Post by thechase on Oct 16, 2024 2:37:15 GMT -5
Cherri Whitewing’s Statement about Dr Crafty
IMPORTANT BEFORE YOU READ THIS:
DO NOT. I repeat DO NOT give shit to either Baphi or Scotty/Puppet Proctor for their parts in this situation. They are doing their best given the situation and if anyone attacks or berate them because of this statement or on my behalf, you are doing more harm than good and I disavow your actions. YOU WOULD NOT BE DOING ANYTHING FOR MY SAKE AND WOULD BE USING THIS SITUATION TO JUSTIFY BEING AN ASSHOLE FOR YOUR OWN PERSONAL REASONS.
TW: SEXUAL ASSAULT AND DISTURBINY SEXUAL FANTASIES/KINKS
As many of you have noticed, on the 26th of September of 2024 I have released an announcement about how Dr Crafty and I have ended our relationship.
Most are aware that I am polyamorous and I was dating his wife, Baphi, which led to him inserting himself into the polycule.
Things were okay, great at times even, despite some of Crafty's overtly and almost non-stop sexual behavior making me uncomfortable, but I went along with it to make us all happy. Which honestly was a mistake given what happened. But given some past trauma, I tend to fawn when put in stressful/uncomfortable situations.
To make things clear and to not make anyone wonder what happened for any longer;
When I visited Baphi and Crafty in early April, Crafty sexually assaulted me.
Without asking consent, foreplay or making any checks that I was okay with it, I was forced to give him oral sex, forced to choke on his penis until I gagged so hard that my mouth was filled with bile, made to stay in place in such a way that I had no choice but to swallow it back and had no choice but to let him use me until he was done.
The event left me dazed and confused as I sat on the couch feeling empty and disgusting. But given this happened pretty early in the vacation, I pushed it aside and didn't dwell on it.
As far as I know, and as Baphi later confirmed, Alex never mentioned to her that he even had sex with me outside of a fully consenting encounter between the three of us at the end of the trip.
I never dared to ever mention it to anyone until I was in a call with Scotty where I was voicing some grievances I had with some of Crafty's recent behaviors.
Such as him refusing to communicate with others again, dropping things at the drop of a hat when he felt inconvenienced without a care for the people involved, and, the thing that ultimately precipitated this whole mess, not telling me about other people joining the polycule.
During that call, I was told off handedly that Crafty was apparently openly dating another VTuber, a fact that I was completely unaware of besides having clearly told both him and Baphi of how important communication was to me in polyamory and how I needed to be aware, at the very least, of anyone my partners may be dating.
Words which, ironically, would be said to someone else who he had been dating without my knowledge.
As I voiced my surprise, and anger, at being the last person in the know, the memory of what had happened earlier in April hit me. After hesitating about opening up, I asked Scotty if he would be okay with me opening up about something.
With his consent I explained to him what had happened to which he said:
“That's sexual assault.”
It took me a while to process it, even asking him if it was. A part of me didn't want to believe that I had been sexually assaulted, not by someone that I have been friends with for over a decade and that I was dating.
Yet, given the feelings of confusion and shame I felt, a part of me knew it was true.
After opening up with the people I am staying with currently, as I am vacationing in the US right now, many talks were had between us, Scotty and Baphi.
Once everyone was aware of what had happened to me and that we agreed on a course of action, I cut all ties with Crafty and blocked him on all platforms along with allowing Baphi and Scotty to explain to him my reason why.
With that also came both of our statements on Twitter and Crafty taking an indefinite hiatus as he seeked therapy… Through Better Help. Given the many scandals involving the company, take that as you will.
Afterwards, more disturbing details came out.
For once, his use of non-FDA approved male enhancement pills.
Having stayed with Baphi and him, I was made aware that Crafty used medication for Erectile Dysfunction. But it wasn't made clear to me that it wasn't a medication prescribed by a professional but bought at a Sex Shop, or at least I don't remember being told otherwise.
For those unaware, these pills can cause a lot of dangerous side effects. Among them a higher sex drive, higher levels of testosterone which leads to aggressivity and lack of empathy.
And while it doesn't excuse what he did to me, it explains a few things as I was made aware through Scotty that Crafty confessed to him not only to the use of these unregulated pills but taking some in preparation for eventual intercourse.
Also, Baphi was never made aware of this sexual encounter turned assault. Again, I came to see her as a surprise and gift. Between the two of them she was my primary partner and the fact that the very first sexual experience I had in Florida was not with her didn't sit well with me.
