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Post by Dynamite Kid on Mar 16, 2008 7:55:08 GMT -5
Don't be so judgmental, everyone. If you truly love somebody, you leave a door open for forgiveness in almost ANY situation. If you truly love somebody, you'd never cheat on them. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. I believe any given instance of cheating can be traced directly to either an obvious or subconscious dissatisfaction in the cheater's current relationship an a desire for something new. It's NEVER as simple as "sorry, I was drunk," or "I tripped and fell into her. Then out of her. Then into her again." It's as simple as "if you love ME, why was that not my wiener that was just in you?" It is rarely ever that simple. As a cheater who has been taken back, I know this for a fact. Situations are different every time and we can't just paint them all with one brush like a lot of people in this thread are.
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Mar 16, 2008 8:30:27 GMT -5
Probably would be over with me. Anything above a romantic kiss would end it and never go back. (Though I'm not sure how much one basic kiss counts as cheating but I could let it go depending on the situation.
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Post by Brick Killed a Guy on Mar 16, 2008 8:48:22 GMT -5
No. If someone cheats on me, she's not just disrespecting me, she's also showing she's not sure about our relationship.
If I take her back that mistake is gonna linger in the back of my head for a while. In other words, I too won't be so sure about our relationship. Regaining that trust won't be so easy, and I've found sometimes it's just not worth the time.
I say this as somebody whose dad cheated on his mom and whose ex brother-in-law cheated on his sister. So maybe that's why I'm more of a "one strike and you're out" kind of guy.
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Post by ellisdee on Mar 16, 2008 8:54:35 GMT -5
Hell no.
I'd go get drunk,then in a drunken state decide it's a good idea to go find the guy she cheated on me with and kick his ass and then regret in the morning but secretly love it 'cause i kicked his ass and can use being drunk as an excuse.
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Post by MiLo Duck on Mar 16, 2008 9:42:57 GMT -5
Loyalty is a top priority for me. If she is boning other guys, then she is nothing I ever want in my life. Betrayers are the lowest filth.
Yeah I'm bitter.
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Post by Jay Peas 42 on Mar 16, 2008 10:36:24 GMT -5
Well, it's like the hot blondes said, destroy their car with a baseball bat and then burn down their house. Then Maybe.
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Post by Bob Schlapowitz on Mar 16, 2008 11:13:04 GMT -5
Nope. Im not a kid anymore. Im 26, an adult, and am about to get married in May. If my fiance cheated it would be over. Change 26 to 30, and change May to October and you've got my answer.
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Post by Steve Corino Mark on Mar 16, 2008 11:49:29 GMT -5
Without hesitation. I guess we just have that type of bond.
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Post by Hensley on Mar 16, 2008 11:52:57 GMT -5
ahh a revenge smurf...... ha ha ha ha
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Post by Dynamite Kid on Mar 16, 2008 11:53:26 GMT -5
Dude, is that girl in your sig your girlfriend?
Because looking at her, I'd sure as hell take her back even if she cheated. Hell, if she cheated in front of me, during our dinner, on the table I was trying to eat off, I'd probably take her back still.
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Post by HMARK Center on Mar 16, 2008 13:40:42 GMT -5
No. If someone cheats on me, she's not just disrespecting me, she's also showing she's not sure about our relationship. If I take her back that mistake is gonna linger in the back of my head for a while. In other words, I too won't be so sure about our relationship. Regaining that trust won't be so easy, and I've found sometimes it's just not worth the time. I say this as somebody whose dad cheated on his mom and whose ex brother-in-law cheated on his sister. So maybe that's why I'm more of a "one strike and you're out" kind of guy. I do sympathize with your family's history (seriously, that sucks, I'm sorry to hear that), but, again, I'd just advise to be careful when painting with a broad brush. Some people are just completely unfaithful and dishonest, and could take years to change; that is, if they ever DO change. However, other people are better than that. Yes, they might make a mistake, or showcase poor judgment, or act immaturely in some way related to cheating, but that doesn't mean, again, that they can't change or put the work into fixing things. That's why it's a matter of the situation: it depends what kind of relationship you're in (i.e. casual, serious, engaged, married, etc.), and what kind of person you're dealing with. The best people in the world can sometimes display HIDEOUS judgment, but that doesn't make them awful people. Others may just be selfish, and they're the ones who it's incredibly hard to work things out with. There's also the factor in the original post of the cheater actually owning up and being honest about what they did. In my book, that gives a person MAJOR points. It means they respect me and care for me enough to admit straight to my face that they regret something they did, and are regretful for having potentially hurt me. Doesn't mean I wouldn't be angry with them for doing it, but it's like when you're a kid: your parents won't yell at you as much if you admit to breaking the window with the baseball, but you'll catch hell if you try to hide the evidence, instead.
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Post by wolfmoon103100 on Mar 16, 2008 13:49:01 GMT -5
I'ts not cheating if you are there too.
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Post by Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! on Mar 16, 2008 14:46:28 GMT -5
hmm... depends on what kind of cheating it is. I could see past her kissing another dude, but the moment someone else's dick is in her, it's over.
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Post by They Adam Bradley on Mar 16, 2008 18:59:52 GMT -5
ahh cheaters never win
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Post by HMARK Center on Mar 16, 2008 20:38:51 GMT -5
hmm... depends on what kind of cheating it is. I could see past her kissing another dude, but the moment someone else's dick is in her, it's over. I honestly don't distinguish that much. It's an unfaithful act, either way.
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Post by They Adam Bradley on Mar 17, 2008 14:08:21 GMT -5
exactly how i feel... some people may think a kiss isnt a big deal but if you love someone and are with someone, why would you kiss another?
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Post by Squirrel Master on Mar 17, 2008 15:29:10 GMT -5
I ask you all this: What should you do if your wife decides she no longer wants to show you love? From experience, I say, you acknowledge and move on, that's what. You find a girl who's eager to please, then it's out with the old and in with the new.
She will tell anyone that'll listen: "I threw his cheating ass out, the dirty dog!" My mindset: If you want to date multiple women, just do the honorable thing by leaving her.
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Post by darthalexander on Mar 17, 2008 15:31:57 GMT -5
I was cheated on, and I dumped her right away. Immediately after that I started to miss her because I was thinking about the good times and not the bad (which is stupid and dangerous to do). I took her back and we were together for about a week and then she dumped ME.
Later on I found out she had cheated on me again after we had gotten back together.
From that day on, I vowed to never take anyone back once they've cheated on me.
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Post by T.J. "the Crippler" Stevens on Mar 17, 2008 15:36:33 GMT -5
I did once. I couldn't help it. I loved her. We had been together for 4 years, split up because of it for 6 months, then got back together. Ultimately I broke it off with her again after another year because she was going to live at college and I felt that I couldn't trust her. It was a smart inclination. She cheated on her next boyfriend (with me) while he was in the dorm room right next door.
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Post by HMARK Center on Mar 17, 2008 18:42:44 GMT -5
I ask you all this: What should you do if your wife decides she no longer wants to show you love? From experience, I say, you acknowledge and move on, that's what. You find a girl who's eager to please, then it's out with the old and in with the new. She will tell anyone that'll listen: "I threw his cheating ass out, the dirty dog!" My mindset: If you want to date multiple women, just do the honorable thing by leaving her. Well, what you're talking about is a bit different. Dating two or more people at once isn't the same as mere physical cheating. If you're actively going out with multiple people, you're committing much more than just physical energy, you're actually engaging your emotional energy, as well as a lot more mental energy, as well. Like I've said before, I'd be much more upset if the person I was with was cheating on me in THIS way than if they had simply slept with another person some time.
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