How do I avoid the friend zone?

[Voldemar H. "Brak" Guerta]

This is the first time I've ever heard of "The Friend Zone". Now I'm wondering how I should congradulate myself...

[nostradumbass]

Ask them to wathc your short film/read your manuscript.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

First, you need supplies.

1 roll of duct tape
12 Twinkies
2 boxes of Kleenex
1.5 miles of extension cord
1 Chain saw
6 knitting needles
1 broken whiskey bottle
1 pack of body glitter
2 bags of multi-colored sprinkles.

Collect all these items and get back to me to proceed with step 2.

[K7 - WC's Crowd Extra]

theone6643 said:

Kiss her within 48 hours of the first chance that was interupted or that you didn't take.

Scrubs. Season 1, episode 3.

Oh, so that's why i'm always in the 'Friend Zone'.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

k7 said:

theone6643 said:

Kiss her within 48 hours of the first chance that was interupted or that you didn't take.

Scrubs. Season 1, episode 3.

Oh, so that's why i'm always in the 'Friend Zone'.

Perhaps, but reason #2 might be that you walk around with that kind of information.

[K7 - WC's Crowd Extra]

cdr said:

k7 said:

Scrubs. Season 1, episode 3.

Oh, so that's why i'm always in the 'Friend Zone'.

Perhaps, but reason #2 might be that you walk around with that kind of information.

Yeah, that's what i kinda meant ;D

[Cranjis McBasketball]

Oh, gotcha.........I missed your meaning, I understand now.

[Jelly]

I think you need to tell her how you feel. Even if you think you've made it obvious through your actions and such, girls tend to think like 'hmm he might like me....but its more likely he doesnt'. Or at least most of my friends do...and me.

k7 said:

Scrubs. Season 1, episode 3.

Oh, so that's why i'm always in the 'Friend Zone'.

I think instant Scrubs information would be great! ;D

[K7 - WC's Crowd Extra]

cinematic said:

I think you need to tell her how you feel. Even if you think you've made it obvious through your actions and such, girls tend to think like 'hmm he might like me....but its more likely he doesnt'. Or at least most of my friends do...and me.

k7 said:

Scrubs. Season 1, episode 3.

Oh, so that's why i'm always in the 'Friend Zone'.

I think instant Scrubs information would be great! ;D

I just marked for the World's most giant Doctor

[Jelly]

k7 said:

cinematic said:

I think you need to tell her how you feel. Even if you think you've made it obvious through your actions and such, girls tend to think like 'hmm he might like me....but its more likely he doesnt'. Or at least most of my friends do...and me.



I think instant Scrubs information would be great! ;D

I just marked for the World's most giant Doctor

"And if any of you cows, goats, or ducks have any questions, don't be afraid to ask me! I'm just like all of you, only giant and human!
Thank you. I hope you enjoyed our production of World's Most Giant Doctor Goes to the Farm."

;D

[McGoozle]

This thread might be some use to me..

[Mattification]

Smack her in the mouth. She really won`t want to be your friend after that. Too much? Ok.

Ask her out. When you meet a girl, I think you only have so long to do anything about it until she just sees you as a friend. Even if she thinks you`re hot and a cool guy, if you just hang around her for 2 months being friends, that`s all she will see you as.

["Hollywood" Cactus Matt]

Get drunk together and try to kiss her.

If she lets you, you're officially out of the "Friend Zone" and into "Awkward Territory."
If she doesn't, you have the built-in excuse of, "But I was drunk! I didn't know what I was doing!"

There are some drawbacks to this method. For example, you might get slapped. But if that's a chance you're willing to take, I say try my method first.

Actually ... the young lady I'm interested in now has made it perfectly clear that she has a "Friends First" policy, because of the "walls" she has up. I'm cool with that, since I have "walls" myself.

But I think the best advice you've gotten is to just be yourself, and if it was supposed to happen, it'll happen. But read her signs - some women don't like to make the first move. Are you a romantic? If something unexpectedly romantic happens, she'll probably be OK with you kissing her, so go for it.

Or else, get a friend of yours to aggressively hit on her, and then "kick his ass" and she'll swoon because you "saved" her.

NOTE: I generally have no idea what I'm talking about, so take all of this with a grain of salt. The only thing I know for sure is that there's usually nothng wrong with "friends first."

[Dynamic Dee]

Sometimes you can't avoid it. If a girl isn't attracted to you, she will never see you as more than a friend. If she is attracted to you and either do something to turn her off or just take too long to make a move that can also put you in the "zone".

Every girl is different so there is no 1 thing that will work for all of them. Just be you and pay attention to the body language and signals she gives off to know how she is feeling about you. Just don't continue to pursue someone who already put you in the friend zone.

[Shiori C: WC Blue Moon Poster]

hitmanmark said:

If the girl digs that person, cool. If she "only wants to be friends" with that person, then what's the point in pursuing something more? If one party isn't interested at all in a relationship, then it'd be doomed from the start.

Pretty much what he said. That said, I married someone with whom I'd been friends for four years, so it can eventually go into mutual attraction. No point in forcing it, though, because that only ends in disaster.

[Libertine]

I haven't read the whole thread but just do and say what you want. I've been in these terrible, almost comical, situations. Some people treat their lives like bloody soap operas and I really have no time for it.

When I was in this position myself, I explained myself fully. How and what I felt and what I feel the next logical step should be. And you know, it worked and were together for 2 years.

Good luck, laddie.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

I don't really know, I got so friend zoneded, I am now closer than family and she says I'm like family.....and I live with her....and we're not sleeping together.

Total bummer.

[Lenny: Smooth like Keith Stone]

Well Bhester, there is a way to be certain that women won't be your friend yet you can have all the sex you want with them. Girls like this are called prostitutes! Here's a little song by Chef that describes this.

A prostitute is someone who would love you
No matter who you are, or what you look like.
Yes, it's true, children.

That's not why you pay a prostitute,
no, you don't pay her to stay,
you pay her to leave afterwards.

That's why I pays a lot for prostitutes!

Strippers work too.

[Bhester]

This has been another mindblowing post from Stokely Leon Kennedy

[Loki]

What if we end in the dreaded Friend's Zone because we don't have enough balls to say what we feel and rather take the backseat than step out of the car as we realize we won't (be able to) drive the car or that the car won't start?

After all, it's still better than walking away...

I've been living in the Friend's Zone for years, and I'm afraid I'm heading there again right now, even though I'm sending (and maybe receiving) messages. But those may as well be "friendship" signals... So uncertainty is a problem.

What I can't really understand is not how to avoid it (I've come to the solution that if she's not interested in me in that way, there's little chance to change things), but how to "live with it".

I mean: as long as there's uncertainty and a little hope, it's still easy. But when the truth is out, what's to do then?

A) Dropping the whole friendship and walking away is both childish and hypocritical.

B) Pretending like nothing happened hurts like hell, and it'll eventually take its toll, usually leading to the inevitable breakdown-downfall of the friendship.

C) Tuning the fellings to "friends only" is nearly impossible, yet long and painful as options B is, with probably the same consequences.

D) Slowly drifting away, because after all the friendship was only a cover?

That's the dilemma!