make Rook the character look good and whoever they didn't like look bad, which is something I know they did because I personally outed them as having done it after one incident towards the character of another player who they'd had problems with. Rook the player had a very distinct way of typing, it was pretty easy to recognize what they were doing. In other memorable incidents, they attempted to wreck game narratives when not given their way.

I was in two different games with this person and their annoying as f*** character, where they kept pulling all of the above. It got to the point where nobody in either game wanted anything to do with them. In one game, I was told that it was a possibility for me to boot them from an in-game group we'd shared at that point and take control of it for myself (I'd been in that particular group since its onset and basically led it, while they'd gotten shoved in at the last moment), but when I expressed a serious interest in doing this I was told no because "they needed a group and nobody else will take them". By that time I'd had several fights with Rook the player and just wanted nothing to do with them, something I also expressed. Ended up splitting the in-game group in half. Rook took one group (and still caused trouble even after that, the aforementioned sockpuppet incident being part of that), while I took the other. I think the GMs began to hate me at that point and began targeting my group with increasing amounts of shady crap, but that's another story for another time.

When the GMs finally got completely sick of Rook the player (the GM that had enabled their and other players' bad behavior having left quite a while before that), the character got this grand heroic sacrifice sendoff (which I still joke about to this day). The other game I had to put up with this character in was long gone at that point, and the third game I'd added with them in it didn't have the character (and they were firmly reined in by a good friend of mine who was primary GM and who'd had to deal with the same stuff from them), so they were actually pleasant, though their passive-aggressiveness reared its ugly head once again at the tail end.

When the third game died, so did anything I had to do with them. I haven't shared a game with this narcissistic terror since then, and I don't intend to again.

[Deleted]

' a Face/Off inspired feud and tell her "I'm the REAL face, that runs the place!"

[xCompackx]

Are you wanting to keep a friendship with this person? It sounds more like you just want her to leave you alone and if so, that's a lot easier to remedy with the block button.

If you're wanting to remain friends, though, I'd just let her have the face and maybe take a break from talking for a bit to let things cool.