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Post by willywonka666 on Jun 1, 2023 6:27:11 GMT -5
In this past year, I've attended my first Pride fest in nashville and come out to my therapist and two friends as bisexual. My unabashed love of Taylor Swift, particularly her Lover era has been my easter egg as it's still not something I've totally felt ready to reveal in my daily life in a small town. So happy pride to those who celebrate or relate
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Post by mc74 on Jun 1, 2023 14:35:41 GMT -5
Happy Pride Month, everyone. Much love & respect to the people who embrace their true selves. It's not easy by any stretch, but remember this. It's a lot better to be yourself and be happy for it than it is to live your life to suit others.
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Post by Cyno on Jun 1, 2023 14:40:04 GMT -5
Happy Pride from your local demiromantic gremlin.
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Post by JasonVoorhees1988 on Jun 1, 2023 14:43:13 GMT -5
I consider myself pansexual, but have been very hesitant to come out to my family.
Any advice on the best way? My mom is religious, as is a large portion of my extended family.
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Post by pinja on Jun 1, 2023 15:00:57 GMT -5
While I feel comfortable talking about the topic and how it relates to me in privacy, I never had a comfortable talk about it. It doesn't give me much heartache knowing that my gender identity isn't clear cut, and this is the first instance of me coming out with that, but I should explore it further. I feel like I'm mainly an aesthetically ambivalent person and have always related more to women. Happy for everyone feeling "right" and belonging.
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Post by Zaq "That Guy" Buzzkill on Jun 1, 2023 17:28:06 GMT -5
I realized I was Bi-curious a couple years ago but I feel hesitant saying I'm in the GAY COMMUNITY. I feel like the Bryan Cranston dentist in Seinfeld who converted to Judaism for the jokes.
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Post by willywonka666 on Jun 1, 2023 18:12:49 GMT -5
I realized I was Bi-curious a couple years ago but I feel hesitant saying I'm in the GAY COMMUNITY. I feel like the Bryan Cranston dentist in Seinfeld who converted to Judaism for the jokes. I haven’t been with a guy yet, and I didn’t know if I could consider myself bi, but I’ve listened to podcasts and talked to others online and I can say I am bisexual, because I’m certainly attracted to other sexes than women.
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Post by Cyno on Jun 1, 2023 20:26:53 GMT -5
I realized I was Bi-curious a couple years ago but I feel hesitant saying I'm in the GAY COMMUNITY. I feel like the Bryan Cranston dentist in Seinfeld who converted to Judaism for the jokes. Eh, you don't need to sleep with or even date people of the same sex to confirm if you're sexually attracted to other gender (or genders) besides the one you're "expected to" if you were heterosexual. It's just as valid.
Like, there's a lot of biphobia not just outside the community but within, too. I have bi and pan friends who have gotten a lot of ridicule and accusations from gay men and lesbians for being posers or still in the closet because they've only had opposite sex partners. It's really gross and invalidating.
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Post by Hit Girl on Jun 1, 2023 22:51:23 GMT -5
I consider myself pansexual, but have been very hesitant to come out to my family. Any advice on the best way? My mom is religious, as is a large portion of my extended family. If you are dependant on them in any way, or they are fanatical, it might not be a good idea to tell them until you could survive without them.
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Post by Cyno on Jun 2, 2023 0:10:26 GMT -5
I consider myself pansexual, but have been very hesitant to come out to my family. Any advice on the best way? My mom is religious, as is a large portion of my extended family. If you are dependant on them in any way, or they are fanatical, it might not be a good idea to tell them until you could survive without them. Agreed. Ultimately, your safety is the most important thing.
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Post by mc74 on Jun 2, 2023 1:04:37 GMT -5
If you are dependant on them in any way, or they are fanatical, it might not be a good idea to tell them until you could survive without them. Agreed. Ultimately, your safety is the most important thing. Unfortunately, it's a very delicate topic to bring up. Like Hit Girl said, telling them when you're dependent on them isn't always the best course of action. And when it comes to religious folk, the reactions can be VERY bad, so be mindful of that.
A little word of advice when it comes to the general public too. Be very careful in who you let into your inner circle. Remember, we still live in a time where a portion of society looks down upon the community, not to mention things are getting chaotic at the moment. I wouldn't suggest doing anything that puts a target on your back. Your safety is priority #1.
With that, I apologize for bringing the thread down with this. The community deserves better than this. No one deserves to live their lives in shackles because of who they are.
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Post by Sponsored by Groose Wipes on Jun 2, 2023 1:13:33 GMT -5
It's the Pride Purge. For one month, gay crimes are now legal.
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Post by FinalGwen on Jun 2, 2023 1:18:47 GMT -5
Happy Pride all. Would be nice if it were a time when we could celebrate things getting better, rather than spiralling as they seem to be at the moment, but having community makes it better. And to anyone doubting whether they're gay/bi/trans enough, these labels are here to be descriptive, to help us understand ourselves and realise we're not alone, not to prescribe exactly what counts as the right way to be. As cliche as it is to say, you're valid.
