Rave
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Post by Rave on Jul 1, 2024 20:42:58 GMT -5
Thanks to a combination of the age gap, me being on the spectrum (though to be fair, this was happening long before I was diagnosed), and our father having died when I was barely a year old (though from the stories I've heard, he was a piece of work), idiot brother gets it into his head every so often that he has to parent me. He's been told to leave me alone, but since my mom's been out of the house it's started up again. Pretty much every time I've seen him over the past month of being by myself, he's asked when I woke up and when I went to sleep, which is none of his business. I hear "Oh you've got to keep more daylight hours." or "Work on getting to sleep earlier." Meanwhile, his actual son, entitled nephew, is pretty much nocturnal as well and not a peep is said to him. "He's a grown man, he can do what he wants." So I'm not a grown woman? I pay rent around here, which entitled nephew certainly does not. I pay for my own internet, which entitled nephew certainly does not. I've proven over this past month that I can handle myself and my own business without needing to be watched over constantly. Leave me the f*** alone already.
Plus as was said before, they walk on eggshells around entitled nephew because he pitches fits at the smallest provocation. And I'm sure idiot brother's planning to dump my mom on me again and f*** off wherever like he did before. Thankfully she's been recovering very well.
On a related note, the rehab facility is dangling my mom going home in front of her like a carrot on a string. One person says Wednesday, another wants her to stay another week to basically do more of what she's already been doing. It's getting annoying.
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J. Hova
Don Corleone
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Post by J. Hova on Jul 2, 2024 0:35:21 GMT -5
If you guys remember, about 3.5 years ago, I posted a thread about my Mom's brain hemorrhage (technically a subdural hematoma, but that point is not germane to this story). With the same fall, she busted her shoulder pretty well.
For the past 3.5 years, she's been trying to avoid surgery on said shoulder through PT, different stretching exercises, etc. It has gotten worse and was to the point where she had no quality of life. Her wonderful physical therapist a couple of months ago said she needed to go back to the surgeon and have another consultation as he's done all he can do with therapy.
Anyway, surgeon says it needs to be done and last Thursday she had it done. This surgeon is also generally considered to be about the best in the area for shoulder replacements. It was supposed to be 2 hours, it ended up being over 3 due to all the damage found that the scans didn't show. It was decided Friday afternoon that she needed to go to skilled nursing due to the pain, her existing mobility issues from age (she's 78) and that fall. We find a great facility that is under new ownership and she is scheduled to be transferred on Monday late morning.
I was already planning on taking this week off in addition to last Thursday and Friday. I get a call at 8am this morning from the skilled nursing facility confirming different details with her insurance, med list, etc. That is all well and good. About a half hour later, the hospital calls me and says she'll be discharged between 11 and 12 to the facility and asking if I want to take her or have the wheelchair van take her. I opted for the van since her getting into and out of regular vehicle might cause some issues.
Based on that information, I get up to the hospital about 10 am. I make sure all things are lined up, take her personal stuff to the car and we wait. We wait. We wait some more. Just about when we get tired of waiting, we wait some more. I finally decide to go down to the nurse's station and ask. I'm told it is out of their hands, but ask if they can have someone who might know something to call me. I'm still waiting on that phone call.
So the transport van shows up about 4. On the plus side, the nursing facility seems great. The staff, at least tonight, were super nice and helpful. Mom and I can't wait for her to start PT tomorrow so she can get home. Hopefully they can wean her off the opioids, since she has zero tolerance for those. She and I had some very fun conversations over the weekend when she was on full on morphine.
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tirtefaa
Unicron
If you wanna know the truth, you gotta dig up Johnny Booth.
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Post by tirtefaa on Jul 2, 2024 3:45:48 GMT -5
It's 3:00 am, I have to be up for work in 3 hours and our neighbor's dog has been barking for over an hour. Like excited fast paced barking.
If I file a noise complaint, it's going to be obvious it's me because the dog is barking right next to the fence, which is close to our bedroom window. Tried sleeping on the couch? Window in the kitchen amplifies the sound into the living room! It literally sounds like we have a dog in the house, it's that loud. The yapping is incessant high pitched, with no more than one second between successions.
Really want to avoid calling the authorities since we have a good relationship with this neighbor, and we have to rely on them for several items due to sharing a property line with them, but I really really REALLY hate her dog.
