Is this absurd or am I being insensitive

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So I just started dating this woman who last night told me that if I was watching a movie with nudity or a sex scene I should turn my head and not watch. I told her I did watch and asked what she did. She said she turns away since the only one she wants to see is me. She then went on to tell me if I see these images I'll automatically think of this woman in a lustful way. Which I told her wasn't true as it's just a scene and it's not like I'm watching porn. I told her that by her logic that if I watched someone get shot then that would mean I would want to go out and shoot someone. So she got mad and thought I was disregarding her feelings which I'm not, but I don't see how this could be something to be upset about. I understand all women have self-image issues but this to me is ludicrous to expect me a grown adult to act like a child and turn my head at an adult scene. I did try to explain to her that I felt insulted by what she said and she stopped talking to me for an hour. Then we were fine until she threw it back in my face an hour later. I just dropped it as I didn't want to get back into it. But am I being insensitive to her feelings or am I right in finding this absurd?

[Deleted]

Tell her shes no longer allowed to watch cooking channels because it will make her turn into Matt Hardy with her way of thinking

["Hollywood" Cactus Matt]

Jan 11, 2011 10:14:55 GMT -5 @slickrickstyles said:

Tell her shes no longer allowed to watch cooking channels because it will make her turn into Matt Hardy with her way of thinking

And then tell her she's not allowed to watch any Harry Potter movies because she'll try to cast a spell on you.


And then dump her. She sounds like she's nuttier than a Payday bar.

[FrankGotch]

GET OUT NOW! Bitch be crazy.

Seriously though this lady doesn't sound like someone that you should look for a long term relationship with. She is either crazy, extremely immature, or a drama queen. If I had to guess from the little information you given I'd say she suffers from a healthy dose of all three. Cut ties and don't look back.

[DrBackflipsHoffman]

She sounds stone cold insane, or at the very least has deeply flawed logic

[Deleted]

She's mental, run far away and fast.

[Legion]

I'll play devil's advocate and try to defend her.

This is sorta sweet in a way. She wants to only think of you, and wants you to only think of her. Yeah, sure, it's just a scene in a show, but of course if the girl doing the sex is hot, you probably at least flash the idea 'she's hot', and your girl wants you to be thinking that only about her.

Yeah, that doesnt make much sense, she's just a bit crazy. Unless you really like her, might be best to run away.

[FrankGotch]

Jan 11, 2011 10:40:34 GMT -5 Legion said:

I'll play devil's advocate and try to defend her.

This is sorta sweet in a way. She wants to only think of you, and wants you to only think of her. Yeah, sure, it's just a scene in a show, but of course if the girl doing the sex is hot, you probably at least flash the idea 'she's hot', and your girl wants you to be thinking that only about her.

Yeah, that doesnt make much sense, she's just a bit crazy. Unless you really like her, might be best to run away.

Thats not sweet in any way. Its abnormal, controlling, and obsessive.

[Back to being Cenanuff]

Is she hot?

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Jan 11, 2011 10:45:31 GMT -5 FrankGotch said:

Jan 11, 2011 10:40:34 GMT -5 Legion said:

I'll play devil's advocate and try to defend her.

This is sorta sweet in a way. She wants to only think of you, and wants you to only think of her. Yeah, sure, it's just a scene in a show, but of course if the girl doing the sex is hot, you probably at least flash the idea 'she's hot', and your girl wants you to be thinking that only about her.

Yeah, that doesnt make much sense, she's just a bit crazy. Unless you really like her, might be best to run away.

Thats not sweet in any way. Its abnormal, controlling, and obsessive.

Not to mention that he says he just started dating her recently.

[Deleted]

Is this girl 12 or something?

Pedophilia isn't cool Jeffx

[Throwback]

My Brother used to date a chick like that. Made him throw out his playboys. Which were celebrity editions, that's why he kept them. Then one day I just asked her. "Would you rather him fulfill his curiosity by looking at paper and a tv screen or would you rather he do it with a real person?"

She said "neither"
I said "OK, but speaking as a guy, I can tell you he's eventually gonna want to see another set of boobs, and you'll have to blame yourself that he couldn't just open a box and look at some wrestling chick naked in a magazine"

[EvenBaldobombHasAJob]

run. fast. I saw Audition, I know how this ends.

[Deleted]

I didn't want to provide too much information but she does have some self-confidence issues. I do really care for her but I've been in this kind of relationship before and it was a pain.

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Jan 11, 2011 10:51:55 GMT -5 @personman01 said:

Is this girl 12 or something?

Pedophilia isn't cool Jeffx

LOL! No she's not 12.

["Hollywood" Cactus Matt]

Jan 11, 2011 11:05:26 GMT -5 @jeffx said:

I didn't want to provide too much information but she does have some self-confidence issues. I do really care for her but I've been in this kind of relationship before and it was a pain.

She needs to work out her own issues before being in a relationship. And, no offense, you might have issues to work on, too. (we all do, to some extent.) Either way, you need to cut ties, no matter how much you care about her. In fact, I can think of no better way to show that you care than by suggesting that she gets the help she needs. If it works out in the end, it's beautiful; if not, at least she's in a better place mentally and emotionally.

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Jan 11, 2011 11:22:16 GMT -5 "Hollywood" Cactus Matt said:

Jan 11, 2011 11:05:26 GMT -5 @jeffx said:

I didn't want to provide too much information but she does have some self-confidence issues. I do really care for her but I've been in this kind of relationship before and it was a pain.

She needs to work out her own issues before being in a relationship. And, no offense, you might have issues to work on, too. (we all do, to some extent.) Either way, you need to cut ties, no matter how much you care about her. In fact, I can think of no better way to show that you care than by suggesting that she gets the help she needs. If it works out in the end, it's beautiful; if not, at least she's in a better place mentally and emotionally.

I agree I have my own issues and that's cool. I'll admit my own faults. I'll confront her about this and see what happens. But yeah I don't have much confidence on this matter. Thanks everyone for your advice.

[Munkie91087]

Depends on where she falls in the hot crazy scale.

[biafra]

She won't get any saner the deeper you get into the relationship, that is for sure. I'd back away slowly.

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Jan 11, 2011 10:40:34 GMT -5 Legion said:

I'll play devil's advocate and try to defend her.

This is sorta sweet in a way. She wants to only think of you, and wants you to only think of her. Yeah, sure, it's just a scene in a show, but of course if the girl doing the sex is hot, you probably at least flash the idea 'she's hot', and your girl wants you to be thinking that only about her.

Yeah, that doesnt make much sense, she's just a bit crazy. Unless you really like her, might be best to run away.

Its completely unnatural to deny these urges. Its how we act on them that sits us apart from other animals in the wild. Situations like this is what leads to unhealthy obsessions with someone. No way I could date a girl that is worried that im gonna go off and bang some random celebrity because I enjoyed a sex scene.

You should make her watch "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" that show would probably make her have a nervous breakdown due to it being stimulating eyecandy to both sexes