Then, after I posted my statement on Twitter, I was approached by a mutual about what happened.
Without going into details, as it is not my story to tell, I was made aware that Crafty had dated them only to ditch them after someone shared false information about them.
Not only was I, once more, not made aware of Crafty dating someone. But worse, when talking about the importance of communication and transparency in a polyamorous relationship he was using my very words to soothe their anxiety.
Thankfully, through Scotty and this person coming with receipts, the situation has been settled as far as I know. But during the middle of it the fact that Crafty both denied ever dating them, had denied being in a relationship with them to the person making the accusations, and had so callously cut all contact with someone who, at least given his words and behavior, thought that they were dating over hearsay is both disgusting and idiotic.
He really doesn't seem to care.
Given that new information, I can't help but to look back at the Crafty Girlies and wonder how many were put in a similar situation.
I hope not, but given that while in a polyamorous relationship he hid two partners from me… My expectations are low.
To add to this, there were also some of his kinks/sexual fantasies that were disturbing to say the least.
Some of you may be aware that Crafty has a fear of drowning, it's a thing that was discussed with some of the D&D groups he was in when it came to content that should be avoided.
Yet, behind closed doors with me, he had shared in the past his drowning kink. Once again I was made uncomfortable by it, but I also didn't want to judge. My fawning behavior also didn't help so I indulged him when I shouldn't have.
That said, the kink would involve women, mostly anime girls, being in bondage and forced to drown. This kink was enough of a turn on to him that he would often talk about having intercourse with me in a tub, pool or at the beach and force my head under water while doing so and see how long I could “endure it”.
I wish that I had a final word to close this statement, something nice to wrap things up.
All that I can say is that I do not feel comfortable having Crafty in my space. I do not want to communicate with him, I don't want to hear about him either. And I certainly don't think that he should come back to streaming, even if I hear through the grapevine that he is planning to.
Whatever you guys do with this information is up to you. If you also wish to distance yourself from him you are allowed to, just as you can still choose to support him should he decide to go through with coming back.
But I couldn't just stay quiet anymore, not when so many friends and mutuals look up to him.
I will stress that you do not judge Baphi for staying with him, or Scotty for trying to get him help while holding him accountable behind the scenes. Both have been nothing but supportive of me, holding Crafty accountable for his actions and pushing him to get help as imperfect as Better Help can be.
That said, thank you for taking the time to read this.
IMPORTANT BEFORE YOU READ THIS:
DO NOT. I repeat DO NOT give shit to either Baphi or Scotty/Puppet Proctor for their parts in this situation. They are doing their best given the situation and if anyone attacks or berate them because of this statement or on my behalf, you are doing more harm than good and I disavow your actions. YOU WOULD NOT BE DOING ANYTHING FOR MY SAKE AND WOULD BE USING THIS SITUATION TO JUSTIFY BEING AN ASSHOLE FOR YOUR OWN PERSONAL REASONS.
TW: SEXUAL ASSAULT AND DISTURBINY SEXUAL FANTASIES/KINKS
As many of you have noticed, on the 26th of September of 2024 I have released an announcement about how Dr Crafty and I have ended our relationship.
Most are aware that I am polyamorous and I was dating his wife, Baphi, which led to him inserting himself into the polycule.
Things were okay, great at times even, despite some of Crafty's overtly and almost non-stop sexual behavior making me uncomfortable, but I went along with it to make us all happy. Which honestly was a mistake given what happened. But given some past trauma, I tend to fawn when put in stressful/uncomfortable situations.
To make things clear and to not make anyone wonder what happened for any longer;
When I visited Baphi and Crafty in early April, Crafty sexually assaulted me.
Without asking consent, foreplay or making any checks that I was okay with it, I was forced to give him oral sex, forced to choke on his penis until I gagged so hard that my mouth was filled with bile, made to stay in place in such a way that I had no choice but to swallow it back and had no choice but to let him use me until he was done.
The event left me dazed and confused as I sat on the couch feeling empty and disgusting. But given this happened pretty early in the vacation, I pushed it aside and didn't dwell on it.
As far as I know, and as Baphi later confirmed, Alex never mentioned to her that he even had sex with me outside of a fully consenting encounter between the three of us at the end of the trip.
I never dared to ever mention it to anyone until I was in a call with Scotty where I was voicing some grievances I had with some of Crafty's recent behaviors.
Such as him refusing to communicate with others again, dropping things at the drop of a hat when he felt inconvenienced without a care for the people involved, and, the thing that ultimately precipitated this whole mess, not telling me about other people joining the polycule.
