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Post by The Genesis of KoOS on Jul 29, 2008 0:01:10 GMT -5
Oh...make sure the guy doesn't have a bigger package than you.
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Post by The OP on Jul 29, 2008 0:07:03 GMT -5
Even if it doesn't happen, your girlfriend is cool for being open enough to tell you she wants to do that, and you're cool for not being afraid of the idea. In fact, I envy you. I'm a little uptight about other guys. I think I'm kinda territorial, like a gorilla. I don't even like to have other males around, even most of my friends and almost all past roommates have been girls.
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Post by willywonka666 on Jul 29, 2008 6:33:18 GMT -5
ASL? I remember when Loveline was on MTV and a girl called in and asked if it would be an OK thing to do. Dr. Drew remarked that if it was just to experiment and play that it might be alright if the couple didn't have any children, otherwise it may be too complicated and risky. So if you really feel like trying it out, now would be the time I think. But you truly know if it's something you'd like to try-could be fun and as long as you're both on the same page then as far as I'm concerned it's worth trying out
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Jul 29, 2008 12:41:05 GMT -5
For the record, I've enjoyed both versions. Take that for what you will, because I'm not putting much more info out here, lest I skirt too closely too the rules. PM me if you like...I can't guarantee how forthcoming I'll be, unless you ply me with liquor and Banjo's masculine looks. The graphic sex stuff aside, how did it work out in a positive way for you? I admit I don't think it would be something I could deal with. I've never really heard much other than horror stories on the topic. How was the understanding and trust maintained at the beginning of adding new people to the equation and throughout? How did the additional people seem to take it? Did any get clingy? Were any rules set down before hand? I'm sure as the "pinch hitter" so to speak you could just be as involved as you like as its not your relationship. I'm more interested how a couple is able to do this and things not get strained. Sorry if I seem a little nosy, but I'm really fascinated by the logistics of it working for anyone from things I've heard. Thanks for your time, ignore me at your leisure. Naw, it's cool. I'd rather people ask questions about this sort of thing rather than having knee jerk reactions. Essentially, like anything involving relationships, I've found that communication is key. After that, everything will fall into place. If trust and honesty can't be maintained through open and frank discussion of the situations, then it's easy for ulterior motives to creep in. Now keep in mind, I'd been far more sexually active than my girlfriend than my girlfriend at the point, and had already participated in some of the activities mentioned here with the ex, as well as some others from my man-whore days, so I'd been around the block and was willing to entertain more thoughts. Not having a traditional view of sex and love also helped both of us, since we'd be more open to seeing the consequences that would (and would not) happen. Again, it all stems from communication. I also tend to keep it quietly to myself most times. There are a few close friends who know about my...erm...sexually "liberal" past, but for the most part, I find that anyone who needs to brag about their sexual exploits needs to find a severe amount of maturity about the situation and their relationships with other people. There's a lot of responsibility in those situations, for both parties, and things can go south quickly if the maturity isn't there to facilitate the open communication. Anything further should probably be moved to PM talk.
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Post by darthalexander on Jul 29, 2008 13:03:39 GMT -5
I would say to tread carefully. Porn is one thing, reality is much different. Look at it from all angles, judge how you feel and take it from there but do be prepared for anything. Anytime sex gets involved with anything it can have wildly unpredictable results.
If you do decide to do it because deep down inside you are ok with it, then do it. If you have the slightest doubt in your mind then I wouldn't if I were you because it may become really ugly. Don't let yourself be guilted into it, or pleaded into it, etc...
And sometimes a fantasy is great...but when done for real....not.
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Post by CM Crünk is teh 'CRAP! on Jul 29, 2008 13:04:28 GMT -5
I heard Threesomes are the best ever!
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Jul 29, 2008 13:22:34 GMT -5
And sometimes a fantasy is great...but when done for real....not. This particular remark is one of the most insightful things I've read in a long time. From the emotional standpoint, it certainly holds true. And insofar as the physical aspect goes, it certainly can hold true. The biggest problem with these situations is that unlike porn, you can't be, observe, or take in all three individuals at once (no pun intended). Take that for what you will. I heard Threesomes are the best ever! They certainly can be, Young Grasshopper.
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Post by darthalexander on Jul 29, 2008 13:31:42 GMT -5
I will tell you this: I had a fantasy once about something and I actually did get to live it out. It was awesome during the fact, but afterwards it was extremely awkward (to say the least).
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Post by Evil Jan Otto on Jul 29, 2008 13:36:05 GMT -5
I just wish my girlfriend would let me have twosomes first. V_V
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Post by willywonka666 on Jul 29, 2008 14:17:41 GMT -5
If she's been willing to try different wild things before, I'd say this is legit and if you're willing-go for it
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