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Post by Janitor From Mars on Jul 28, 2008 17:38:42 GMT -5
Eh I wouldn't recommend it if you are the jealous type.
Maybe it's her way of telling you that you aren't adequate enough in bed.
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Post by MiLo Duck on Jul 28, 2008 18:54:55 GMT -5
Say yes, but only if it's Samuel L. Jackson. Too true, because everyone knows anything he's in is like automatically worth a hundred million dollars!
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Post by CM Crünk is teh 'CRAP! on Jul 28, 2008 19:00:33 GMT -5
I would at least try it. If she wants to have sex with you and another man you should at least try it. Nothing wrong with trying it once.
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Post by Dr. T is an alien on Jul 28, 2008 19:02:22 GMT -5
I can't ask my friends... can I? Do you want to? I wouldn't. Pick up someone at a swingers' club or something. Don't get a friend involved, or it probably will not end well.
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Post by Johnny Danger (Godz) on Jul 28, 2008 19:18:09 GMT -5
Go for it, man. And if you can bring a bunch of girls into it, all the better. More easily said that done, believe me Thats what you think.......
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Jul 28, 2008 19:27:22 GMT -5
hey some people are different about their views on jealously. if he's comfortable with it then it shouldn't be a problem, if he's not however then he shouldn't go through with it. I completely understand that. Honestly, I do. I still have to stick to my sentiments though. I've been in both sides of the equation. Strangely enough, I've had no problems with it, and the current girlfriend hasn't either. Your logic doesn't apply to everyone, man, so simmer down. I'll also state that the remarks I'm seeing in this thread from people who've never so much as entertained the thought of doing something of this nature (at least, in a serious manner) are somewhat unsettling. Until you've been there, you can't really comment.
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Post by T.J. "the Crippler" Stevens on Jul 28, 2008 19:37:18 GMT -5
I completely understand that. Honestly, I do. I still have to stick to my sentiments though. I've been in both sides of the equation. Strangely enough, I've had no problems with it, and the current girlfriend hasn't either. Your logic doesn't apply to everyone, man, so simmer down. I'll also state that the remarks I'm seeing in this thread from people who've never so much as entertained the thought of doing something of this nature (at least, in a serious manner) are somewhat unsettling. Until you've been there, you can't really comment. I'm sorry. The thread didn't have a "Swingers Only" warning on it. Simmer down yourself, man. It's all cool. He asked. He got different answers. Now he can make up his own mind. Nobody's hurting anyone.
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Jul 28, 2008 19:40:56 GMT -5
I've been in both sides of the equation. Strangely enough, I've had no problems with it, and the current girlfriend hasn't either. Your logic doesn't apply to everyone, man, so simmer down. I'll also state that the remarks I'm seeing in this thread from people who've never so much as entertained the thought of doing something of this nature (at least, in a serious manner) are somewhat unsettling. Until you've been there, you can't really comment. I'm sorry. The thread didn't have a "Swingers Only" warning on it. Simmer down yourself, man. It's all cool. Naw, I'm not even referring to that. I'm referring to remarks that try to paint the picture as simply a matter of black and white. "Don't do it, you'll get jealous, no matter what!" or "Chicks only, man, otherwise it's weird!" and the ilk. Generally speaking, people have a little more to their emotions than two stages. It just seems that the moment the word "ménage à trois" (or your colloquial equivalent) entered into the conversation, people suddenly assumed that the emotions in these situations are black and white. Like anything involving a relationship, nothing could be further from the truth. EDIT: That's also why I didn't weigh in on the first page when I saw this earlier in the day...didn't seem prudent at the time.
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Post by T.J. "the Crippler" Stevens on Jul 28, 2008 19:48:45 GMT -5
I gothca. That's cool. I don't think anybody was trying to be a jerk. I just think people can only speak for their experiences and their feelings. I always try to make sure and add some kind of, "but that's just me" reminder when I offer commentary on a situation. But I really do think that most people around here mean that, even if they don't say it. We're all cool around here. Otherwise I wouldn't come asking for advice myself from time to time.
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Post by drjayphd (feat. Pitbull) on Jul 28, 2008 19:51:38 GMT -5
If you don't completely trust each other and everyone else involved to respect whatever boundaries you lay down (hint hint wink wink nudge nudge), this can only end badly. But if you do, well, have at it. Just make sure that she doesn't pick a guy you already have issues with (found this out the hard way)...
