"I don't know what to say"..

[rrm15]

So, I had to move my senior year of high school and have, in general, been having a rough time. I can't get a job, find a car, fight with my parents a lot, don't have as many friends as I did in Texas, and the girl situation is tough.

Pretty much the only thing going for me is this girl I met (lets call her Sarah for future reference). Ever since I met her, she's just always been there for me, always makes me feel welcome, calls me, and is nicer to me than most people. So naturally, I started to have feelings for her.

Well, since September a lot has changed. When I first met her, she would flirt with me all the time but backed off when she learned I had a mild crush on another girl. When things didn't work out with her, I learned that Sarah had a boyfriend. This was in early November-ish. After the two of them were done, (mid December) me and her pretty much picked up where we left off, always flirting and talking.

Well, three days ago I got tired of playing games. So just up-front, I told her what she means to me and how much I like and care about her. Her response? "I don't know what to say."

So now I don't really know what else to do. I mean, I just put myself all the way out there for this girl, and the vibe I'm getting is that she cares about me but would rather date someone else (she has a date tommorow.) So idk what to do other than give her some space. This sucks.

[Lair of the Shadow MaDaBa]

Women, man.

[HRH The KING]

At least you told her.

You'd have felt worse probably if you never did.

[EvilMasterBetty, Esq.]

at least you got there. Any time i get that feeling, I try to ask them out, and they're "busy".

[Tyfo]

Texas is where its at man But ive been to Wash. and its not bad at all. In fact I have a friend from here that moved to Seattle when we were in middle school and he comes back here every summer and Christmas to stay with his grandparents and visit all his old friends.

Theres two ways you can go really. First, you could act like you never said anything and things will eventually go back to pretty near usual. Or, you could keep your distance and she how she will respond to what you said(sometimes it takes a while for them to get there thoughts together or some such shit).

[@TenaciousBe]

Hey, "I don't know what to say" is still better than a laugh in the face. She may have similar feelings but doesn't want to jump into anything this soon after her last boyfriend, so she wanted to give it some time? And the other date may just be that she wants to keep her "dating life" casual right now and not be too serious about anything. That's the vibe I'm picking up anyway. How much have you talked to her since that deal the other day?

[rrm15]

ibleedpurple said:

Hey, "I don't know what to say" is still better than a laugh in the face. She may have similar feelings but doesn't want to jump into anything this soon after her last boyfriend, so she wanted to give it some time? And the other date may just be that she wants to keep her "dating life" casual right now and not be too serious about anything. That's the vibe I'm picking up anyway. How much have you talked to her since that deal the other day?

Well, today she actually approached me and we made small talk for a while, she asked what my plans were for the weekend and stuff like that, but when this came up again she said she still didn't know what to say.

[EZ: Brainy Bae]

I'm figuring what you should have said was tell her your feelings and acknowledged that you know that her mind isn't too clear right now. ASomething like "I like you a lot yada yadda yadda .......... and I'll be here (and here's the key part) if you're ever willing and/or ready".

Eh, but what do I know. I'm not exactly doing too well myself right now.