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Rave
El Dandy
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Post by Rave on Jul 2, 2024 15:39:45 GMT -5
My mom called me around noon today crying because the rehab center was trying to keep her 'til Thursday despite the dangled carrot and despite the fact that she's accomplished everything they wanted her to do, supposedly for paperwork purposes. I am so f***ing sick of hearing her cry because of idiots.
Promptly went next door to relay that bit of stupid and ended up siccing idiot brother on them. She's now officially coming home tomorrow.
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Ultimo Gallos
Grimlock
Dreams SUCK!Nightmares live FOREVER!
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Jul 2, 2024 15:50:59 GMT -5
Getting tired of seeing elderly folk tryinng to load heavy things into their vehicles and much younger folk just walk by not offering to help.
I'm almost 50,got a left knee that has been shot since not long after I hit 18. Two shoulders that I should have fixed decades ago. But am I the only one seeing the lady trying to load a 40 sack of bird seed into her truck?
Or the old man wearing a Vietnam War vet hat struggling to load that flat of bottle water into his car?
I hate I'm turning into angry old man. Really do. But I see why it happens.
Might just be I was that teen that was semi observent of wwhat was around me and felt like helping...who knows.
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Ultimo Gallos
Grimlock
Dreams SUCK!Nightmares live FOREVER!
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Jul 2, 2024 15:52:48 GMT -5
Oh and
Telling me THank you for your service does not make up for the vile shit you were just spewing at me less than 20 seconds ago butthead.
This is why I wear headphones when out in public and try my best to not speak to anyone.
Surround by too many that celebrate how under educated they are.
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Rave
El Dandy
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Post by Rave on Jul 2, 2024 21:14:26 GMT -5
Bedsheets. I hate bedsheets. They never fit right, not even the ones that're s'posed to be fitted, so they pull off and make me miserable. I'd do away with mine if I could but it's something I'd have to hear about again so I just leave it on in its halfassed glory.
I changed the sheets on my mom's bed earlier. Sister-in-law was s'posed to come over to help, but her father went to the hospital earlier so I wasn't about to remind her. She's got enough on her mind. Decided that I'd soldier through it on my own.
First time I put the sheet on, I had that thing pretty much immaculate. Then I realized I'd put the sheet on inside out. Cue several minutes of fighting with the sheet to get it to stay on in the corners. Finally, I got the damn thing on correctly, though I know it's not going to stay. Then came the top sheet, which is something I've always found pointless as well.
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Ultimo Gallos
Grimlock
Dreams SUCK!Nightmares live FOREVER!
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Jul 3, 2024 8:18:48 GMT -5
With my sheets as long as the fitted sheet is good I am good. The top sheet is never tucked in.
Last time I made my bed I was 18 and in my last week of BCT.
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schma
Hank Scorpio
Somebody stop him! He's supposed to die!
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Post by schma on Jul 3, 2024 9:10:55 GMT -5
Gotta go in to work early tonight. One supervisor is on vacation and the other is sick.
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tafkaga
Samurai Cop
the Dogfather
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Post by tafkaga on Jul 3, 2024 12:31:05 GMT -5
Dude who works with me never stops talking. If he walks into the room, he has to engage. Usually he'll just walk up to whoever is most accessible and start talking about whatever is on the top of his head, be it something he heard on the news, how his mom mistreats him, or that he needs to buy a new lawnmower. You might be trying to focus on work, have your earbuds in and turned up, or even in a conversation with someone else about something that's actually relevant to your job... it doesn't matter. He'll walk up and stand there until you acknowledge him so he can rattle off some drivel that is completely irrelevant. If you don't acknowledge him, he'll cut in at the first pause and change the subject to whatever he wants to talk about.
Ignoring him does no good, because then he'll start to worry you don't like him, and he'll make trips back to you throughout the day to check in until you acknowledge him like he needs. Telling him you're busy just prolongs the inevitable. He'll come back later and be like "What I was going to tell you...." The only way to shut him up is to just be rude to him, and then he gets his feelings hurt and runs around telling everyone that you were an asshole to him. Then he'll bring in donuts the next day and kiss your ass until being a dick to him gets more exhausting than just putting up with his nonsense.
Oh, and dude does this to EVERYONE. He's like a 50 year old puppy.
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Malcolm
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Wanted something done about the color of his ring.