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Jul 28, 2008 20:26:23 GMT -5
For the record, I've enjoyed both versions. Take that for what you will, because I'm not putting much more info out here, lest I skirt too closely too the rules. PM me if you like...I can't guarantee how forthcoming I'll be, unless you ply me with liquor and Banjo's masculine looks.
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Post by Janitor From Mars on Jul 28, 2008 20:46:18 GMT -5
I'll also state that the remarks I'm seeing in this thread from people who've never so much as entertained the thought of doing something of this nature (at least, in a serious manner) are somewhat unsettling. Until you've been there, you can't really comment. I've been in a threesome with some other guy and his g/f. Does that count?
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Jul 28, 2008 20:51:02 GMT -5
The easiest way to do this is with a girl that you aren't in a relationship with, and a third partner that is arbitrary.
Since you are in a relationship... good luck.
If you can deal with another guy and your girl, go for it.
If you two have been together for a long time though, be careful. A lot of times, things disintegrate for long term relationships because of stuff like this.
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Post by CM Crünk is teh 'CRAP! on Jul 28, 2008 21:35:33 GMT -5
I'd take both because I'm Hardcore!
He's Hardcore! He's Hardcore! He's Hardcore!
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Post by Lair of the Shadow MaDaBa on Jul 28, 2008 21:55:51 GMT -5
After only reading a page-and-a-half, I've gotta say that you shouldn't do this. Well...sorta.
Swinging is fine. Threesomes, foursomes...they bring much-needed spice to a relationship, especially if the core couple loves each other. If it's two couples, just as good.
HOWEVER!
If you're thinking of bringing a third person into this relationship permanently, one specific person, and if you're thinking "Maybe they won't fall in love", you may as well just break up with your girlfriend now.
It's impossible. Plain and simple. I know that I have zero experience with relationships, but this is common sense. Your choices are:
A) Trinogamy. B) Threesomes with different partners, maybe inviting certain people back every now and again. C) Quit being delusional and go with what you've got. D) Break up now and get it over with.
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Post by domrep on Jul 28, 2008 22:33:15 GMT -5
I've done it once. I'm not that experienced in this field, but my girlfriend broke up with me about a month after. It was a mutual decision (experimenting with a threesome) and she got pissy because she thought I was falling for the other girl, so she broke it off.
If you're going to do it, you better be prepared for the fact that your relationship will change after it happens, and you may find out something about your girlfriend that you didn't know before.
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Post by The"threadicidal"bristolspapa on Jul 28, 2008 22:36:40 GMT -5
Also consider that if you two do go down this road, would she be tempted to engage with other partners when you're not around? Could be a pandora's box. How do you know her name is Pandora? Anyhow, Kenny, have you never seen/heard an episode of "Loveline." This never works out. First it's trysts like this, then it's whatever other envelope she can push. There have to be boundaries. You can't cross them, and then come back in because the cloud will always be hanging over you two. Sorry to spoil the "dude! foursome!" parade.
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Post by MiLo Duck on Jul 28, 2008 23:02:01 GMT -5
For the record, I've enjoyed both versions. Take that for what you will, because I'm not putting much more info out here, lest I skirt too closely too the rules. PM me if you like...I can't guarantee how forthcoming I'll be, unless you ply me with liquor and Banjo's masculine looks. The graphic sex stuff aside, how did it work out in a positive way for you? I admit I don't think it would be something I could deal with. I've never really heard much other than horror stories on the topic. How was the understanding and trust maintained at the beginning of adding new people to the equation and throughout? How did the additional people seem to take it? Did any get clingy? Were any rules set down before hand? I'm sure as the "pinch hitter" so to speak you could just be as involved as you like as its not your relationship. I'm more interested how a couple is able to do this and things not get strained. Sorry if I seem a little nosy, but I'm really fascinated by the logistics of it working for anyone from things I've heard. Thanks for your time, ignore me at your leisure.
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Post by Jay Peas 42 on Jul 28, 2008 23:20:54 GMT -5
Here's the real answer. You need to go on a vision quest. Go into the wilderness without shoes or provisions and meditate until Miz shows up. Miz will guide you to the Palace of Wisdom, where John Morrison will permit you one question. As he used to date Melina, who was supposedly into this kind of thing, but doesn't like Playboy, or something, he can answer the question, although his answer might be "I am so convincing Bradshaw that Bastista was trying to seduce Michelle McCool." Return to us afterwards and tell us what The Shaman of Sexy spake.
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Post by Non Banjoble Tokens on Jul 28, 2008 23:23:30 GMT -5
Alright, but whatever you do don't let her stick her thumb up your ass. If she does, don't ever let her know that you liked it.
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