The people who tries to gatekeep things are not only usually wildly misinformed as to the history and purpose of labels (anyone who assumes bisexuality is about only being into binary genders because they recognise the word 'two', for example) but probably not fun to be around at parties.
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Post by mc74 on Jun 2, 2023 1:49:12 GMT -5
Happy Pride all. Would be nice if it were a time when we could celebrate things getting better, rather than spiralling as they seem to be at the moment, but having community makes it better. And to anyone doubting whether they're gay/bi/trans enough, these labels are here to be descriptive, to help us understand ourselves and realise we're not alone, not to prescribe exactly what counts as the right way to be. As cliche as it is to say, you're valid. The people who tries to gatekeep things are not only usually wildly misinformed as to the history and purpose of labels (anyone who assumes bisexuality is about only being into binary genders because they recognise the word 'two', for example) but probably not fun to be around at parties. Agreed, having a support structure goes a long way. It's a long, hard journey that comes with a shit ton of roadblocks, but if you have people who support and care about you for who you are, it definitely helps.
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Post by ayumidah on Jun 2, 2023 1:57:59 GMT -5
Only place I'm really out is online, and that's ok. Happy Pride, everyone.
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Post by Cyno on Jun 2, 2023 14:59:02 GMT -5
Happy Pride all. Would be nice if it were a time when we could celebrate things getting better, rather than spiralling as they seem to be at the moment, but having community makes it better. And to anyone doubting whether they're gay/bi/trans enough, these labels are here to be descriptive, to help us understand ourselves and realise we're not alone, not to prescribe exactly what counts as the right way to be. As cliche as it is to say, you're valid. The people who tries to gatekeep things are not only usually wildly misinformed as to the history and purpose of labels (anyone who assumes bisexuality is about only being into binary genders because they recognise the word 'two', for example) but probably not fun to be around at parties. Yeah, a lot of people don't realize that these labels don't need to exist as entirely separate things or anything. The most confusion I see is the difference between pansexual and bisexual where they don't even need to be mutually exclusive. Hell, I know people who use both interchangeably. Really just depends on the person and their sense of self.
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Post by FinalGwen on Jun 2, 2023 15:56:42 GMT -5
Happy Pride all. Would be nice if it were a time when we could celebrate things getting better, rather than spiralling as they seem to be at the moment, but having community makes it better. And to anyone doubting whether they're gay/bi/trans enough, these labels are here to be descriptive, to help us understand ourselves and realise we're not alone, not to prescribe exactly what counts as the right way to be. As cliche as it is to say, you're valid. The people who tries to gatekeep things are not only usually wildly misinformed as to the history and purpose of labels (anyone who assumes bisexuality is about only being into binary genders because they recognise the word 'two', for example) but probably not fun to be around at parties. Yeah, a lot of people don't realize that these labels don't need to exist as entirely separate things or anything. The most confusion I see is the difference between pansexual and bisexual where they don't even need to be mutually exclusive. Hell, I know people who use both interchangeably. Really just depends on the person and their sense of self.
Yeah, for me the difference between pan/bi mostly seems like emphasis and what clicks best to people, while being under the same mspec umbrella. I technically fall under any meaningful definition of pansexuality, but self-describe as bi because for me it was the bi community where I found my circle for the first time, there's a whole history I connect to, and honestly I think bisexuality has the nicer flag.
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Post by The Kevstaaa on Jun 2, 2023 17:35:52 GMT -5
It's the Pride Purge. For one month, gay crimes are now legal. I'd watch the hell out of that movie. Happy Pride month everyone. Love seeing people celebrate their true selves.
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Jun 4, 2023 0:44:02 GMT -5
Happy Pride all. Would be nice if it were a time when we could celebrate things getting better, rather than spiralling as they seem to be at the moment, but having community makes it better. And to anyone doubting whether they're gay/bi/trans enough, these labels are here to be descriptive, to help us understand ourselves and realise we're not alone, not to prescribe exactly what counts as the right way to be. As cliche as it is to say, you're valid. The people who tries to gatekeep things are not only usually wildly misinformed as to the history and purpose of labels (anyone who assumes bisexuality is about only being into binary genders because they recognise the word 'two', for example) but probably not fun to be around at parties. I definitely still do not feel worthy of it. I don't think I ever will. Part of it is stuff that we can't get into here (though I beg you all not to make assumptions), just, the best way I can put it is, my personality doesn't _fit_. I badly wish it did. But the impostor syndrome is heavy, and I don't think it's ever going away.
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Post by Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! on Jun 4, 2023 7:24:13 GMT -5
as a man who identifies as "set in his ways", Happy Pride to everyone who identifies as "I unno, queer, probably?"
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