During that call, I was told off handedly that Crafty was apparently openly dating another VTuber, a fact that I was completely unaware of besides having clearly told both him and Baphi of how important communication was to me in polyamory and how I needed to be aware, at the very least, of anyone my partners may be dating.
Words which, ironically, would be said to someone else who he had been dating without my knowledge.
As I voiced my surprise, and anger, at being the last person in the know, the memory of what had happened earlier in April hit me. After hesitating about opening up, I asked Scotty if he would be okay with me opening up about something.
With his consent I explained to him what had happened to which he said:
“That's sexual assault.”
It took me a while to process it, even asking him if it was. A part of me didn't want to believe that I had been sexually assaulted, not by someone that I have been friends with for over a decade and that I was dating.
Yet, given the feelings of confusion and shame I felt, a part of me knew it was true.
After opening up with the people I am staying with currently, as I am vacationing in the US right now, many talks were had between us, Scotty and Baphi.
Once everyone was aware of what had happened to me and that we agreed on a course of action, I cut all ties with Crafty and blocked him on all platforms along with allowing Baphi and Scotty to explain to him my reason why.
With that also came both of our statements on Twitter and Crafty taking an indefinite hiatus as he seeked therapy… Through Better Help. Given the many scandals involving the company, take that as you will.
Afterwards, more disturbing details came out.
For once, his use of non-FDA approved male enhancement pills.
Having stayed with Baphi and him, I was made aware that Crafty used medication for Erectile Dysfunction. But it wasn't made clear to me that it wasn't a medication prescribed by a professional but bought at a Sex Shop, or at least I don't remember being told otherwise.
For those unaware, these pills can cause a lot of dangerous side effects. Among them a higher sex drive, higher levels of testosterone which leads to aggressivity and lack of empathy.
And while it doesn't excuse what he did to me, it explains a few things as I was made aware through Scotty that Crafty confessed to him not only to the use of these unregulated pills but taking some in preparation for eventual intercourse.
Also, Baphi was never made aware of this sexual encounter turned assault. Again, I came to see her as a surprise and gift. Between the two of them she was my primary partner and the fact that the very first sexual experience I had in Florida was not with her didn't sit well with me.
Then, after I posted my statement on Twitter, I was approached by a mutual about what happened.
Without going into details, as it is not my story to tell, I was made aware that Crafty had dated them only to ditch them after someone shared false information about them.
Not only was I, once more, not made aware of Crafty dating someone. But worse, when talking about the importance of communication and transparency in a polyamorous relationship he was using my very words to soothe their anxiety.
Thankfully, through Scotty and this person coming with receipts, the situation has been settled as far as I know. But during the middle of it the fact that Crafty both denied ever dating them, had denied being in a relationship with them to the person making the accusations, and had so callously cut all contact with someone who, at least given his words and behavior, thought that they were dating over hearsay is both disgusting and idiotic.
He really doesn't seem to care.
Given that new information, I can't help but to look back at the Crafty Girlies and wonder how many were put in a similar situation.
I hope not, but given that while in a polyamorous relationship he hid two partners from me… My expectations are low.
To add to this, there were also some of his kinks/sexual fantasies that were disturbing to say the least.
Some of you may be aware that Crafty has a fear of drowning, it's a thing that was discussed with some of the D&D groups he was in when it came to content that should be avoided.
Yet, behind closed doors with me, he had shared in the past his drowning kink. Once again I was made uncomfortable by it, but I also didn't want to judge. My fawning behavior also didn't help so I indulged him when I shouldn't have.
That said, the kink would involve women, mostly anime girls, being in bondage and forced to drown. This kink was enough of a turn on to him that he would often talk about having intercourse with me in a tub, pool or at the beach and force my head under water while doing so and see how long I could “endure it”.
I wish that I had a final word to close this statement, something nice to wrap things up.
All that I can say is that I do not feel comfortable having Crafty in my space. I do not want to communicate with him, I don't want to hear about him either. And I certainly don't think that he should come back to streaming, even if I hear through the grapevine that he is planning to.
Whatever you guys do with this information is up to you. If you also wish to distance yourself from him you are allowed to, just as you can still choose to support him should he decide to go through with coming back.
But I couldn't just stay quiet anymore, not when so many friends and mutuals look up to him.
I will stress that you do not judge Baphi for staying with him, or Scotty for trying to get him help while holding him accountable behind the scenes. Both have been nothing but supportive of me, holding Crafty accountable for his actions and pushing him to get help as imperfect as Better Help can be.
That said, thank you for taking the time to read this.
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