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Post by Malcolm on Jul 3, 2024 14:14:35 GMT -5
Dude who works with me never stops talking. If he walks into the room, he has to engage. Usually he'll just walk up to whoever is most accessible and start talking about whatever is on the top of his head, be it something he heard on the news, how his mom mistreats him, or that he needs to buy a new lawnmower. You might be trying to focus on work, have your earbuds in and turned up, or even in a conversation with someone else about something that's actually relevant to your job... it doesn't matter. He'll walk up and stand there until you acknowledge him so he can rattle off some drivel that is completely irrelevant. If you don't acknowledge him, he'll cut in at the first pause and change the subject to whatever he wants to talk about. Ignoring him does no good, because then he'll start to worry you don't like him, and he'll make trips back to you throughout the day to check in until you acknowledge him like he needs. Telling him you're busy just prolongs the inevitable. He'll come back later and be like "What I was going to tell you...." The only way to shut him up is to just be rude to him, and then he gets his feelings hurt and runs around telling everyone that you were an asshole to him. Then he'll bring in donuts the next day and kiss your ass until being a dick to him gets more exhausting than just putting up with his nonsense. Oh, and dude does this to EVERYONE. He's like a 50 year old puppy. This sounds EXACLTY like a guy a work with.
His name wouldn't happen to be Kenny, would it?
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tafkaga
Samurai Cop
the Dogfather
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Post by tafkaga on Jul 3, 2024 14:29:24 GMT -5
Dude who works with me never stops talking. If he walks into the room, he has to engage. Usually he'll just walk up to whoever is most accessible and start talking about whatever is on the top of his head, be it something he heard on the news, how his mom mistreats him, or that he needs to buy a new lawnmower. You might be trying to focus on work, have your earbuds in and turned up, or even in a conversation with someone else about something that's actually relevant to your job... it doesn't matter. He'll walk up and stand there until you acknowledge him so he can rattle off some drivel that is completely irrelevant. If you don't acknowledge him, he'll cut in at the first pause and change the subject to whatever he wants to talk about. Ignoring him does no good, because then he'll start to worry you don't like him, and he'll make trips back to you throughout the day to check in until you acknowledge him like he needs. Telling him you're busy just prolongs the inevitable. He'll come back later and be like "What I was going to tell you...." The only way to shut him up is to just be rude to him, and then he gets his feelings hurt and runs around telling everyone that you were an asshole to him. Then he'll bring in donuts the next day and kiss your ass until being a dick to him gets more exhausting than just putting up with his nonsense. Oh, and dude does this to EVERYONE. He's like a 50 year old puppy. This sounds EXACLTY like a guy a work with.
His name wouldn't happen to be Kenny, would it?
Nope. I'm sorry you have one of these too. It's exhausting.
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Post by Celexa Bliss 54 on Jul 3, 2024 17:43:05 GMT -5
I ordered food at work today, scheduled the delivery for half an hour before I'd be leaving. At 3:15, the food wasn't there. Called the restaurant, they said they hadn't had a driver most of the day, but someone was on their way and should be there soon. I had to leave at 3:30, but I asked my coworker to grab it and put it away for me. At 4:30, I texted her, hadn't arrived. So I figure either it went to the wrong place or the driver stole it, or whatever.
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Ultimo Gallos
Grimlock
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Jul 3, 2024 19:34:30 GMT -5
Dude who works with me never stops talking. If he walks into the room, he has to engage. Usually he'll just walk up to whoever is most accessible and start talking about whatever is on the top of his head, be it something he heard on the news, how his mom mistreats him, or that he needs to buy a new lawnmower. You might be trying to focus on work, have your earbuds in and turned up, or even in a conversation with someone else about something that's actually relevant to your job... it doesn't matter. He'll walk up and stand there until you acknowledge him so he can rattle off some drivel that is completely irrelevant. If you don't acknowledge him, he'll cut in at the first pause and change the subject to whatever he wants to talk about. Ignoring him does no good, because then he'll start to worry you don't like him, and he'll make trips back to you throughout the day to check in until you acknowledge him like he needs. Telling him you're busy just prolongs the inevitable. He'll come back later and be like "What I was going to tell you...." The only way to shut him up is to just be rude to him, and then he gets his feelings hurt and runs around telling everyone that you were an asshole to him. Then he'll bring in donuts the next day and kiss your ass until being a dick to him gets more exhausting than just putting up with his nonsense. Oh, and dude does this to EVERYONE. He's like a 50 year old puppy. This sounds EXACLTY like a guy a work with. His name wouldn't happen to be Kenny, would it?
Sounds like a guy I run into at indie shows. Does this guy got 3 binders of signed 8x10s he wants everyone to look at?
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