chazraps
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Post by chazraps on Dec 30, 2022 16:34:56 GMT -5
Shit sucks. I'm still in the shock period of it and having a hard time with the words. If anyone's dealt with the loss of a parent and has any words, I'd appreciate them.
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Post by Display Name on Dec 30, 2022 16:37:05 GMT -5
Lost my dad 5 years ago. Only advice I have is to allow yourself to feel and don’t bottle that shit up. My condolences to you.
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Post by Clash, Never a Meter Maid on Dec 30, 2022 16:39:36 GMT -5
All of my sincere condolences, RIP.
When my father passed, it took me a while to cope with it, so I understand totally.
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Post by ChitownKnight on Dec 30, 2022 16:39:38 GMT -5
Im sorry for your loss man. Losing a parent must be tough. I’ve lost friends my age and even though it is a different type of pain all I have to say is keep living for your dad and do what would make him proud!
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pinja
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Post by pinja on Dec 30, 2022 17:04:48 GMT -5
Obviously every loss is different. I too lost my dad 5 years ago. It truely felt like a loss the first few days, maybe weeks in that I wandered around and wondered where I am and why I couldn't find myself. It's hard to not feel like you lost a legitimate part of yourself. I didn't force myself to do anything, but I never stayed in bed. I helped my mother, worked at home, went studying. Work helped. Sports helped. Just being physical, because I could never surpress my emotions when being physical. Other people noticed, I could open up and get comfort. I still dream of my dad sometimes. In those dreams, we both always know he is dead. He always acts and speaks like I remember him. We don't have deep conversations, often nothing more than the acknowledgment that we both exist. Those dreams doesn't hurt at all for that eternal existence.
I wish you the best.
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Post by KAMALARAMBO: BOOMSHAKALAKA!!! on Dec 30, 2022 18:04:20 GMT -5
I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you get through this difficult time as best you can and you’ll be in my thoughts.
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Gecko
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Post by Gecko on Dec 30, 2022 18:12:40 GMT -5
I'm very sorry for your loss, remember that we're here if and when you want to talk or rant or reminisce.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 30, 2022 19:16:21 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss.
The best I have for you, when I got back to my dad’s after my mom’s funeral my dog had shit absolutely all over the living room.
So, the lesson I learned was, no matter how fresh, no matter the grief, life goes on and you got stuff to do, once you take your suit off.
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Post by Fade is a CodyCryBaby on Dec 30, 2022 19:22:36 GMT -5
Relax. Breathe. Talk to friends, family. Accept the hard times or when thoughts, feelings come and go. They’re like waves.
Take agency upon yourself, remember them anyway you can, remember that you’re here, He’s not, and try to let it motivate or inspire you to trudge forward.
No idea how you’re feeling, but, my condolences. Above anything wise, I beg of you, if you have thoughts or feelings bout it, get it out. Find someone, anyone..let it out. Whatever emotions they may be. Because if you don’t, it’ll wither away at you. Quickly or slowly.
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Post by EvenBaldobombHasAJob on Dec 30, 2022 19:31:34 GMT -5
Lost mine when I was 12. I still miss him every day. It gets easier over time, if that helps.
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Chiral
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Post by Chiral on Dec 30, 2022 19:32:21 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Mozenrath
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Post by Mozenrath on Dec 30, 2022 19:38:46 GMT -5
I have not lost a parent, but I've lost some close family members and friends. In addition to some of the advice here, I think you should remember that everyone mourns differently. Do not beat yourself up if you feel you're not feeling and thinking the "right" things, that you're not doing it by the right timetable.
So long as you're keeping safe, the road to reconciliation for all of this could take countless different forms.
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Post by Jumpin' Jesse Walsh on Dec 30, 2022 19:41:15 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength.
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Post by Big BosskMan on Dec 30, 2022 19:51:13 GMT -5
Lost my Dad in March 2021 so I know on some level the heartache you feel.
My condolences and my mailbox is open if you feel like talking.
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Post by Alexander The So-so on Dec 30, 2022 19:54:09 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by Milkman Norm on Dec 30, 2022 20:10:03 GMT -5
Shit Chaz I'm so sorry. You're in my thoughts.
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Post by Dr. T is an alien on Dec 30, 2022 21:46:06 GMT -5
I lost my mom 12 years ago. Some long time posters might remember the long-ass thread I had on the topic because I kept learning secret after secret that my mom tried to protect me from that dramatically affected her life in many negative ways. I kept receiving body blow after body blow, but outside of the anniversary of her death (which I cannot forget since it’s the day everyone sets off industrial strength fireworks), I don’t find myself ever reflecting on the pain from that time, considerable as it was. Instead, I think of camping trips, family get together, state fairs, playing Trivia Pursuit, etc. If I can usually gloss over the pain I experienced to focus on the good memories, I have faith that you can too.
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Urethra Franklin
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Post by Urethra Franklin on Dec 30, 2022 22:44:21 GMT -5
Very sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family.
There’s no right way to grieve. Give yourself all the time you need.
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Post by mc74 on Dec 30, 2022 23:01:16 GMT -5
My condolences. Wishing you well in these tough times.
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ayumidah
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Post by ayumidah on Dec 30, 2022 23:13:38 GMT -5
Lost mine back in 2008 after a lengthy illness. Yours sounds a lot more sudden. Just remember grief isn't the same for everyone, some days may feel better than others and that's ok, try not to feel weird or guilty over it. Very sorry for your loss.
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