Anxiety and Burnout

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How do you handle this? It's been over 2 months and I'm just not there.

To try and make a long story short, 2021 my mom had major back surgery that was botched horribly. I was prepared to take things over for a month or so but now we're nearly two years and multiple surgeries later and it's only getting harder. I went from dealing with my own issues to taking care of a 7th grader (now freshman) as well as my mother. Not to mention two others, one dumb as hell and the other, I don't even know the issue. Everyone tells me I need to take time for myself but I guess it's gotten to the point of codependence.

Anyway, I go to the doctors, take the pills but right now I think I need other ideas. It's like I've forgotten how to relax or let myself just be. Every bit of free time I have I just end up sleeping. So, what is there? Is there anything y'all have done that has helped in situations like this? ** NOTHING ILLEGAL FEDERALLY IN THE US **

Sorry for the downer, just looking for anything right now. Thanks.

["Playboy" Don Douglas]

I wish I had an answer for you but I don’t. For the last year, I’ve been working full time, going to college, and trying to help my fiancée with her business, along with taking care of the animals and the house. I feel like I’ve done nothing for myself but would feel an asshole if I tried.

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

There is no answer, sadly. Best advice I give is to take as much time for self care as you can, and take joy in the things and people that bring it for you. If it's to the point where it's actively interfering in your life too much and it won't go away, it might be time to talk to a doctor about medication. And just remember, if it gets to that point, there's no shame in taking meds.

[Killah Ray]

It sucks something serious…between finishing up my masters and working like an animal I average 96 hours a week. Then when I get home I still have daddy duty (with a 7 and 3 year old) plus we just adopted a puppy so I’m pretty much always on. I probably average 4 hours of sleep a night. Hell just typing all of that makes me want to scream…

All I can tell you is try not to get to the point of no return as my body literally broke down a few months ago when you add my normal routine with my dad unexpectedly passing….really made for a bad combination…

[BayleyTiffyCodyCenaJudyHopps]

What you’re dealing with is extremely relatable. I’ve been hoping to go back to school but work and taking care of family members has put a brief wrench in that for me. Some of the stress winds up putting me in what I call “bad brain mode” where I’m more irritable and sensitive, basically not my usual/ideal self. My advice is to talk it over with people close to you if possible, they’ll be some badly needed emotional medicine, and it you have any hobbies:interests then those also become super-valuable at times like these. If your stress is especially problematic then I’d also advice professionals to try helping you.

[mc74]

Sept 27, 2023 6:26:50 GMT -5 Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! said:

There is no answer, sadly. Best advice I give is to take as much time for self care as you can, and take joy in the things and people that bring it for you. If it's to the point where it's actively interfering in your life too much and it won't go away, it might be time to talk to a doctor about medication. And just remember, if it gets to that point, there's no shame in taking meds.

This is the best advice I can give as well. Life has its hardships, but it's important that you focus on the positives and not dwell too much on the negatives. The latter can make you very miserable. Trust me on this, I've been there.

And like Baldo said, if it's stressing you out so much that it's actively interfering your daily life, then you should consider therapy. I find that having a good therapist to talk to really helps.

[agent817]

Back in the spring, I went through something like that mixed with depression. I became somewhat of a recluse after that. It all started with misunderstandings that occurred or saying the wrong thing but didn't mean anything bad by it. I went through something like that during the summer but I have gotten better.

[Ultimo Gallos]

Starting back in 2020 I got a pile of stuff added to my normal routine. And finally last year in late November it broke me.

Now everyone knows I need one day a week where I get to myself. I don't mind having to be on call most of the day the other 6 days of the week. but that off day do not bother me unless someone lost a limb and the house is on fire and there is a Sharknado on Hurricanrana Lake.

Hope it get's better for ya.

[Kalmia]

Firstly, the pills are not magic. They don't work overnight and depending on the type of pill can take weeks for the effects to be felt.

Secondly, don't be hard on yourself. Pulling yourself out of this takes time. Don't expect to bounce back and be annoyed with yourself when you don't.

Get out of the house and go for a walk if you're physically able. It sounds stupid, but getting some fresh air and walking every/most days can really help to lift your mood. It can often help with sleeping as well.

[Ultimo Gallos]

Yea meds can take a good while to take effect. And second the get out of the house.

Taken to at least a few hours everyday,even if I have to stay up late when everyone is asleep,I get out. Might just walk the property. Or go out for a late night walk. Sometimes just go sit on the pier and watch the lake at night.

[Big BosskMan]

Sept 26, 2023 23:00:11 GMT -5 Error said:

How do you handle this? It's been over 2 months and I'm just not there.

To try and make a long story short, 2021 my mom had major back surgery that was botched horribly. I was prepared to take things over for a month or so but now we're nearly two years and multiple surgeries later and it's only getting harder. I went from dealing with my own issues to taking care of a 7th grader (now freshman) as well as my mother. Not to mention two others, one dumb as hell and the other, I don't even know the issue. Everyone tells me I need to take time for myself but I guess it's gotten to the point of codependence.

Anyway, I go to the doctors, take the pills but right now I think I need other ideas. It's like I've forgotten how to relax or let myself just be. Every bit of free time I have I just end up sleeping. So, what is there? Is there anything y'all have done that has helped in situations like this? ** NOTHING ILLEGAL FEDERALLY IN THE US **

Sorry for the downer, just looking for anything right now. Thanks.

In 2021, i lost my dad and job within a week. It was very tough but after pushing through, i found myself exhausted.

So i decided to set very clear boundaries. I go to the gym regularly and when that isn't possible, i go for long walks. Job situation is much better and my boss knows when I'm off, i am off.

I would also echo not being hard on yourself. You've had to take on a lot.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

No idea, it's not something I talk about on here, but I've experienced tons of death in the last 5 or so years. Started like 10 ago with my cousin, then my mom 6 years ago, not positive but my brother may be dead but at least isn't speaking to anyone in the family so what's the difference?, that puts me up to about 38 with all my grandparents still alive, with all of them pushing 100, I knew it was bound to start stacking up fast, so now in the last year and change 3 of them are dead, my remaining grandmother just fell and is probably headed to the nursing home, my dog died, the cat my dad had just died....One foot in front of the other, man.

I don't mean this to sound like a contest, so please don't take it like that, but I just carry on. It's cruel maybe to say, but life is for the living and I got shit to do. I took the time off work I needed, but eventually it was time to go back and do something.

So anyway, I just carry on.