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Post by harleyracesshome on Jul 4, 2010 20:54:58 GMT -5
Anyone ever been in one? I have for two years, but now she's coming here to go to school so we can finally be together for real. Met her here in KC while she was in the work abroad program from Thailand. The distance sucked but i got to visit her in Bangkok last year which was awesome. Guess it doesn't get much more "long distance" then that.
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Post by Clarence "Showstealer" Mason on Jul 4, 2010 20:58:47 GMT -5
I have been a couple, and I hope I'm wrong with you dude but I'm betting relationship failure is around the corner
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Post by DiBiase is Good on Jul 4, 2010 21:06:37 GMT -5
Yep. I met her at this very board. I lived in the UK, she lived in Texas. We got married 3 years ago after doing the long-distance thing for a couple of years and we're still married.
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Post by harleyracesshome on Jul 4, 2010 21:07:42 GMT -5
Nahh, we've been through a lot of drama, both of us fooled around on each other, but when it was all said and done we always came back to each other. She sold her 2009 Honda Civic and most of her stuff just to be near me , so i know she wants to be with me as much as i do her, we're both 100% committed. I know most long distance relationships don't work, but this one is kinda different. She took me home to meet her family, i was the first guy she ever brought to her house and lived with, parents love me like another child, even though they don't speak english, lol. Now that we're gonna live together, the distance is gone and we can be happy. Distance was always the main problem causer in our relationship
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Post by Bob Schlapowitz on Jul 4, 2010 21:17:31 GMT -5
DiG is the only success story involving and LDR that I'm aware of, and more power to him. I've been in one before, and I wouldn't do it again.
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Post by Brain Of F'n J on Jul 4, 2010 21:21:15 GMT -5
DiG is the only success story involving and LDR that I'm aware of, and more power to him. I've been in one before, and I wouldn't do it again. Make it two success stories, Bob. Met online while I lived in Oregon and she lived in Michigan. Met online in March 2001 ... met in person in June 2001 ... proposed in August 2001 ... I moved to Michigan a month later. We just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary this past Monday, and have twin four year old sons. Jed Shaffer ~Here's what you need to know: if the subject of moving makes either of you say "eh, I don't know ...", you're doomed. If one of you is willing without question, you've got a shot.
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Post by harleyracesshome on Jul 4, 2010 21:22:22 GMT -5
Yeah, i met her in person first. I don't think i could ever do the internet thing, but then again i never thought i would be in a long distance relationship either
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Post by bob on Jul 4, 2010 21:24:18 GMT -5
been in 1 and it killed the relationship......she started her new college and forgot about me
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Post by "Playboy" Don Douglas on Jul 4, 2010 21:38:39 GMT -5
Been in one. Then she suddenly showed up at my door uninvited with no place to stay.
I tried, but it only worked for about 6 months after that. Currently, I'm about 1 step down from a hermit.
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Post by Bob Schlapowitz on Jul 4, 2010 21:40:55 GMT -5
Okay, TWO success stories. DiG and Jed.
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Post by metylerca on Jul 4, 2010 21:59:42 GMT -5
Hate them.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2010 22:02:17 GMT -5
These things rarely work out, congratulations to anyone that made it work, but I'll never do that again.
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Post by domrep on Jul 4, 2010 22:12:40 GMT -5
I'm not sure if I'm getting into one or not. It seems that way, but I really like this girl. A lot. She lives in Albany, and I live in DC. Driving, it's about 8 hours, flying, it's about an hour and the flights are cheap. We'll see where it goes.
I don't do long distance relationships. They never work. A co-worker once told me a long distance relationship is fine but you immediately start thinking about the future and how one of you will have to decide who's moving to where. It's tough. Kudos to those who have made it work.
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Post by mattperiolat on Jul 4, 2010 22:45:42 GMT -5
I sort of did one. Knew her from a message board, bumped into her in person at a convention, met up once in 2002 at Disneyland, kept in touch, in 2005 I decided I wanted to be more serious, started dating between CA and Minnesota, popped the question in 2006, moved to KY, she came down and joined me and we made it four years before she moved back home last November. We're still in touch and still friendly, but I wouldn't ask her to come back unless we both got counciling and we're both wanting to really try this again. We failed last time because we took each other for granted and stopped trying to make the relationship grow. Got too insular. Plus, my Aspergers and temper combined with her shyness and fibromyalgia made things tough.
And the hell of it all? I still love her with all my heart.
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Post by I Like Your Poetry on Jul 4, 2010 22:47:05 GMT -5
Was in a long-term relationship (about a year and a half), that got incredibly worse and eventually ended when the long-distance component came into play. (We were at the same college, and then I went away to the Caribbean for med school, so we were apart for a few months before both deciding to end it the same night.)
Here's the deal: It's very possible for it to work out. But you both have to be completely committed, honest with each other, and both willing to work very hard to make it work.
Without all of those three components, you might as well decide to mutually end it because it's only going to cause anger, misery, and resentment.
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Post by Kris Kobain on Jul 5, 2010 0:03:10 GMT -5
Yeah I'm in one right now and she's talking about moving here because we hate it. She has nothing tying her down so it's quite possible.
Two of my friends met on myspace and ended up getting married. One lived in Virginia and one in Las Vegas. They couldn't be happier.
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Post by Phosphor Glow on Jul 5, 2010 0:14:06 GMT -5
Another success story here.
I've been in a few long distance relationships in the past, but none of them ever really worked, even though I met a couple of them in real life.
However, my fiancee and I met online, talked for about a year, decided to start dating, and then I moved here with her. So yeah. It can work.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2010 1:59:41 GMT -5
I've been in two "temporary" lobg distance relationships that worked out.
When my GF and I were moving from Virginia to Tennessee, I went first and she came about 3 or 4 months later. We did break up about 3 years later, but it had nothing to do with that situation.
My wife joined the Air Force, and while she was in Basic, a hurricane destroyed her school she was supposed to go to afterward. They kept her at the base for several months before finding her another suitable job that both parties could agree on. When it was all said and done, aside from a 2 day visit when she graduated basic, I hadn't seen my wife for 7 months, and when we reunited it was in another state that neither of us had ever been to. It worked out though, here it is 5 years later and we're happier than ever.
I think it's just a matter ofdifferent things working for different people.
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Post by Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster on Jul 5, 2010 4:31:59 GMT -5
I had one with a 17 old schoolgrl who lived in wellington (captal of NZ) during my first year of university. She was a nice girl but when I actually got around to meeting her, I decided to end it knowing full well that the relationship was doomed to fail.
Safe to say that she hated my guts for the next serveral years after that.
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Post by quantum on Jul 5, 2010 5:23:00 GMT -5
DiG is the only success story involving and LDR that I'm aware of, and more power to him. I've been in one before, and I wouldn't do it again. I am in one as well ;D Or was in one met her on Internet chat room January 2008 and moved in together May 2008 (I moved from Scotland to midlands/England) and we have since moved again to a different area. It's been two and a half years and I would most definitely say we have been/are in a successful relationship. It all depends in the people involved and realizing they may have been talking for months or years on the intent/over phone and going for weekends to stay togther etc however the real work and the real relationship stars as you start to really know the person when you live together long term. It's also a age gap relationship Iam in also as my girl is 15 years older than me. However that rarely comes up (athough it did in the early days) and is not something we think about or talk about often.
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